Pastor Jamal Bryant: These Hoes Ain't Loyal

The above mentioned statement has Pastor Jamal Bryant in hot water. I've listened to the message on The Word network and liked the overall premise. As soon as Pastor Bryant said "these hoes ain't loyal", people caught feelings. In a way I understand why because you don't expect to hear that kind of language from a pastor. Most churchgoers expect pastors to be dignified in their sermons, but sometimes you have to tell it like it is. That's what I feel Pastor Bryant did, he kept it a little too real. When you have a platform, you're free to say what you wish even if it will offend some people. If it doesn't apply, let it fly. We have too many pastors that are afraid to tell it like it is because they don't want the congregation to leave. If something (s)he says struck a nerve, it was for a reason. Truth is like medicine: Once you get past the bitter taste, it will benefit you. Every pastor has their own style, and I get that. Joel Osteen is more of the encouraging motivational preacher kind, Creflo Dollar has a teaching style of preaching, etc. There are times to keep it real, and there are times to offer encouragement & hope. When I think about it, he's telling the truth. Hoes aren't loyal, they're not supposed to be. Hoes are for EVERYBODY. Some men get upset when they see their side chick sexing another dude, but he should've remembered she was a ho. Noooooo...he wanted to hit, which he did, and now he wants exclusive rights to her. Fellas, if a woman is loose, you can't claim a ho as your own. There's a reason she's a ho, she doesn't want to be tied down to one man. The sooner some men learn this, the better off they will be.

Enough Is Enough Pt. 2

Enough Is Enough for men not taking care of business.

Enough Is Enough of women trying to be men and vice versa.

Enough Is Enough of men co-signing women just to gain their approval. Last time I checked, that's simp territory.

Enough Is Enough when men think that getting booty is a rite of passage.

Enough Is Enough for a lack of revival in America. We have hurting people, many of which are hanging by a thread. If they don't get a touch from God, they will end it all.

Enough Is Enough when children can't safely play in some neighborhoods because of random rounds of gunfire.

Enough Is Enough of this student loan crisis. How can people expect students to pay back loans when they can't find suitable employment? That's dumb.

Enough Is Enough of false reports saying the unemployment rate has fallen or remained stagnant. Anybody with the ability to dig deeper knows the actual unemployment rate among various groups is 2-3 times higher.

Enough Is Enough for employers complaining about the lack of skilled employees. You pay skilled employees according to their skillset and education, period.

Enough Is Enough for men gossiping like women. A man addresses another man face to face, not talk behind his back. I've never seen so many catty men in my life.

Enough Is Enough for millions of people being in debt. My ultimate goal is to become debt free so I can build wealth and give. This comes from being strategic in the moves I make.

Enough Is Enough when (wo)men try and crawl back into their ex's lives, because they "realize" they messed up. Why does it take losing a good (wo)man to realize you had a good thing going?

Enough Is Enough for every show being a reality show. If regular people can get rich & famous by cutting up on national TV, maybe I need to write my own reality show.

Enough Is Enough

Enough Is Enough for unemployment being 3x the national average for persons with disabilities, blacks, etc.

Enough Is Enough for bullying in schools. If parents can't control their child(ren), they don't need to be in public schools with civilized children.

Enough Is Enough for corporate greed. How much more $$$ do corporate executives need? They already make 20x more than their employees, and in some cases hundreds of times more.

Enough Is Enough for Americans going overseas to help fight hunger and poverty, when we have those same issues in the United States.

Enough Is Enough for this dark & light skin war. Last time I checked, dark and light skinned blacks have the same struggle.

Enough Is Enough for men sexting random women just because she looks good.

Enough Is Enough for some (wo)men demanding a (wo)man bring 100% when (s)he doesn't even have a fraction of what (s)he requires.

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH of this child support hustle.

Enough Is Enough for churches becoming social clubs. A lot of so-called Christians won't make Heaven with that foolishness.

Enough Is Enough for black on black murders.

Enough Is Enough for teachers sexing their underage students. Can't (s)he get someone their own age?

Enough Is Enough for a lack of a cure for autism. How many people must continue to be affected by autism before something is done?

Enough Is Enough for men who claim to be providers, but their wife makes more money than him. A provider is a leader financially, spiritually, etc.

Enough Is Enough for women not knowing their role. A woman is supposed to be a helpmate to her husband, not sit on her tail and do nothing while the husband works himself to the bone.

Enough Is Enough for general foolishness. People need to have some sense already.

Enough Is Enough for storefront churches in black neighborhoods, but none of them make a bit of difference in the hood.

Enough Is Enough for black neighborhoods being warzones. Shootings & murders, police sirens at 8pm nightly. Can I get some upper-middle class black communities please?

Enough Is Enough for this employer's market. It must be nice to make prospective employees jump through several hoops to compete for a job that you already had someone else in mind for from day one.

Enough Is Enough for a $15/hr minimum wage increase. Does anyone really think there will be a nationwide $15/hr minimum wage? No, because that would make the cost of everything else go up.



Most People Are Cool With You, Until You Pose A Threat

Most people are cool with you, until you pose a threat to them. You know what I'm talking about; you chill with these folks on a regular basis, and as soon as you show ambition, they get an attitude. Some people don't want better for themselves so they want to hold you back from going after what you want. These people feel like you're going to leave them behind (that may be what you have to do, if you want something out of life. At first glance, things are going great between you two; you do small talk, have a few things in common, etc. If you're like me, you don't want to entertain the thought of having someone who pretends to be in your corner, so you nip that in the bud. If you're going to be someone's cheerleader, you have their back through thick & thin. You can't be cool with someone out of convenience, you're either down with them or you're not. Being cool with someone until you pose a threat is equal to being phony. I can't & won't respect that. You have to watch everyone around you because you never know. That's where discernment comes into play: God will always show you who's for and against you, what you do with that revelation is on you. Let you and this person have an argument, and they unload on you. The thing is, you're caught off guard because you never saw it coming. Newsflash: When someone's upset, they show their true colors. They were waiting for a reason to pop off. There's an old saying that rings true: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. You show people how to treat you by what you allow.



