When I'm on Facebook, I see a lot of photos about relationships. The one that comes to mind is Relationships are like a job, don't apply if you're not qualified. When I think about it, it makes perfect sense. Relationships are like a job interview: One person plays the hiring manager and the other is the prospective employee. The prospective (wo)man is auditioning for the role of significant other. (S)he is asked questions about past relationships, moral character, etc so the chooser has a good idea of how they are. If more people approached relationships from an employment standpoint, there would be a lot more successful relationships. Pre-screening is the key. Look for keywords in their character because the keywords will tell a lot about them. Most times, you don't have to interrogate a person because they will usually let you know who they are right off the bat. They will tell you straight up about themselves. It's up to YOU to determine if you can look past their shortcomings. The old adage is tried & true: What You See, Is What You Get. In relationships, this couldn't be more true because if a person lets you know who and what they are, you have no right to be upset if they aren't up to your standards. THEY told you the real about themselves, and you didn't have the discernment to exit stage left. Many people enter relationships without pre-screening their potential mate, then wonder why the relationship went south. I'll tell you why: They didn't do their due diligence on their desired mate. (S)he may look good, but what else? Will they stay on your team when you hit a losing streak? Are they willing to help you build instead of tear down? Tough questions need to be asked in order to get to know someone. How a person responds to tough questions speaks volumes; their answers show you may have a keeper because they are committed to you through thick & thin. It's easy to discuss your strengths; everybody can do that. It's the weaknesses that gets folk jammed up.
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