What Does That Make You?

I don't understand people sometimes. They complain about their mate being no good but they're still with them. If that man/woman is no good, yet you lay down with them and have their children, what does that make YOU? Shakes Head. Going a little further, if a man is no good but the woman lays down with him and bears his children, WHAT DOES THAT MAKE HER? She loved him when they were getting busy and now they can't stand each other? That's craziness. If someone is no good and you stay with them, you're no better than they are because you knew/should have known how they were before the relationship. People will always show you their true colors. Some may show you off top, others will show you their true selves in the relationship's advanced stages. When red flags about a person's character come up, pay close attention because they're trying to tell you something about themselves. Nobody wants to think the worst of their partner but you have to do your due diligence because if not, you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak. The issue is most people's discernment is poor so they overlook the major while focusing on the minor. When someone shows/tells you who they are, believe them. 9 times out of 10, they aren't lying. If the small stuff isn't a detriment to your relationship, then let it go. If you (man or woman) have your stuff together and are looking for a likeminded person to spend your life with, it behooves you to pay close attention to the clues they give as to what they're really like; this way you won't be surprised when you find out he/she wasn't what you thought they were. So many people end up looking crazy when they find out that man/woman wasn't what they expected. Had they done their due diligence, this wouldn't be an issue. Some people find out their mate's true colors and still stay with them, hence what does that make you? You can't lay down in mud and expect not to get dirty. If someone's married and you cheat with them, that makes you a cheater as well because you have partaken in destroying a happy home. Therefore, that makes you foul just like him/her who's cheating on their spouse. People have no right to complain about their spouse being no good when the offended chooses to stay with them.