Can I Live With The Things I Dislike About You?

Before you get involved with someone, you should ask yourself this question: Can I live with the things I dislike about you? The answer to this question should determine how far you progress in your relationship with that person. Everybody that's in a relationship has things they dislike about their (wo)man, that's a given. Some people choose to love their (wo)man despite their shortcomings, others tolerate, and some people leave. Everyone has to do what's best for them, and I understand that. Little things like occassional sarcasm isn't so bad, but when the sarcasm is frequent and becomes hurtful, you're supposed to nip that in the bud. What you allow is what will continue. If someone's honest, they will be direct in their faults & will give you the option to stay or leave. If you stay, you're accepting the good & bad of someone. I respect people who are forthright about their shortcomings, because at some point you'll see their true colors.

How do you know what you dislike about someone unless you're in a relationship? If you're friends with someone, you're evaluating them as a potential partner. You observe them at their best and worst, and their worst tells you all you need to know. Can you love someone even if they're not being lovable back? I've said this before & I'll say it again, nobody can love unconditionally. I can see why some couples live together before marriage, because you don't really know someone like you think. You're not around them 24-7, so all you can do is go off of what they give you. When you're in tune with yourself, you develop discernment. Discernment allows you to see a person's true nature. If you have good vibes with someone, you feel a sense of calm around them. They've been honest with you about who they are from Day 1, and you respect them & vice versa. If something isn't right about a person, you get an uneasy feeling. That's your spirit telling you to exercise caution.

Some will change for the better or worse. Each person has to keep in mind they're not the person they're in love or lust with. No one's mind stays programmed the same way for long or forever.

 

I'll leave you with this: Eletha Owens Also, when you find out what you don't like about a person, you have two choices: stay or go. If you choose to stay, please keep in mind that a person is most likely to be set in their ways and aren't going to change anytime soon if at all. You can't make a person change, only that person will choose to change. That's why a lot of relationships/marriages fail.

Having Someone On Lock

Never think you have someone on lock, because there's always someone with an extra key. So many times, when we find Mr(s) Right, we lock down a union with them because we think we've found the right person. Most people know what to look for so when Mr(s) Right comes, they're able to lock it down successfully. Can you really lock someone down long-term? Yes & No. Yes: If you and the person have chemistry than I would become exclusive as quickly as possible because there's always someone waiting on the sidelines to take your spot. No, because as stated at the beginning: (S)he may not want anything serious; they could be wanting to play the field. While it's important to try and secure a long-term bond with a person, it's equally important to keep your guard up, because you don't know a person's values. Anyone can tell you anything that sounds good, and most people will eat it up like a buffet. When you have someone on "lock", they're essentially yours. In a romantic sense, when you lock someone down, they are your significant other.

One of my Facebook friends said something that made much sense: "Janea Robinson So the people who married to death, were they not sharing space and time? The divorce rate is high because people marry for the wrong reasons. It's hard to build anything on a shaky foundation." You can't build anything on a shaky foundation because the foundation can crack at any given moment. When it comes to relationships, it's best to lay the foundation as friends, and see where it goes from there. When I think about it, you are sharing space & time with another person by locking them down. You're allowing them into your world; they learn all they can about you & vice versa. Depending on the quality of the person, sharing space and time could be enjoyable or a nightmare. Not everyone is meant to share speace & time with you.

Couples that stayed married until death shared space & time; it was a matter of time before the death of one spouse. They were connected to each other, they didn't belong to each other. The following quote is from Babette Glenn: "IF married couples actually belonged to each other they would marry and stay together for the right and better reasons, not just for convenience." Looking at the divorce rate, she's telling the truth.

Good Loving: Before Or After Marriage

 A couple has recently gotten engaged & decided to refrain from sex until after marriage. This couple was already having sex, so what brought on the change of heart? Let me explain why I think it's crazy: 1. The couple was already sexing prior to becoming engaged, so all of a sudden they're going to refrain from sexual activity? My guess is they want sex to mean something after marriage. If they wanted their sex to mean something, they should've refrained from the jump. No sense in switching up now. Considering they're already sexing, it won't make much difference if they decide to refrain. They're used to knocking boots before, so sex won't be anymore special after the wedding. Sex is sex. The same sex you had prior to marriage doesn't all of a sudden become special once you tie the knot; I don't know why people believe this. It's hypocritical if you're sexing your mate, then stop and expect them to agree to refrain from sexual activity until after the wedding.

You don't have to be married in order to understand that if you've been having sex before marriage, it doesn't become special once you get married. That's like a man getting loving from his woman all year around, then when her b'day, the anniversary, and Valentine's Day rolls around, he works hard to get the same nooky he's become accustomed to getting. What's really wrong with her expectations is she hasn't considered his feelings or just expects him to understand. If he agreed, he would've told you and it would be their business how they do things. In some ways, I see the romantic side of things and that's probably what she wants, problem is he doesn't and probably feels he wants to express his love by continuing what they've already been doing. I can't fault him because they've gotten used to sex to where there's nothing to look forward to, so there's really no benefit to either in waiting.

Sex is like an expensive car, once you get it, it loses it's value. However, the person giving it can dwindle or multiply it's value.