Women Are The Choosers

I've always felt that in relationships, women are the choosers. A man can have his stuff together, and present himself in the best possible light, but it's up to the woman whether she will proceed with getting to know him. Here is a message from a poster that I'm in a Facebook group with:

 

Maurice Theoutlaw Washington

Women are the choosers...if this were not true then men would be able to choose who they want to be with (first dibbs on Halle). If you are a man, and think you can have any woman you want, go and try...either you are a scumbag because you should have chosen a great wife a long time ago...or you are not the chooser.

All a man can do is make a presentation to a woman and hope that she grants him access.

Men approach women on a daily basis, and the woman makes a CHOICE on if she will entertain the man or not. Men may CHOOSE to PURSUE the woman, but the CHOICE is ULTIMATELY UP TO THE WOMEN.

MEN CANNOT HAVE SEX WITH A WOMAN UNLESS SHE CHOOSES TO. OR IT IS RAPE

There are times when men may have a choice between several women (usually bottom feeders & fatty-patties). THE WOMEN HAVE ALREADY CHOSEN HIM...even if he decides to court one of them. It's still up to the woman on if she will grant him intercourse.

Sorry to the men who thought they were macks; she made the decision on whether or not she was going to deal with you a long time ago...all you had to do is not mess it up.

To the ladies who CHOOSE to NOT accept this responsibility, it is highly visible that the quality of your life is due to your inability to understand this fundamental concept or common sense. Every time you complain about a no good man, sperm donor, or a lying cheating man...remember you were attracted to them, you were sold by their presentation, and chose to sleep with them unprotected.
It is a reflection of your character; whether you CHOOSE to accept responsibility or not... THIS is the responsibility and POWER you hold in our culture. The ability to choose great men to support, and build strong families that lead to productive communities.

Instead you CHOOSE procreate with the worst of us, thus destroying our culture and set in motion a spiraling decline in cyclical ignorance.



Strawberry Letter- Can He Be Faithful After Ten Years Of Cheating? | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter- Can He Be Faithful After Ten Years Of Cheating? | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Let me get this straight: He's been cheating on her for 10 years, and she's confused about whether she should fight for her family? Common sense should tell her her man had no respect for her when he cheated the first time. He's been messing around on her for 10 years. After the first offense, he should've been out the door. Who cares if they have children together? It's far better for children to be raised in a stable, single parent home than be raised around infidelity. I feel for the children because they may have a negative view of relationships because of one parent's infidelity. If you're not happy in a relationship, either leave or try to work it out. I'd try to work it out only if she's willing. If not, then I'm gone because I will not fight if she's not willing to get in the ring with me. She knows what to do, she's just trying to play dumb. This letter is another reminder that most people do not respect their relationship, and that you really don't know your mate like you think.

She can't be THAT naive about her man's infidelity. She must have (or should've) known about her man's indiscretions. She probably knows, but refuses to believe that her man could cheat on her. Some women hang on their man's every word, and they should if he's thorough. Anytime a person cheats on their (wo)man, respect has left the building. (S)he may forgive, but she won't forget. There's no way he respects her, because if he did, he wouldn't be messing with another woman. I feel sorry for her, because she really has low self-esteem to even want to stay with his cheating butt. A thorough woman would've left him on the spot. I know they've been through the ringer, but how much cheating can one person expect to take? Seriously. Cheating happens once, (s)he forgives. Few months later, (s)he cheats again, and the hurt person forgives. The answer is obvious: She should leave this clown, and not look back. Forget about all the good times, just go. The good times left when he was cheating for 10 years.

 

 

Strawberry Letter- A Chance To Share My Ideas | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter- A Chance To Share My Ideas | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

Everyone has been where she's at right now. God has given them a creative vision that will make a difference in today's world. They have the passion & hustle behind their idea, but they're stuck. As this lady stated: She doesn't have the connections to bring her ideas to pass, but I take authority over that right now. The Bible says write the vision and make it plain. Once you write the vision, speak that vision into existence. Continue speaking that dream into reality and God will bring it to pass at the right time. He's already got the right people lined up for her, she doesn't know it yet. God will never give you a vision without provision. She just needs to be patient, and thank God for bringing her passion into reality. It's gonna happen at the right time, and when it does, she's gonna dance all night at God's goodness. What most people don't realize is that God gives people ideas, then they go through a desert period. They feel like their idea(s) won't happen because of a dry spell, but that's God molding them so they can be ready for the breakthrough. With vision, comes maturity. If your maturity isn't right, neither will your vision. She's going through a desert period, and at the end she says: This is God's way of telling me to stop trying to be somebody. I remember an old song from the Miami Mass Choir that went like this: What God has for me, is for me. That song lyric makes perfect sense for her: What God has for her, is for her. She just has to be patient, and keep the faith.

