I Don't Know What To Do

This blog is straight from the heart. Whenever a loved one dies, the first thing someone says is "I Don't Know What I'm Going To Do". Grief is healthy & natural, we all experience grief when a loved one dies.  To me, I Don't Know What I'm Going To Do signifies a crutch because it's like you're saying you can't make it without that person. It's somewhat true if they've had a positive impact on your life. I've said this many times when a loved one has passed, but I remember their wisdom and keep it moving. They wouldn't want me to dwell on their departure. Even better, most likely they gave their heart to Christ so I know they're going to Heaven (which is a much better place than THIS world we live in). I find it scary when some people utter "I don't know what to do" because it makes me wonder are they self-sufficient? Can they make it without their loved ones? It boils down to resolve. I've lost my grandma and a close family friend; these people were stand-up to the core. Whenever I was going through something, I could call them up and they knew the right words to say. Sometimes, I didn't have to tell them what's on my mind, they knew. From that day on, I try not to say "I don't know what to do" should a loved one die. I remember what they taught me, which allows me to cope with their loss. Besides, dwelling on the fact (s)he is gone IS NOT going to bring them back, so you might as well move on. It's easier said than done, but it must be done in order to begin the healing process.