Donald Sterling Banned For Life

I want to give kudos to NBA Commissioner Adam Silver for his swift smackdown on Donald Sterling. Donald Sterling deserved his punishment because he had no right saying the craziness he did. If it wasn't for those black players and fans, he wouldn't have a team. It's good to know that the Clippers were ready to boycott if Sterling wasn't banned and rightfully so. I wouldn't want to play for a racist owner even if I was making good money. Well...I would continue playing, but I would request a trade because it would've been a matter of time before my money was looking funny. Sterling is protected by free speech, so he had the right to look stupid with his racist remarks. Make it so bad, he said it in private and STILL got caught up. The players could've raised hell, but they decided to be smart and let their rep speak on their behalf. Because of Adam Silver's quick action, he sent a message that racism will not be tolerated among NBA owners, and management.

I have no sympathy for Donald Sterling because he brought this on himself. If he would've kept his mouth shut, none of this would've happened. This situation proves one thing: Just because you have the right to say something, doesn't mean you should say it. You never know who's watching. In the corporate world, your comments will always come back to haunt you (for good or bad). Donald Sterling took a major loss: Lifetime ban from NBA (including any association with the league), possible mandatory sale of the Clippers, and a $2.5 million fine. The $2.5 million fine won't hurt him because he's a billionaire. I do hear he's facing millions in lawsuits from other issues. He's catching it from all sides, and Karma is running amok in his life. Donald Sterling has made racist comments all along, only this time he was caught. I wouldn't be surprised if further investigation was conducted on Sterling.

It's one thing to be prejudice, but to be a racist in authority is something else.



Father & Son

Steve Harvey Strawberry Letter: I met Richard at work. He was my boss, and we quickly developed a sexual relationship, but it wasn't just sex. It was my first grown-up relationship. I visited him at his home & spent the night. I had half my belongings in his house. We took trips together, holidays and celebrated birthdays together. It was an amazing relationship. Here is the problem, I was 22 when I met him, and he was 47. Even though he was a rich, gorgeous, and charming 47-year old, he was not the best in bed. I think this is where my interest began to develop for his 17 year old son, exactly 3 years into our relationship. I was getting bored; it was the same routine in bed. I thought to myself, I'm too young for this. Now keep in mind, I'm only 25 at the time and this 17 year old thought I was the sexiest most delicious thing that he has ever seen. Being Latina made that even more appealing to this kid. Long story short, one night it was just me and the kid. Both a little too intoxicated, and delved into our desires. Two years after that encounter, I'm stuck between a father and son who are at war with each other because they both claim to love me. I don't know what to do. I think I love them both.

 

This lady has earned a full scholarship to hell. She slept with an underage boy, and now she caused father & son friction. I don't understand what she sees in this kid. She should get someone her own age, and leave this kid alone. What could they possibly have in common other than having slept together? Oh I get it, he "loves" her. He loves her because he boned an older woman; this will score him big points with his friends for sexing an older woman. Aside from the legal issues, she caused a rift between a father & son. That was the drink talking because they were in the heat of the moment while making out. Liquid courage will bring out all kinds of emotions you never knew you had. That's all temporary because once that high wears off, you're back in reality. She had to know he sucked in bed prior to getting involved, and even then...given his age, he's not the same young stallion he was in his 20's and early 30's.

I know older (wo)men develop feelings for young (wo)men all the time, but that's acceptable if the couple is in adulthood. A 47-year old being attracted to a 32-year old is more acceptable than being 50 and dating a 19-year old, now that's just crazy. I doubt the father and son "love" her, they love sexing her; there's a difference. I'm looking at the mindset: A 47-year old and a 25-year old couldn't have anything in common because they're in two different stages in life. The 25-year old is still enjoying being young with no worries of later adulthood. The 47-year old has more wisdom from life experience, and is usually set in their ways. If kids are in the picture, the 25-year old will be forced into being a stepparent before their time. Not many 20-somethings are cool with being stepdad/mom so early in their lives.

She knows what to do, so she should stop playing stupid and keep it moving. This relationship is based on lust, not love. It's levels to this.



Donald Sterling Racist Recording "Don't Bring Black People to My Games,...

