Looks Aren't Everything

Any relationship what was primarily built off of physical attractiveness is predestined to be short lived.

— Mind Of A Real Man (@RealMenTalk) December 19, 2014

I get it, looks matter to some people. I would be lying if I said looks weren't a factor in my desire of a woman. It's understood that women want security, and men want eye candy; we know this. The problem lies in people who place TOO high a value on looks that they overlook important traits like character, honesty, Godliness, common sense, etc. Unless you're genetically blessed, no one is born looking like Beyonce or Denzel. There's constructive surgery if you want to look like those stars, but they cost major money, and very few folks could afford the kind of reconstructive surgery needed to look attractive. If I met a woman who was a 4 in looks, but made up for it with a good heart/character, great cook, shapely and loved to please her man, that would make her more than beautiful in my eyes. The difference between me & other people is that I value cooperation over eye candy.

To me, her aesthetic appeal is icing on the cake, and we all know that icing is the best part of the cake. People who let bull come out of their mouth like "Those who say looks aren't everything are probably unattractive" are just showing how stupid they sound, and that comment just showed how unattractive they are. You can be fine like Beyonce, but if you esteem yourself above others because you're prettier than them, then YOU are the ugly one. I pity those who marry for looks because as we get older, we're not going to look like we did at 30 or 40 unless some folks have really good genetics, and that's only a small segment of the population who can look younger even though they may be up in age. You want honesty? Here It Is: Shallow people disgust me. You want someone to look like Beyonce or Idris Elba when you're not attractive in someone's eyes. I'm doing research to find out where they do that at.

Why do I pity people who marry for looks? Simple. Looks will fade over time, and what will people have to sustain them in marriage? Are you going to leave an otherwise good (wo)man because (s)he lost that 8-pack, gained weight or she has stretch marks from having children? Sadly, many people do. Those are folks that had no business getting married. Last I checked, the vows mention for better or worse, sickness & health, and so on. I look at a woman's inner beauty rather than her outer appearance. A woman may be considered average-looking by society's standards, but her character, heart, Godly nature, and positive disposition will make her far more beautiful to me.

 So while I understand that looks are a factor in someone's overall attractiveness, they shouldn't be the only factor. The best packages come how you least expect it.