Meeting The Ex

I've thought it strange that a man/woman engaged or in a relationship with their mate would feel a need to meet their ex for dinner. Why? You and your ex didn't work out so THAT relationship should be left alone. Meeting an ex raises so many red flags that it could mean (s)he is trying to see if they still have a chance of reuniting or they could have unfinished business and need closure. You shouldn't have to meet your ex in order to get closure, the closure should've been received at the final conversation. There's too many red flags because your current mate could think you and your ex are still seeing each other even though you mentioned it's over between you two. Otherwise, there's no reason for an engaged or taken person to meet their ex for dinner. For example: A man and woman are engaged to be married, both are coming from previous relationships. Those relationships didn't give them the needed closure so they look up their ex's in hopes of receiving the necessary closure. The couple's exes keep their meetings on the low for a while but things start to fall apart: so-called working late, unusual clothing attire, etc. You can keep things on the low for so long before you're exposed so honesty is the best policy. Be straight with your man or woman that you're going to meet your ex for closure. They may be upset (rightfully so) and want to know why but as long as you lay it on the table that you need official closure from the previous relationship, they should be ok. If you're with your man or woman and you plan on building a life with them, your ex should be just that, YOUR EX. Whatever closure you did (or didn't) receive, let it go and focus on the present & future, not the past. If I'm with a woman, she's getting ALL of me. I'm not looking for closure from my ex because I'm thinking she's my ex, that's all the closure I need. Doesn't matter why we didn't work out, it's just that our bond didn't make it. That's ok because except for a select few, all relationships aren't meant to last.