 

The black community is in a blaze over what Clippers owner Donald Sterling said. In short, he doesn't want black people coming to his games. Last time I checked, his team & fanbase is majority black, so what is he going to do if black Clipper fans stopped coming? His money would dry up due to lack of attendace. I don't know the racial make-up of the Los Angeles Clipper fan base, but I'm guessing it's majority black, from what I've seen on televised games. You have whites who support the Clippers, but for the most part, the Clipper fanbase is black. Let's not get on the majority-black Clipper team. The entire Clipper team wore their jerseys backwards as a solidarity show. They wanted to let Sterling know he was foul for his comments.

Sterling's racist rant reminds me of Tommy Hilfiger saying years ago that he doesn't want blacks wearing his clothing, and you see that didn't stop blacks from wearing his clothes. As foul as Sterling is for his rant towards blacks attending his games, blacks will continue showing up to Clipper games. Call me crazy, but if the owner has prejudice views towards my race, then he's prejudice against me because I'm black. I'm not going where I'm not wanted, so if he doesn't want me at Clipper games, he doesn't want my money. Some prejudice people are funny because they want your money, but they don't want you at their establishment. Snoop Dogg and Lil Wayne were a couple celebrities who spoke out against Sterling, and I can't blame them.

The down side of free speech is clowns like Sterling are allowed to make racist remarks; there's nothing that can be done. Honestly, the girlfriend should break up with this clown because she's biracial. It won't be long until he makes racist statements towards his woman's race. If she condones his behavior, that's her perogative. I couldn't be with someone who's prejudice towards my race of people, because they would be referring to me indirectly.

 

 

Does Marriage Equal Career Success?

If you get the same answer from one or more people with stats to back it up, it has to be true. Some of the most prominent people (CEO's, executives, etc.) have one thing in common: They're married. Common sense would tell you that the higher you go in your career, the more responsibility you'll have. Look at President Obama: US President, husband & father. Taking care of a family is one thing, but being the US President is another. The President has to do what's best for the entire country, even if some people won't agree with his decisions. Michelle seems to do a very good of holding it down with him, even though she's got her own initiatives going on. If there's ever a time where a helper is most needed, it's when you're tasked with running a country and your family. Will there ever be a single US President? Probably not, but it could happen. In the eyes of public opinion, if you're not married then you're not stable, and to me that's ridiculous.

I'd like to see a single US President one day, because (s)he could show the public that a single person can be just as, if not more responsible than a married person. Think about it: A single US President could devote more time to their job because their responsibility would be to the country. At times, a single US President would feel overwhelmed because of how much is on his or her plate; (s)he would have to shoulder the burdens alone. The more responsibility you have, the greater need for help so I understand where a supportive spouse would come in. Prominent people have a lot of responsibility so I understand why they're married; their spouses can carry some of the load. I think it's crazy to assume that singles aren't capable of high-level positions because of marital status. If anything, I think a single person is better suited for a high-level position because they can devote more time to their career. They don't have the responsibility of juggling work & family.

 



Big-City Women Vs. Small-town/Mid-sized city women

Big-city women are different from small-town & mid-sized city women. The majority of big-city women are opinionated, have the hustler mentality and tend to be materialistic. Small-town women are down-to-earth and know how to cater to their man. From a relationship aspect, small-town women run circles around big-city women because a big-city woman is used to getting what she wants. Men throw themselves at her with impunity, so she doesn't have to do anything to attract a man. Take a woman who was raised in a small-town or mid-sized city. She knows that a relationship takes two; both are pulling their weight to make the relationship work. If I had my pick between a small-town woman and a big-city woman, I'd go with the small-town woman because big-city dating is cutthroat. A woman from a major city has a different mindset based on her upbringing.

Why do big-city women have different mindsets than small-town women? It's simple. Women in the big-city are raised to be go-getters and strong. I guess they have to be because there's always people looking to take kindness as weakness, so to protect oneself, you adopt a tough exterior. A small-town woman is into a simpler life. She's looking for compatibility, and could care less about material things. She's used to living at or below her means so if she meets a likeminded man, they can relate to each other because they have the same upbringing. Take a couple in which the man is from a small-town and a woman is from the big-city; they are opposites so there's not much they could have in common. When you join two people together with different mindsets, sometimes they'll click, others not so much. I could date a woman from the big-city, as long as we vibed well and she was humble.

