Do What Makes Sense

Today's message is simple: Do What Makes Sense. So many times, people make life more complicated than necessary, which explains why many people are confused about which way to go, what decision to make regarding your career, the person to marry, etc. I try my best to simplify life as much as possible, so that's why I have a motto: Do What Makes Sense. If I'm living in a major city and my job is located in the city center, it would make sense for me to live downtown so I can walk the 2-3 blocks to work. It doesn't make sense for me to live in another part of town, then have to fight traffic commuting to downtown for work. The only exception is if my finances wouldn't allow for downtown living. I'd still find a spot that's in close proximity to my job. I would pay more in rent because of convenience, but I would be close to nightlife, my job, sporting events (many stadiums are located in city centers), with easy access to other parts of the city. Life can be as complicated, or as easy as you make it. The motto of "Do What Makes Sense" applies to all walks of life.

If you're looking to marry, the first thing you look at is compatibility. No one is going to marry someone they're not compatible with, that's bonkers. If you're chill, and your spouse is the "turn-up" type, wouldn't it make sense to not get involved with them? You two vibe together very well, but you can't get past their "turn-up" personality. Every day, they have to go out. You want to spend time at home with your spouse, but they would rather go out & party every night. That's grounds for fussing. There's nothing that good outside the home where you have to be out & about all the time. Facebook has this meme circulating: There's nothing sexier than a woman who knows how to keep her behind home. It gets no better. It makes perfect sense to marry a likeminded person, because those are the best relationships. A spender & saver would not work out because one person wants to spend as soon as they get a little change, the other wants to stack money because of a rainy day. There's nothing worse than an emergency coming up, and you don't have the money.
In conclusion, always remember to do what makes sense, whether it's choosing a degree to study or choosing a (wo)man o build a good life with. If something doesn't sound right, chances are it doesn't make sense and you don't need to go that route.


I Dislike...

Today's message is going to deal with my dislikes. This is going to be good, so let's get to it.

1. I dislike sex hounds. You know men who are obsessed with what's between a woman's legs. 

2. So women won't date a man who works at McDonald's. As hard as it is to find a decent job, a man would be wise not to entertain such women. She'd be checking for him if he worked in McD's corporate.

3. Just because someone's not in a relationship, doesn't mean they have "issues". That's that stupid stuff I don't like.

4. Opposites DO NOT attract. Ex: A saver and spender can't have a good relationship because one wants to spend, and the other wants to save.

5. I fail to understand the benefit of marriage as it relates to moving up in the corporate world. I would think at some point, your professional and family life will conflict.

6. A good spouse can make or break you.

7. You don't have to be married to be successful in ministry. Case In Point: Bishop Noel Jones & his "special friend" Loretta.

8. I dislike suck-ups. 

9. I dislike all these so-called "reality" shows coming out. Everybody and their mama has a reality show coming out.

10. I dislike how biased employers are towards those with disabilities. Everybody has a handicap. As long as they're qualified, learn to overlook some stuff.

11. I understand why some parents homeschool their children. Public schools have gone downhill because you have students that don't want to be there, so they cause trouble for the kids who want to learn.

12. I dislike the rationale some people have against homeschool: "The kids will miss out on the social aspect" Kids can still get the social aspect by joining neighborhood clubs, and they'll be in a structured environment.

Christian Sex

Biblical Sexing

Sex has been considered a taboo subject in church. Very few pastors are willing to tackle this issue because they don't want to seem worldly. In a way, I understand because some Christians are conservative, and there are subjects that just aren't discussed in Christian homes. On the flip side, God created sex to be enjoyed in the confines of marriage. There's nothing like a couple expressing their affection with a sacred act. After all, God did create sex and how do you think any of us got here? Our (grand)parents came together, and the rest was history. Sex has been around since Biblical times, so this article was right on target. The reason why many Christian leaders won't discuss sex is because society has tainted sex. The sex industry makes billions annually, so it attracts those with ill motives. I think Christians shouldn't be afraid to keep it real about the subject of sex. Don't be afraid to have frank discussion about satisfying sexual relations between Christian married couples. In my opinion, all bets are off when it comes to sex between Christian couples. If a couple's married, there should be no hangups about what kind of sex you engage in. God did invent sex, didn't he? Of course he did. If (s)he has conflicting styles of sex, they can find a way to combine desires so that both parties can feel fulfilled. It's not just about the man getting his, the woman must get hers. When both feel fulfilled, that couple looks forward to more encounters because both are ready & willing.

