You Picked Him!

Yesterday was Father's Day, a day set aside to honor fathers who have shaped their children's lives in remarkable ways. There has been an attack on fatherhood for quite some time. Bitter single mothers have gone so far as to demand recognition on Father's Day. You'll have some single mothers that acknowledge themselves on Father's Day, saying "I'm the mother and father to my child(ren) so I deserve recognition on Father's Day too." Unless she's a hermaphrodite, a mother can never play a father's role. Try as she may, but we all know the result of a single mother trying to raise a man. Children learn the most from what they're around on a daily basis. If a boy is raised around women, he's going to pick up feminine traits. Why do you think some of these young men are so fruity? Because they've been exposed to women all their lives. It's not the boy's fault. If the child's biological father refuses to be in his child(ren)'s life, the mother has no choice but to do what she needs to do. Still, there are father figures that a boy can learn manhood from.

Not all single mothers are single moms by choice. Sometimes, single mothers become as such through no fault of their own. If a father refuses to be involved in his child(ren)'s lives, that's his perogative. Just know that children are very smart. They know who's had their back from day 1. A mother has to do whatever's necessary to provide the best possible life for her child(ren), with or without him. What I can't stand is bitter single mothers who want recognition on Father's Day. I understand those single moms are upset at their child(ren)'s father, but she picked him! She should've known he was no good before she opened for business. So many women have babies by deadbeat men, and expect these men to take responsibility for that child. At some point, some women have to use better judgment in selecting a man to lay down with. If she can't see herself long term with him, why would she have his baby? A single mother cannot complain about her child(ren)'s father being a deadbeat. Why? BECAUSE SHE PICKED HIM.

But..

BUT is a powerful word in the deflector's arsenal. When (s)he is trying to explain their reasoning behind their action(s), they take the responsibility off themselves by inserting the word BUT. Here are some examples:

I was wrong for cheating on him/her, but...(s)he's never home...I got lonely, what else am I supposed to do?

I hit my (wo)man, but he shouldn't have pissed me off.

In these instance, the word but was used to deflect responsibility onto the victim, like as to say the victim is responsible for the outcome. When it comes to domestic abuse, the victim is never at fault, it's always the offender because (s)he (the offender) doesn't know how to control their anger. Domestic abuse could be a generational curse in some families, but at some point people need to ween themselves off of the word but. The word "but" negates everything said before, so I love when some people use that word, because they're showing how much of an adult they're not. Keep up the deflection, it looks good on you (sarcasm).

Do Men Respect Women Who Forgive Them For Cheating?

Do men respect their woman if she forgives him for cheating? That depends on the man. A good man respects his woman enough NOT to cheat on her, because he knows what that will do to her, and not too many women will let themselves get played over and over. She takes him back once, that's fine. When a man cheats again & she takes him back, I wonder what's going on with her self-esteem. When you have someone that's good to you, do everything in your power to hold onto them, because there are plenty of people waiting to take your spot. As a matter of fact, a good catch is a hot commodity. Everyone is gunning for them. Even the wrong people are looking at a good (wo)man as a prize because of their character. I have a hard time believing a man respects his woman for forgiving him of his indisrections. There are some women who will cut a man off at the first indiscretion, and that's to be expected.

I have a hard time believing a man respects his woman for forgiving him of his indisrections. There are some women who will cut a man off at the first indiscretion, and that's to be expected. Why stay while the other person continues to mistreat you? I've never understood that and never will. Here's the thing: If a man is bold enough to cheat on his woman, he has no respect for her. How can you respect someone you cheat on? You can't. If he respected her before & the cheating was a moment stupidity, then I think he does respect his woman since she took him back. After all, she didn't have to take him back. She could've left him to play sad R&B songs, but she found it in her heart to forgive him and give him another shot. What he does with that second chance is on him. I believe respect flies out the window when there's cheating. If you respect someone, it shows in the way you treat them. 

Inappropriate Stepdaughter

It should be understood there are some things you just don't know, and walking around in your bra & panties is one of them. If an underage child lives with their parents, I'm sure his/her parents told them to put some clothes on when they walk around the house. It's a respect thing. This morning's Strawberry Letter is about a spoiled 19-year old stepdaughter who is feeling herself to where she parades around the home in her bra & panties. The father is 45, and has 3 other children. The stepfather doesn't know if he should back off or confront the stepdaughter via the wife. As the head of household, this guy needs to put his foot down. Tell her to stop being so fast in walking around in her undergarments. If the stepdaughter gets mad, so what? Notice how this child won't pull that with her mother, but he's let her get away with that for so long, that he can't reign her in. No man should have to remove himself from any place in the household. He wants Steve to "watch out" how he talks about his daughter, but he called her a NASTY behind. 

Let me address an ugly TRUTH that people turn a blind eye to. He's LUSTing after his step daughter. TRUTH be told, he's already had SEX with her in his mind, so he's probably not far from SEXING her. The words we speak are very powerful. When he referred to her as nasty, he's speaking that into existence for his stepdaughter- that's why it casually rolls off his mouth. Whther he likes it or not, that's the TRUTH. Out of four children, why does the majority think he spoils THIS one? Her behavior didn't start yesterday. Why does she feel comfortable strutting around the house with next to nothing on and with total disregard for the next person's feeling?. Why doesn't she ACT like this when your wife is present? He should've addressed this inappropriate behavior with his WIFE. His eyes and mind have already humped her daughter and it's a short matter of time before you attempt the physical act. That's the TRUTH. I guess it slipped his mind not to mention the gender of your other children. You should also want to "give your life for" all your children, not just the 19 year old as you singled out. He's not slick.