Professional big-city men are starting to see how materialistic big-city women are, so they choose not to deal with them, and I can't blame them. Yes, there's more opportunity in the big-city and when you've reached a level of success, you tend to seek out a likeminded (wo)man. What you value goes into how you live life.



Black Women Outnumber Men In Church

 

Black Women Outnumber Men In Church

It's no secret that black women, and women as a whole outnumber men in church. Why do black women outnumber black men in the church? For the most part, women are much more interested in being led by the Holy Spirit and since pastors are called by God to spread the gospel, women pack churches nationwide to hear what God has to say through the pastor. The women become so obligated to the Pastor and his wife that they neglect their own healthiness and homes. They seek out the Pastor instead of God on every decision, and oftentimes the Pastor is biased and gives advice that benefits him & his household. There are pastors who are led by God, and will advise their members to pray about their situation before seeking additional counsel. I think all pastors should require their members to read their Bible before coming for counseling. The Bible will have their answer.
Some women are notorious for saying the following: I Don't Need A Man, Jesus Is My Man. The word "my" signals ownership. No one can have him but you. You never hear men saying "Mary is my woman" or "I Don't need a woman, my momma is my #1 lady" No, because we know how foolish that sounds. I understand why some women would say the aforementioned statement, because many women have no desire for marriage so they have to stake claim somehow. Because many pastors know that their congregation consists of mostly women, they tell women what they want to hear and she eats it up. If I was being told what I wanted to hear, I'd be going there too. Pastors know how to appeal to women's emotions, so that's why many women flock to the church every Sunday & Wednesday.
Most men know the deal, so it's hard for a pastor to run game on them. Some men won't be with a Christian woman because that Christian woman is committed to upholding her standards at his expense. That's why the Bible says that believers should not be unequally yoked, because of conflicting beliefs. Also, many men know that the biggest freaks can be found in church. All it takes is the right wordplay, and she'll be screaming Jesus, but it won't be for the right reason.

Bae, I want to go

GSRT Member Question: Do you feel it's appropriate for married men/women to take separate vacations? We've been married for 2 years; it seems like every time I turn around, my husband is going away for a weekend or a few days with the boys - fishing, trips to Vegas, hiking trips, golf trips etc--wives are never invited. We took ONE vacation together last year, but he went away with his boys 5 different times! I don't like it and feel that once or twice a year with the guys is plenty. He says I'm being insecure, but if he can make time for getaways several times with his boys, why not his wife?

 

A husband & wife are under no obligation to take vacations together, although it's encouraged. From time to time, couples need to be away from each other so they can appreciate the time they have together. Like the old saying goes: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Think about it, if you're under your spouse 24-7, 365, then something is wrong; You need time to miss your (wo)man. It sounds like he doesn't love his woman because if he's always hanging with his boys, then that tells me there's something going on in their relationship that's causing him to withdraw. Maybe she's not meeting his needs, maybe he's cheating, there are too many variables to consider. She mentions they took one vacation together and he went off with his boys 5 times that year: There is some reason to be concerned because any man with a good woman would enjoy her presence on vacation with him.

There is no reason for any (wo)man to spend more time with their friends than spouse. I get their friends were there before (s)he came into the picture, but true friends would respect their relationship, and if they see something wrong, they would admonish him/her to fix things with their (wo)man. Another reason could be that she's not into fishing, going to Vegas, hiking and golf, and he doesn't want to upset her by bringing her on those trips where she won't enjoy herself. This is what she can do: Plan and schedule the trips she'd like to take with him. Put them on the calendar & tell him that those dates are RESERVED for you and him. Do not budge on it. It's ok for him to let loose with the guys as long as she gets hers. If she's getting neglected, then she's allowing it. She can also go away with her friends.

One gripe I have with questions like this is that if a man does something not involving his woman, she's quick to throw out he's cheating. If there's no evidence of cheating, there's no reason to assume infidelity. Some men actually have other things on their mind than sleeping with women.