Friendships Between Preachers Wives

I was watching Preachers Of L.A. on Wednesday night, when this subject came up: Can First Ladies be good friends? If you've followed the show, you have Bishop Ron Gibson and his wife Lavette, Minister Deitrick & Dominique Haddon, Pastor Wayne & Myesha Chaney, Bishop Clarence & Priscilla McClendon, Pastors Jay & Christy Haizlip. During last season, there was an episode where Lady Myesha invited all the wives to her tea party. All the ladies chopped it up, and got to know each other pretty well. They discussed the struggles they face as preachers wives, and they seemed to get along. I think preachers wives can become good friends because they have a lot in common. Their husbands are ministers so by default, the wives are able to identify with the struggles of being a preacher's wife. Preacher's wives have an insight that regular wives don't have when it comes to being involved in the ministry.

Just because I think preachers' wives can become good friends, doesn't mean caution should be thrown to the wind. Just like worldly women can be catty, so can preachers' wives. Yes, a minister's wife is to set herself apart from a worldly woman, but a minister's wife isn't immune to occasional screw-ups. Here's my thing: It shouldn't matter if one minister is more famous than another, they're all doing God's work, so there's no need for one wife to undermine another minister's ministry. You have some preachers wives that will get close to another wife just to find out how popular a minister may be. If she feels threatened by another minister's success, she's going to be slighted because she believes her husband deserves the spotlight. When the shade is thrown, look out. Why do you think Loretta (Bishop Noel Jones' "special friend") caught major shade from the other wives? They believe Loretta should marry Bishop Noel Jones.

In conclusion, preachers wives are able to identify with each other's struggles, because they're in it together. There's nothing like being able to relate to someone when you're going through rough times because they're going down that road with you. If preachers' wives are going to become friends, it should be with the understand that they have each other's back, and most of all their husband's.

Being A Ho Is Embraced

I remember being a ho was a badge of shame, now it's embraced. Some (wo)men are proud to be ho's.  These are the same people that are ready to fight if someone calls them that. You're the one screaming about being proud of being a ho, you're the one who chose to be a loose (wo)man, so you have to accept that others won't co-sign your decision. As crazy as this sounds, I respect ho's that embrace that lifestyle. They don't care what others think, they do what feels right for them. All I'm saying is if you're going to be a ho, be prepared to deal with the repercussions. You have no right to get upset at people for calling you what you agree to. True, it's none of anyone's business how someone chooses to live their life, but people will always have something to say about how someone chooses to live, good or bad. The remedy is to NOT give them a reason. Women aren't the only ho's, men have surpassed women in promiscuity.

It's expected for men to sleep around because most men are coochie hounds. Their lives revolve around sex, and that's sad. When the women get pregnant, he wants to bellyache about child support. Men weren't upset when they were hitting that, so why switch up now? Be honest, how many women would be cool with a man knocking them up and not demanding he take responsibility for that child? I rest my case. These days, women find every reason to put a man on child support. If men don't want baby mama drama, they should stop chasing after cooch. That's too much like right for some men, because many of them are driven by cootacat. Their lives would end if a woman wouldn't give him any. Women have more power than they realize. Men are willing to wine & dine, to kill for what's between a woman's legs. In conclusion, both genders need to realize there's more to life than sexing. What used to be frowned upon, has become acceptable. If you can embrace whoredom, you embrace judgment from others.

Straight From The Heart

1. Honestly, some people are so damaged that they don't deserve love. They would find a way to sabotage the blessing God has sent in their lives.