These N***** Aren't Loyal

You had to know I was going to flip it on the men, right? Right. What's good for one, is good for the other. Ever since this term "These Hoes Aren't Loyal" gone viral, people have taken that statement and ran with it. Personally, I'm sick of that term because some people run it into the hole. Since some men love spouting how women aren't loyal, neither are they. A man meets a respectable woman who's compatible with him, they get married but...he's been cheating on his woman long before marriage. She never found out, which is the strange part. How can you be married to someone for years, and not know they're creeping? Many women have very good discernment, so they know what's up in their relationship. If something's not right, a woman will investigate because her discernment won't allow her to be made a fool of. I'm getting tired of some men saying how "hoes" aren't loyal, when men cheat just as much as, if not more than women.

Just like hoes aren't loyal, neither are some men. One good woman isn't enough for some men, he's got to have a bevy of women. If a man can't appreciate one good woman, something's wrong. When I think of men dogging women, I think of a little boy who hasn't grown up. He doesn't realize the value of a good woman because he hasn't had suitable examples. It's well known if a man doesn't have a stand-up mother, he's not going to hold women in high regard. If a doggish man is lucky to get a good woman, he'll dog her out so bad that she'll become a part of the Angry Black Sisterhood. You'll encounter them on social media or in real life: They're trademark statements are "F a black man, black men aren't spit, this, that and the third". Sadly, the doggish men give good men a bad name because when a good man encounters a jaded woman, he has to pay for another man's sins. Not many men will tolerate a jaded woman, as he shouldn't. It's not his fault you (the woman) were dogged out. If he wasn't loyal, whose fault is it? Hers, because she had to know he was no good before she met him. A good woman cannot make a disloyal man be loyal. Before a man shoots off how women aren't loyal, he should ask himself the same question.

Pastor Jamal Bryant: These Hoes Ain't Loyal

The above mentioned statement has Pastor Jamal Bryant in hot water. I've listened to the message on The Word network and liked the overall premise. As soon as Pastor Bryant said "these hoes ain't loyal", people caught feelings. In a way I understand why because you don't expect to hear that kind of language from a pastor. Most churchgoers expect pastors to be dignified in their sermons, but sometimes you have to tell it like it is. That's what I feel Pastor Bryant did, he kept it a little too real. When you have a platform, you're free to say what you wish even if it will offend some people. If it doesn't apply, let it fly. We have too many pastors that are afraid to tell it like it is because they don't want the congregation to leave. If something (s)he says struck a nerve, it was for a reason. Truth is like medicine: Once you get past the bitter taste, it will benefit you. Every pastor has their own style, and I get that. Joel Osteen is more of the encouraging motivational preacher kind, Creflo Dollar has a teaching style of preaching, etc. There are times to keep it real, and there are times to offer encouragement & hope. When I think about it, he's telling the truth. Hoes aren't loyal, they're not supposed to be. Hoes are for EVERYBODY. Some men get upset when they see their side chick sexing another dude, but he should've remembered she was a ho. Noooooo...he wanted to hit, which he did, and now he wants exclusive rights to her. Fellas, if a woman is loose, you can't claim a ho as your own. There's a reason she's a ho, she doesn't want to be tied down to one man. The sooner some men learn this, the better off they will be.

Enough Is Enough Pt. 2

Enough Is Enough for men not taking care of business.

Enough Is Enough of women trying to be men and vice versa.

Enough Is Enough of men co-signing women just to gain their approval. Last time I checked, that's simp territory.

Enough Is Enough when men think that getting booty is a rite of passage.

Enough Is Enough for a lack of revival in America. We have hurting people, many of which are hanging by a thread. If they don't get a touch from God, they will end it all.

Enough Is Enough when children can't safely play in some neighborhoods because of random rounds of gunfire.

Enough Is Enough of this student loan crisis. How can people expect students to pay back loans when they can't find suitable employment? That's dumb.

Enough Is Enough of false reports saying the unemployment rate has fallen or remained stagnant. Anybody with the ability to dig deeper knows the actual unemployment rate among various groups is 2-3 times higher.

Enough Is Enough for employers complaining about the lack of skilled employees. You pay skilled employees according to their skillset and education, period.

Enough Is Enough for men gossiping like women. A man addresses another man face to face, not talk behind his back. I've never seen so many catty men in my life.

Enough Is Enough for millions of people being in debt. My ultimate goal is to become debt free so I can build wealth and give. This comes from being strategic in the moves I make.

Enough Is Enough when (wo)men try and crawl back into their ex's lives, because they "realize" they messed up. Why does it take losing a good (wo)man to realize you had a good thing going?

Enough Is Enough for every show being a reality show. If regular people can get rich & famous by cutting up on national TV, maybe I need to write my own reality show.