Single Until Grown

For any woman that's been through a divorce and had children by her ex, much focus is put on raising the child(ren), and rightfully so. Some single mothers would rather raise their children first before jumping into the dating pool, which makes sense. Coming out of a relationship where you've invested years with a person, that's not one you get over quickfast. I was watching a talk show and it gave some real advice. Listen to your children!!! If your child has negative feelings about a person, don't make them be around that person. As a matter of fact, you might not need to be around that person either. It's said that much abuse can be avoided by just listening to your children and their instincts. What fools an adult may not fool a child. Use your instincts! Some single mothers don't have that discernment. Many single moms are hard up to have a man in their home that they don't research him. For all she knows, he could be a sex offender. Some men believe that the way to a woman's heart is through her children. If a man is asking personal questions about a single mom's kids, that's red-flag all day. One of my Facebook friends brought up a great point: She stated "The child(ren)'s father would have to meet any man she's interested in." I like that approach because no man will try anything in the presence of another man, not unless he wants a boot to his behind. By the time the child meets the significant other, strong feelings have already been established. Then a womas has to decide-WHEN do they meet the kids? Some say wait. Others say right away. Women don't want to look like they are parading a bunch of men in front of their children looking for "the one". I think in many cases, it's best if a single mother focuses on raising her children before she gets back in the dating scene. She may be older, but at least her children will be grown and on their own so she and her new man can live out the rest of their years in bliss.