Strawberry Letter: What Is Wrong With My Husband?

Today's Strawberry Letter is appropriately titled because we have a wife who's slighted over her husband talking to other women on social media. She's brought it to his attention and the only thing he can come up with is: It's not like I'm sexing them; we're just talking. It's not that she doesn't trust her husband, she doesn't trust the other women because she doesn't know their agendas. Do these women know he's married? Probably not. I wouldn't expect him to let his wife know he's talking to other women on social media because he knew she would be in her feelings & rightfully so. No woman should be ok with her man talking about his marital life with other women; it's none of their business. If she was talking to other men on social media, he would be ready to fight.. 

She's right in being upset with her husband because he should be able to discuss his issues with his woman. That is why he married her, so they can come together as one. I'm trying to figure out what he and these other women could possibly be talking about that he can't discuss with his woman. She mentions these women were in their 20's and slim, so he could be looking for a

pretty young thing. His wife is thick (she mentions she could be smaller, but she likes her figure), but her age is unknown. She gave him children so that's reason enough for him to appreciate his woman. I think he's outgrown his wife and is looking for satisfaction outside of his marriage. He may not ever cheat on his wife, but he's not doing himself or her any favors by continuing to talk with these women on social media. If he knows what's good for him, the husband will stop talking with these other women and focus on his wife. From the last sentence, she may be on her way out.

Mississippi puts prayer back in schools

Mississippi may be known for its racist history, but after reading about how Mississippi let prayer back in schools, it might be time for me to look at Mississippi in a different light. I want to salute Mississippi for taking steps to rewrite a new history by putting prayer back in schools. Whether people admit it or not, America has degenerated into immorality since the removal of prayer from schools. Corporate greed, corrupt politicians and policemen, and racial division are a few of the issues that have hit America hard recently. Since MS reinstated prayer in schools, students meet around the flagpole for prayer every morning before classes. Congratulations to the State of Mississippi.

Morning prayer dictates the rest of the day because it establishes God's presence in that place. The enemy may try to creep in, but he can't because the atmosphere has already been set by God. I'd like to see other states follow Mississippi's lead and reinstate prayer back in their schools. The only way America will turn it's heart back to God is if prayer is brought back into Anerican schools. If some students don't want to pray, that's their choice and they are free to go. They're not going to stop other students from talking to God. Prayer is a wonderful thing. It sets the tone for your day, and it's like carrying on a conversation with a good friend, except you're talking to God. Looking at the state of society, prayer in schools is sorely needed.

Answered Prayer: The Power Of Praying With Faith by Pastor Fred Price

Pastor Frederick K.C. Price is a veteran pastor who's been around since the 80's. I grew up watching many of his sermons on his nationally-televised broadcast, which still comes on today. He founded Crenshaw Christian Center in Los Angeles, which is now the FaithDome and has a 22,000+ church membership. This blog is going to be my analysis of the book. Many Christians struggle with their prayer commitment and wrestle with a proper prayer attitude and posture. Through reading this book, Pastor Price has debunked traditional prayer teaching that says: Sometimes God says yes, no, and wait. Some Christians pray the wrong prayer and expect God to cover for them. This book shows how God responds to faith and why it's critical for Christians to understand how to pray in faith and not doubt, ignorance or presumption. My favorite chapter in this book is Use The Right Tool. Just like a mechanic needs the right tools for repairs, Christians also need the right tools for prayer. In other words, different kinds of prayer require different tools. Many Christians aren't aware that there are several different kinds of prayer discussed in the Bible, and if the tools/rules from one prayer type are used in place of another, your prayers will not work. In short, different prayers require different tools. So many Christians wonder why their prayers go unanswered. Much of the reason is because they pray incorrect prayers using the wrong tools. This book has changed my prayer life.

