Today's Thought: Unconditional Love vs. Unconditional Tolerance

 

Facts...I don't know why some people equate unconditional love with unconditional tolerance. If someone shows you their true colors, believe them. They're not going to change, so why continue putting up with them? I don't care how solid someone is, nobody is capable of unconditional love. Should someone love a person who continually disrespects them? I'll wait.

Today's Thought: None Of Your Business

 

Since when did folks feel entitled to your business? Some people swear you're hiding stuff if you're not telling your business to everyone with a listening ear. Newsflash, some people get close to you just so you can tell them your business; next thing you know it's nationwide. People have the right to secrecy, like it or not.

Thursday Gospel

 

What's Important vs. What's Not (Important)

 

Facts...What was important to me when I was younger, is not important at 40, and that's ok.

Live!

 

This is tough for me to learn, but I have to do it. I, like many people don't like most of the pain in our lives that's out of our control, but I'm learning to push through all the bullcrap in life to reach my comfort zone. I'm all for speaking life into dead situations because who wants to be content when something can be changed? Not me, but...the reality is that you'll have some struggles for life because we live in a fallen world. I don't like it anymore than anyone else, but it's facts.

What Happens In The Family, Stays In The Family?

 

Once upon a time, family meant something to most people, but not anymore. Families are estranged: Some members aren't speaking to other family members for whatever reason, the aunts/grandparents have favorites, etc. It's sad, but as I've gotten older I've understood the reason: Families would rather sweep "dirt" under the rug. That uncle who's a sex offender; the grandkids are uncomfortable in his presence because he's molested or is molesting them. The kid(s) can't go to any other trusted adult in the family because the other adults will discount the kid(s) feelings. Black families are notorious for fronting, knowing good & well some stuff needs to be exposed. How can you heal from what you're not willing to expose? 

Caregiving: Grooming

I'm sure most people that are or have been caregivers to disabled loved ones will vouch for the difficulty. The caregiver has to work full-time: They work from 8am-5pm, then come home to take care of their disabled loved one. They have little free time because their lives are wrapped around the disabled person. There's loved ones that are so disabled that they function at an infant/toddler level, so they need 24-hour care. My heart breaks for the severely disabled because they're suffering. They didn't ask for their predicament, and it's not fair to their loved ones either. Should the severely disabled's loved ones be groomed to take care of their disabled sibling? Grooming is preparation for caregiving once the parents get too old to care for the disabled child(ren). The other siblings are taught home economics so they can take care of themselves & their mentally challenged loved one(s). The other siblings may want lives of their own someday, but some parents place the expectation of caring for the disabled loved one on the other child(ren), so the other children can't have their own lives because it's going to be centered on the disabled person's care. Most siblings have no problem taking care of their disabled brother or sister, but they deserve their own life too. It comes down to family dynamics: If the family dynamics are good, then I'd think that most families wouldn't have a problem taking care of their mentally challenged loved one. If the family dynamics are garbage, then I can see the issue because no one wants to step up and help take care of their mentally challenged loved one. If the disabled person's loved ones won't step up due to poor family dynamics, the only alternative is ALF or a long-term care facility. The problem with ALFs/long-term care places is some of the staff are lazy & underpaid, which leads to abuse, neglect & exploitation of the vulnerable population.