2. Some people refuse to be happy, no matter how much you encourage them. The best thing you can do is pray for them and leave them to God. Only God can fix issues.

3. Sometimes, a good (wo)man is sent in your life to help you be a better (wo)man for someone else.

4. Once upon a time, being a side woman was frowned upon, now that's embraced. #TimesHaveChanged

5. No matter how you slice it, a woman will always be looked down on for having multiple sex partners. 

6. Contrary to popular belief, a man ho is just as worse. There's no telling what some of these fass women are carrying, and he's gonna stick his beefcake in her.

7. It's funny that people have no use for you, once you stop letting people use you. Good riddance.

8. Mama Dee (Love & Hip Hop Atlanta) is taking this palace thing a little too serious. Bless her heart.

9. Just because a man is successful and educated, has his stuff together and wants to remain single, doesn't mean he's afraid of committment. He sees the poor character that some women possess, and would rather not deal.

10. Seriously, the violence in Chicago is getting to be too much. Can't Chicago officials get a handle on the violence? I see why Chicago is called Chiraq.

11. You're likely to get more out of God's word if you do independent study combined with corporate worship.

12. I don't care how it's done, but Tallahassee needs to find a way to bring big corporations here. This way , we retain our college graduates. We've suffered from brain drain for far too long.

I'm so Miami & Tallahassee

The "I'm So" is a game going on Facebook where people share memories of their hometown(s).

1. I'm so Tallahassee that I remember Putt-Putt Golf behind Tallahassee Mall

2. I'm so Tallahassee, Frenchtown was the "hood." Bars, homeless folks, drugs and violence in those projects on 4th Ave.

3. I'm so Tallahassee, I remember a murder at Rickards High in '93.

4. I'm so Tallahassee, Rampage Fitness was a true weightlifting gym. It was a hole in the wall gym in the back of a strip mall next to YouFit on N.Monroe.

5. I'm so Tallahassee, Leonard Brown (Boobie Boys gang member from Miami) was captured in Tallahassee. That was big news in the 90's.

6. I'm so Tallahassee, people were scared to come on the Southside because the crime was so bad.

7. I'm so Tallahassee, Carman (Christian artist) used to come here a lot.

8. I'm so Tallahassee, Tallahassee Mall was an actual mall.

9. I'm so Tallahassee, I remember the old WCTV 6 logo.

10. I'm so Tallahassee, I remember going to Ryan's Steakhouse after church every Sunday.

Miami:

1. I'm so Miami, I remember Studio 183 in Carol City. That was the sight for Miami Nights.

2. I'm so Miami, I remember the old Carol City high school on 187th.

3. I'm so Miami, Luke used to promote his music riding through Liberty City in that lime green van.

4. I'm so Miami, 15th Ave. was live with black business. Luke and Uncle Al used to throw block parties all the time on the Ave.

5. I'm so Miami, I remember when Nann first came out on 99 Jamz. Everybody from Liberty City would play that song non-stop.

6. I'm so Miami, I remember Seminola. The old, get money gangsters from Liberty City know about Seminola. A lot of Hialeah black folks went to school with Cubans who had "work" (drugs).

7. I'm so Miami, a group of Hialeah dudes used to ride their bikes straight to Liberty City.

8. I'm so Miami, I remember Trina being a stripper at several Miami strip joints.

9. I'm so Miami, South Beach was the ghetto. It suffered from poverty and crime.

10. I'm so Miami, the Boobie Boys (The media called the crew that.  The group was called Matchbox, named for the Matchbox projects that used to be on 199th in Carol City, then they got torn down.) John Does and Vonda's gang turned Miami into a warzone. They did battle for prized drug turf in Liberty City and Overtown. The John Does controlled a substantial portion of the drug scene in Liberty City & Overtown.

11. I'm so Miami, Sun Life Stadium was called Joe Robbie Stadium and then Pro Player Stadium.

12. I'm so Miami, Uncle Al's block parties brought Miami's black community together.

13. I'm so Miami, Miami-Dade Community college was an actual junior college.