Using Your Talent(s)

Everyone has at least one talent, something they're good at. Some people have multiple talents so for them, they have to devote equal time to each talent so it won't go to waste. What burns me up is people that have talents and DON'T USE THEM. How can anyone sit on their talent and not use it? That's silly to me. When God gives you gifts, you're supposed to use them for his glory. For example, my gift is writing so that's why I set up this blog website so I can give my stance on various issues. Ever since I built my blog website, it's 5300+ page views and counting and I've had it a year! The vision I have for my blog website is to market it for $$$ once I get my page views up to 10,000 or more. So far I'm well on my way to the 10,000 mark. If you don't use your talent, it will go to waste or it will be passed on to your child(ren) for them to utilize to the fullest. I understand that some people may not want to market their talent for $$$ and that's ok; some people use their talent as a hobby. Maybe some people don't use their talent because they're scared of rejection, others don't use their talent because they don't know how to effectively market their gift for profit, who knows. All I know is if I had multiple talents and didn't use them, I'm doing myself a disservice because I didn't tap into what God has blessed me with. I tell God periodically: When I stand before Him, I hope I don't have a single talent left because I used every ability for your glory. The people who don't use their talent(s) usually become envious of those who are using their talent(s) and profiting off their skill. Well, if they had the same confidence in their skills, they would be successful with their talent(s). Proverbs 18:16, NKJV- A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men.

Simping vs. Genuine Interest

There's no such thing as simping for a woman sometimes, there is no such thing as simping for the right woman. There's a big difference in doing things for your lady because she's doing for you, and simping. If you are disrespecting yourself as a man, it's simping. If you're investing more in her than she is in you, you are simping. If you treat her like she is your queen but you're not treated like her king, but a peasant, you're simping. I said it once, I'll say it again, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH TAKING CARE OF SOMEONE WHO TAKES CARE OF "YOU" You have to be stupid to want to get rid of a woman who actually wants to make you happy and that's real. And ladies you are equally stupid to want a man beneath you and got the nerve to call yourself a strong woman. A queen is NOTHING without her King. Why do some people go hard for those who aren't checking for them? That's silly to me. If I'm interested in a woman, don't you think it would make more sense to seek out someone who's equally interested? Most men don't think that way, they pull out all the stops on women that could care less about them and that's what leads some men into bitterness. As stated in a previous commentary, many women seek out men who offer them the world when she doesn't have a passport. That's their perogative but they wouldn't run that on discerned men because a discerned man will flip the script on a woman in a second. Someone who knows their worth will ALWAYS want to know what (s)he is bringing to the table. Some people forget that relationships go both ways, BOTH parties give & take. If one person is doing all the giving and taking, something's wrong. Some of these relationship mindsets confirm my belief that I won't be missing out if I don't want a relationship. Just like a prospective man has to prove himself worthy of a special lady, she has to prove herself worthy of queen treatment. Anything less is uncivilized.

Tighten Up Men, Pt. 2

Black American men have to get ourselves together. Black men becoming successful in many different arenas is the only thing black American women will submit to, just like every American woman. Black American women will sell their souls to the devil to be recognized for anything, even if it is for their sexuality or their ability to look like fools. It's a shame how desperate some Black American women are. Educated black men can run America if we stop putting all of our focus on Black American women's personal issues.

Tighten Up Men

If you're a man, but you are making excuses to do things that a man should do, then what you're going through should happen to you because you would rather exchange your position to think & be like a little boy. No man should never sacrifice his freedom to think, or his life to be a fool! I hate when men make excuses for why they can't do this or that so that is why I chose this route. What a clown! Do you not realize that when you chase a certain lifestyle, you are condemning yourself for the worst? Look at what it has done for you, think about where has it gotten so far. 1 Corinthians 13:11 says "When I was a child, I spoke and reasoned as a child, but when I became a man, I put away childish things" That verse should be a wake-up call to all men to put away childish antics. I can't stand to see a grown man acting like a child; really. If a man talks about another man behind his back, not only is that feminine but childish as well because a man will bring his beef directly to another man's face, not gossip like a female. He might as well go to the strip club and slide down a pole. If a man is making excuses for his behavior such as "she made me do it" or "everyone else is doing it" then he needs to check the company he's rolling with because as the old adage goes, "You are the company you keep" Even though a man may roll with foul people, he should have his own mind NOT to go along with what everyone else is doing. Like our parents used to say when they asked us why we did something and our response was "Everyone else is doing it": If everyone jumped off the cliff would you do it too? For men that have children, they should be extra careful because their children will follow his example, NOT  his words.

Leading By Example

As with everything else, people learn by example rather than words. That's why there's the saying "Lead By Example" You can tell someone to do this, that and the third but if you're not doing it yourself, it's useless because people pay attention to your example rather than what you say. Fathers are no different because like this picture says, his son will one day follow his example instead of his advice. Advice combined with a good example yields a great return. For example, a father tells his son to treat women with respect but his son sees him treating his mother foul. That child will grow up thinking it's ok to disrespect women based on the example set for him. Conversely, if his son sees him showing love to his mom, he'll grow up with the proper understanding of how to treat women. It boils down to example; what example are fathers setting for their sons? Is it a good or bad example?

Play It How It Go

This is another one of those stupid quotes some women like to use. First off, men invented the rules of the game so you can't beat the originator. Some of them need to learn this. Second, personally I'm not about playing games. I tell it straight up what I expect from her and what I can add to her life; the rest is on her. It never ceases to amaze me how many quotes/pictures some women can come up with. Yes, a man should do right by his woman but to threaten him with "treat me like a game and I'll show you how it's played" signals a vindictive nature which is red flag for any sensible man. If a woman's not being treated correctly, just LEAVE. No sense in being vindictive to prove a point because in the end, she's no better than him. If anything, she should tell him "look, either you will treat me like I'm supposed to be treated or I'm gone". Most men will respect that and respond accordingly. This, and other likeminded quotes are just more tools that will keep some women lonely.

Dissension In The Ranks

You think when a group forms, they come together for a common goal but all groups have dissension in the ranks. Dissension in the ranks is a term used to describe internal conflict within an organization. Each person has their own agenda and at the opportune time, their true colors show. Major splits have occurred as a result of this. I think if you're going to form an organization, you have to recruit people that all share the same passion and will work for the same goal. That's easier said than done because egos come into play; each person is looking out for their own best interest. In joining an organization, you have to be able to put your ego aside for the betterment of the organization. A certain level of selflessness is required to join an organization because even though you have a legit reason for having your own agenda, you knew what you were getting into when you joined the organization. The strongest groups will have internal conflict from time to time, it's a matter of how strong the bond is that they can put their beef aside and get back on one accord. Can groups avoid dissension in the ranks? Yes, if they set boundaries on what will/won't work. No matter how much planning, conflict will come within groups. However, there are times where one has to further their own agenda outside the group. In times where one has to leave an organization, it's usually for the best but they still remain ties to their old group because they never know when they may need a helping hand. You don't want to leave on bad terms.