Does social media hurt relationships? That depends. Some people say yes, others say no. Truthfully, it's a little of both. Some couples don't allow outsiders to meddle in their relationships (as they should), and others will let any & everyone interfere in their business. Go on social media right now, and you'll read various statuses about social media interference in relationships. My personal view is this: While I do believe that social media does hurt relationships, the success or failure of any relationship hinges on the couple. Relationships require work, and nobody has time to let outsiders mess up what they're trying to build. If a couple is going to be on social media, they should establish their relationship status so as not to create confusion.
Once the relationship is established, any suspect behavior should not happen. Commenting on other (wo)men's pictures saying (s)he's fine or I want to get with this and that person. There have been stories where people have broken up over social media. Those relationships weren't strong to begin with. There's more to the story than we know. It takes a level of trust to be in a committed relationship, and be on social media. Think about it: An engaged man is on Facebook or Twitter looking at pictures of curvy women. One woman catches his eye, and he inboxes her wanting to "get to know her". Conversation flows and he arranges to meet this woman. As they're getting to know each other, his fiancee doesn't cross his mind because he's wrapped in getting to know this other woman.
The conversation turns to sexting, and sexting turns into cheating. The woman starts to suspect something with her fiancee and starts interrogating him. At first he says he was working late, then he graduates to hanging with his boys. Some men won't openly admit their cheating because they don't want to hurt their mate. While there is validity in social media hurting relationships; for the most part I believe that if a relationship doesn't have a solid foundation, it will not last.
You are correct. A relationship without a solid foundation will fall apart. If an engaged man is on social media arranging hookups with other women, perhaps he isn’t ready to be married. Looking is one thing. However, when he starts contacting a woman, he has already stepped out of place. If his fiancé finds out, it’s a blessing. This will spare her the heartache and trouble of getting married to a man who obviously does not want to be in a monogamous relationship. Social media is only bad for relationships because people are dishonest. They are attention seekers who put all of their personal business out there on social media. Don’t blame social media for breaking up relationships. PEOPLE are the blame for broken relationships!
ReplyDeleteWhen WE get involved, don't be putting our business on Facebook. I can see why some people don't do Facebook or Twitter, but at the same time time, the foundation was rocky from the start.
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