Chucking Responsibility

 

At first glance, this photo seems like another (wo)man bashing session. If you look deeper, there's a lot that can be gained from this photo. It's more about playing your position. Men & Women have their responsibilities, and whenever one tries to play another's position, you have a problem. The woman is saying that she's beneath cooking & cleaning, and the man is saying he refuses to hustle like a slave so his woman can reap the benefits of his toil. I will admit that no one wants to be taken for granted, which is why it's important to choose a mate that doesn't have an entitled mindset; (s)he does all the giving, while the other does the taking. Here's a few comments from my thread: 

Katina Person: Ok, so the woman's role is cooking and cleaning? I thought it was that of a help mate? Being a help mate would involve cooking and cleaning if need be. One is subscribing to gender roles and the other is chucking responsibility. This should have been thought out a little more IMHO"

My Response: Traditionally, men are the providers & protectors, whereas women held it down in the home. As time passed, both men and women started getting stuff twisted.

People don't understand the term helpmate. Both parties help each other. Today's mindset is where one person is expected to do this, this and that while the other reaps the benefits. No wonder (wo)men don't want a relationship because both (wo)men come with the expectation that they will be taken advantage of. To avoid that, it's best to not get involved with a taker.

In conclusion, when men & women understand their roles as helpmate, it cuts down on confusion & you have a power couple. The man helps his woman if she's off track & vice versa.

Strawberry Letter- Married Men and Single Women | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

Strawberry Letter- Married Men and Single Women | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

 

These women irk me sometimes. They write Steve Harvey with these letters claiming not to know what to do. This woman is having a dilemma of whether she would partake in destroying a marriage. The husband isn't feeling his wife, so he confides in her. Single women have a way of slithering their way into married men's lives. As a married man, you never vent to a single woman about how unhappy you are in your marriage. That's giving her the green light to be there for him in a way that will piss off his wife. My thing is, if you're not happy in your marriage, discuss the matter with your spouse and if both parties can't come to some agreement, divorce is a good look. Nobody should be forced to endure unhappiness in marriage, that's stupid. Contrary to what many people believe, marriage can be happily ever after if you choose the right person. You two are so in sync that you won't let minor disagreements turn into major ones.

If they're smart, most married cheating men aren't going to let the other woman know of their marital status. For one, the other woman could be friends with his wife, and Lord knows news travels fast among women. There's nothing worse than a married man cheating with another woman, only to find out she reports back to his wife of their actions. The wife is pissed because she's given him her all, and he betrays her like this. She's going to do serious damage to him, and her. This strawberry letter confirms my belief that most marrieds have no respect for their marriage. Either one or both spouses are cheating, but come home to each other like nothing's wrong. If you're going to get married, GET MARRIED. If you want to creep around, marriage isn't for you. You agree to spend your life with one person. You may not like their changes, but you knew what you were getting into when you married them. I have to wonder: Is she doing her part by giving him a reason to want to come home? Believe it or not, if a spouse dreads coming home, something's wrong.

In The Real World

1. In The Real World: Kids are forced to grow up before their time. From having to take care of younger siblings to in some cases, having to work to help take care of their family, I see why some kids are so independent.

2. In The Real World: Public schools are nothing more than cesspools of foolishness (even though I'm a product of the public school system). Fighting to bullying, all children deserve a safe environment in which they can thrive.

3. In The Real World: So many people are losing their jobs through no fault of their own. Technology is replacing many positions that were traditionally performed by humans.

4. In The Real World: Marriage doesn't carry the same weight it used to. People look at marriage like business; how can THEY benefit as opposed to how they can enrich each other's lives.

5. In The Real World: More children are being born with disabilities. It's almost not worth it to have children because you don't know how they're going to turn out. Depending on the severity of the condition, some children need 24-hour care.

6. In The Real World: Everybody and their mama has a reality show. Maybe I should get one. I get paid millions to show my behind on national TV, and maybe get some endorsements out of it.

7. In The Real World: Many times, stuff happens that's out of our control.

 

As you can see, the real world is what it is: The Real World. It's good to hope for better days, but because we live in a fallen world, bad things happen to good people. I don't like it anymore than someone else, but *shrug*.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell

Don't Ask, Don't Tell is a military policy that's been around for decades. The premise is for homosexuals to keep their orientation silent. That statement can also apply to all facets of life, especially relationships. You meet someone for the first time, and conversation is flowing. If you're smart, you don't reveal too much on the first date, even if the person is understanding. People can tell you anything to put you at ease, and once you feel comfortable with them, they start to show their true colors. Sadly, you can open up to some people and they use your information against you. My definition of Don't Ask, Don't Tell is simple: Don't ask if you're not ready for the answer. It serves two purposes: 1. It saves the recipient from getting offended, and 2. Prevents you from possibly having your information used against you. Not everyone can be trusted with privileged information, so it's important to enact measures to protect yourself, and others. Let me list a few examples:

1. A couple is going through rough times in their marriage, when one spouse reveals the source of their frustration, which stems from childhood. The receiving spouse isn't ready, even though they want transparency. The lesson: Don't Ask, Don't Tell.

2. Some information can catch you so off guard that you weren't ready for it. Simple resolution: You better be ready for the response. If not, you shouldn't have asked.