Praying For What's Yours

As Christians, we're all guilty of praying like this: Lord, bless me with financial provision, good health and joy. Why do some Christians pray for what's already theirs? Two reasons come to mind: 1. God wants to hear our voice, and 2. Lack of faith. While it's true that God knows what his children need before they ask, he wants us to bring our requests to him. This is so he can spend time with us. Don't some Christians think God gets upset when we treat him like a genie? I've been guilty of treating God like a genie from time to time, asking him to grant MY requests without considering the fact that he just wants to hear his children's voice. I think some Christians treat God like a genie because God delights in answering the prayers of his righteous children. They can come to God with everything and they're guaranteed a "Yes" answer to their prayers. The answer may(not) be immediate, but they know their answer will be Yes. The 2nd reason is lack of faith, which is where the majority of Christians' prayers fall into the category. Some Christians pray for what's already theirs because they don't believe God will do what he says, so they think by bombarding God with basic prayers, they'll have a better chance of getting them answered. In other words, their lack of faith prevents them from guaranteeing that God will respond in favor to their request(s). I've made a commitment to change my prayer life to one of thanks, thanking God for granting me what's already mine.

Becoming A Target

Everyone is a target in some fashion. Some people are targets because they take a stand for right, others are a target because they're into illegal activity. When you become a target for standing up for righteousness, you're tired of ratchet behavior and your want to see an end to it. Depending on your state of mind, you may(not) be able to withstand the backlash. When foolishness is used to running amok, of course there will be backlash because no one's used to being checked for their foolery, so they will resist until one of two things happen: 1. They change their ways or 2. You give up because the backlash is too strong. When you're a target, people throw darts. Nobody knows what you don't reveal. You can't hit what you can't see. The best way to avoid being a target is by keeping your business to yourself. By flying under the radar, no one can use your information against you. Anyone who's into target shooting will tell you the same thing: You can't hit what you don't see. If someone can't see your business, how can they throw darts? They can't.

I've Got Some Tea

If a friend's always coming to you with some tea they heard about you, cut them off because they're playing both sides. A true rider will have your back and tell you how they stood up for you when the other person threw shade. Someone playing both sides will keke with the other person, then tell you "I'm not saying no names, but someone's talking down" We've all been there before. I don't care how long you've known them, cut it short before it gets major! Any so-called "friend who's comfortable enough to listen to gossip is no friend at all. These are the same "friends" that will smile in your face; you're too valuable to keep toxic people in your corner. True friends should never get comfortable in gossiping about you.

Dr. Phil: Homeschool vs. Public School

I watched Dr. Phil and the topic of discussion is Homeschool vs. Public School. The wives are for homeschool and the husbands are pro-public school. Pro-public school advocates are like: Kids need the socialization, and pro homeschool advocates are like: Public schools have too many issues. Let me say this: People talk about socialization, socialization like it's the be all, end all of school. That's the problem, a lot of kids socialize too much instead of focusing on their schoolwork, and usually their grades prove me right. The older someone gets, the less socialization they should need. For me, I socialize when I need to and that's that. There are times where I mingle, and times when I fall back. For parents who choose to homeschool, kids can get the social skills needed by being around likeminded students: book & academic clubs, neighborhood events, recreation leagues, etc. Public school isn't the only place kids can learn social skills. Or if parents want to send their child to traditional school, they can do charter schools or private schools where they'll be around likeminded kids who love to learn. Public schools have too much of a balance, where kids don't want to be there and cause trouble for other students, and studious kids. In short, I see why some parents homeschool.

Here's a couple responses that reinforce both sides of this debate:

Destiny: Charter schools and private schools don't automatically mean that the kids that attend are there because they want to learn. The majority of them are there because their parents force them to be there. I agree that public school isn't the only way for kids to learn social skills. If you are going to home school the parents need to ensure that the kids are involved in social activities. Social skills are important whether you believe it or not and how will you learn those skills if you spend all your time at home with your parents. Keeping them away from everything cripples them. My mom home schooled my sister for years and my little brother for some years and my little sister and I for a little bit but she had enough sense to make sure we weren't shut out from the world.

Me: A good majority of private school and charter school students are serious about their education, more so in the private school setting. Otherwise, why go to a private school and throw away a good education? That's silly. Everything you stated is what I've reinforced about homeschool: Kids do need to be involved in social activities so they can get those social skills they need. Your mom had the balance down of homeschool and socialization. I do agree that some parents take it overboard.

Destiny: It's important because it teaches you how to interact with different people. That's quite difficult when most of your life is spent interacting with your parents and siblings only. This right here is why my mother set up activities for us to teach us how to deal with different people. I know a woman that home schools her kids(they are 14 and 16 and have never seen a public school) but they are very involved with other kids and because of that they are well rounded kids.