Dec 30, 2014

Inspiration

Here's a collection of inspiring tweets to encourage someone. I may not know who needs encouragement, but I'm confident these tweets will inspire readers to keep pushing.



















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Dec 29, 2014

Gratitude & Patience


Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing and gratitude when you have everything. I'm a big believer in this statement because it holds a lot of weight. It's easy to be thankful when everything's sweet, and things are going your way. You're shining on your job, business is prospering, debt free, etc. By all accounts, you're on point and with good reason. You've worked hard to get where you're at & given what you've gone through, you're not ashamed to testify where you've come from. You're very humble because you know what you've gone through to get where you are, and you never feel a need to brag about how many homes & cars you have. You meet people who are less fortunate and you're compelled to bless them in any way you see fit. That's all part of being grateful for having everything because as soon as you get blessed, you try and bless others.
What do you do when you have next to nothing and you're busting your butt to make it to the top, but it seems like every door is slammed shut? You're tired of struggling, and you want more in life but it's not the right time. You have two choices: 1.You can keep fighting for that dream, and move heaven & eart to make it happen or 2. You can give up, and never see that dream manifest. Many people go with #2 because they're so weary from fighting that they feel that goal is not meant for them to achieve, so they quit. However, there's that select few who choose to make it happen by any means necessary; even if that means trimming the fat from their lives (removing dead weight in the form of naysayers). They've got laser-like focus that nothing will stop them from getting what they desire in life. As stated in the tweet, you're defined by two things, which one will define YOU?
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Dec 26, 2014

Words Of Wisdom

Here's a collection of inspirational tweets:




















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Dec 25, 2014

Oh Hi, I Only Exist When You Need Something


People are funny. Not in a kee kee ha ha kind of funny, but the shaking your head, are you serious kind of way. When you forget about someone, you completely write them off, or so you should. Forgetting about someone involves NOT asking them for any favors because you forgot about them. Let me give a couple of examples:

1. You and a close friend have a falling out and part on bad terms. Months or years later, your friend loses their job and needs you as a reference. You remember how they did you, so you tell them no. Your rationale for telling them no is that they cut you off, and now they need something from you.
2. Growing up, your parents mistreated you throughout your life and surprisingly, you didn't let it bother you. It was your parents who treated you like you weren't wanted. Outsiders treated you better than your own parents. You took that pain and turned it into motivation to better yourself. Put yourself through undergraduate and graduate school and landed a great job, debt free. You're successful by society's standards. Years later, your parents fall deathly ill and the rest of the family doesn't bother to visit them. The family gets in your ear about how you shouldn't visit them because they tell you "remember how they treated you back in the day, now they expect you to be there for them" You don't go because you know it's gonna be more of the same nonsense. You made a choice to cut toxic people out of your life and you're better for it.

If you're going to forget someone, forget them completely. Don't forget about someone, then go back to them for what you may need in the future. That's foolish, and makes you look crazy.
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Dec 24, 2014

Fighting Temptation


What seems simple to most people is difficult for others for some reason. If you're in a relationship with someone, be exclusive to them. Having a mistress/side man is not a good look for you or the other person because you're leading them on. Side pieces and mistresses are exactly why many people are hesitant to enter committed relationships because having someone on the side signals greed. You're not satisfied with one good (wo)man because you think your side piece may give you what your spouse is lacking, so in your mind you get the best of both worlds by getting 2 for 1. The downside is having to juggle spending time with your main spouse and your extra. When it comes to relationships, men & women are greedy. It's not enough to be faithful to one (wo)man, folks got to be married and cheat on the side. If you know you're not faithful, don't waste your time and someone else's double dipping. That's how folks end up on Cheaters or First 48.
In today's world & with today's generation, with so many temptations & women who don't mind being mistresses & men with the "Wife & a GF on the side" mentality, who would want to be married to anyone these days? Marriage is a joke to some people because nobody takes it seriously; so I can't blame anyone when they say they'd rather not make that commitment. When someone decides to use wisdom NOT to get married, here come comments like "you're scared of committment, something is wrong with you, etc." If committment means having to question your partner's faithfulness, I want no part of that. The marriage community can have that For Better Or Worse mindset. Myself, and other likeminded folks can swerve on all that drama (swerve means to sidestep, avoid pitfalls, etc.). Life is too short to worry about someone stepping out on you. It's better to be single and have no worries, then get married to someone and you have to question their loyalty.
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Dec 23, 2014

Men That Gossip


Once upon a time, men would tell you directly what's up. Good or bad, a man told you to your face what he thought of you and kept it moving. Those times are long gone because you have men gossiping like women about other men. That's not the code because men don't concern themselves with what other men are doing. Men keep it moving; they tend to their own affairs. A man that's on his grind doesn't have time to gossip about others because that sidetracks him from his purpose. I've had dudes gossip about me, but I could care less because I'm not what they speak about, and two, I'm not defined by what others think or feel about me even if they mean well. I appreciate well-meaning people, and those are the ones I rock with. These salt-shaking, gossiping like women dudes I have no respect for, and they have the nerve to call themselves men. If gossiping like a woman is what manhood is about, then society is in trouble. Men need to tighten up & stop gossiping like females because it doesn't look good on them. Don't let a man have the woman every guy wants, because you'll have back-ups getting in her ear about how he ain't nothing, he (the other man) can treat her better than him, etc. Depending on her loyalty, she may or may not be receptive to the gossip. I have little to no respect for men who gossip like women. If you have something to say about a man, bring it directly to him.
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Dec 22, 2014

Looks Aren't Everything


I get it, looks matter to some people. I would be lying if I said looks weren't a factor in my desire of a woman. It's understood that women want security, and men want eye candy; we know this. The problem lies in people who place TOO high a value on looks that they overlook important traits like character, honesty, Godliness, common sense, etc. Unless you're genetically blessed, no one is born looking like Beyonce or Denzel. There's constructive surgery if you want to look like those stars, but they cost major money, and very few folks could afford the kind of reconstructive surgery needed to look attractive. If I met a woman who was a 4 in looks, but made up for it with a good heart/character, great cook, shapely and loved to please her man, that would make her more than beautiful in my eyes. The difference between me & other people is that I value cooperation over eye candy.
To me, her aesthetic appeal is icing on the cake, and we all know that icing is the best part of the cake. People who let bull come out of their mouth like "Those who say looks aren't everything are probably unattractive" are just showing how stupid they sound, and that comment just showed how unattractive they are. You can be fine like Beyonce, but if you esteem yourself above others because you're prettier than them, then YOU are the ugly one. I pity those who marry for looks because as we get older, we're not going to look like we did at 30 or 40 unless some folks have really good genetics, and that's only a small segment of the population who can look younger even though they may be up in age. You want honesty? Here It Is: Shallow people disgust me. You want someone to look like Beyonce or Idris Elba when you're not attractive in someone's eyes. I'm doing research to find out where they do that at.
Why do I pity people who marry for looks? Simple. Looks will fade over time, and what will people have to sustain them in marriage? Are you going to leave an otherwise good (wo)man because (s)he lost that 8-pack, gained weight or she has stretch marks from having children? Sadly, many people do. Those are folks that had no business getting married. Last I checked, the vows mention for better or worse, sickness & health, and so on. I look at a woman's inner beauty rather than her outer appearance. A woman may be considered average-looking by society's standards, but her character, heart, Godly nature, and positive disposition will make her far more beautiful to me.
 So while I understand that looks are a factor in someone's overall attractiveness, they shouldn't be the only factor. The best packages come how you least expect it.

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