Asking The Tough Questions

Why are couples afraid to ask tough questions in their relationship? I've never understood that. You're supposed to ask the hard questions to see where the relationship is going. I don't know about anyone else but if I get involved with a woman, I'm asking the hard questions off top (and I expect the same in return) because I want to see where her head is at. How you answer tough questions determines the relationship length. If one or both people beat around the bush, that says they aren't strong enough to tackle the hard issues in a relationship. If your partner gets offended when you ask them meaty questions, that's their problem. That's also a red flag that shouldn't be taken lightly. If I'm taking on a woman to be my future wife, wouldn't it make sense to ask the hard questions? I think so because you get a better understanding of who they are by their responses. If they aren't honest in their responses, chances are they won't be honest when it counts. I won't trust a woman that's afraid to ask me the hard questions and here's the catch...I EXPECT HER TO AND VICE VERSA. When a couple isn't afraid to ask the hard questions, that tells me their relationship will last because they are able to navigate the rough waters of life together. I was listening to Bishop Jakes "Before You Do" Series and he was spot on with his information. Asking tough questions requires 3 components: Research, Interrogate and Verify. When you want to know something about a person, you do investigative research into their background to get an idea of how their history has shaped them into who they are today. After you research, you interrogate him/her because you want to be sure you know what you're getting into before you proceed further. The verification is the last step in getting to know your mate because he/she is able to help you better understand them by clearing the air about any given information.