Pledge Of Allegiance: Lotus (How To Be A Woman)

Introduction: As usual, the lovely ladies of How To Be A Woman drop another hit. This one is about loyalty. The reason why some women have issue with loyalty, is because they are loyal to the wrong men.

 

How to Be a Woman

PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE

Ladies,

Loyalty is everything. Dedication to your man creates an unbreakable bond. Relationships must be based on mutual devotion and respect. We are all familiar with what allegiance means. But, sometimes our loyalty is misplaced. We have loyalty to our careers and our girlfriends. Some of us have more loyalty to our hairstylists than we do to our own man. Constantly breaking up over minor issues is not a display of loyalty. Professing your love publicly but flirting in your inbox with other men is not dedication. If you feel like the man you are with is not worth your loyalty for whatever reason, it's time for a re-assessment of you. Could it be that you attracted someone not "worthy" of your loyalty, because your actions don't make you worthy of any either? Make that promise. Dedication to your man makes you all the more attractive. If you can't pledge your allegiance, you're a waste of each other's time.

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Wake-Up Call To Men: Stop Simping Movement

If THIS doesn't light a fire under men's behinds, I don't know what will.

 

STOP Simping Movement
Men of today will put up with anything from brawds because they don't have 'any' standards.

They will put up with anything from women, attitude and all. Women are out of pocket today because men have no standards. They (men) do not have a set of standards they adhere to, they flip-flopping game goofy sons a bitches.

And this is usually what a tender dick puts up with to get laid.

I hear and see women say and type all the time 'that a man must PROVE he's a man before she treats him with any kind of treatment like RESPECT.

And it's usually like that because men put up with bullshit attitudes from women. I'll be DAMNED, if a woman ain't coming with 100% cooperation.

I've had it, I get it, I REFUSE to deal with lower caliber women that cannot bring what I require to the table (QUALITY). Most men think they are lucky because they got a bitch, FUCK THAT!! I've had cooperation and I HAVE cooperation from women. My mindset is I've had it before, I can get it again which I do, I can and I will. I can get better than a bitch with an attitude. I do not deal with women who make my life difficult, and there are women who like to be difficult. I had a woman once tell me "I hope you have money to go with those high demands you make when trying to get women" it's high demands to a bitch who can't MEET my standards and are BELOW me. My standards are high to those who cannot reach out to me and touch me, those who cannot get with or at me. Unlike some people who have OVER EXAGGERATED STANDARDS; I've actually HAD and HAVE what I require from women, most people make standards and they've never had what they are demanding. My standards, that is how I roll, It's how I get down.

Most men THINK having women come at them with half ass cooperation is normal, because that's what they are use to, that's what they are use to putting up with.

When a woman says a man must first show her (whatever she deems worthy of man title) That's a sign she's going to be difficult. A man shouldn't have to prove shit, who the fuck is she?

What the hell do these females think this is?

Coaches do not put players in play that don't submit to them, SO WHY SHOULD A MAN SHOW A WOMAN WHO IS ALREADY GIVING HIM A HARD TIME THAT HE IS A STATE CHAMPION?
She's not even acting like a team player, or like she wants to be drafted.

Generals do not lead armies of rebellious soldiers into the field of battle, knowing it will up the chance they'll lose with an idiot in the ranks, so why should a man show a woman anything, IF SHE CAN'T STAND AT ABOUT FACE AND TAKE ORDERS LIKE A GOOD SOLDIER?
Pack your bags, go home, we do not need you.

STANDARDS, that's what I'm talking about, GET SOME!!! If women aren't showing you respect and cooperation up front, do not bother with them. -SSM.



Showing Your (Wo)man love: Dahila of How To Be A Woman

Fellas, it's not simpish to treat your lady. It's okay to buy her something nice, take her out to eat and take her to get her nails done, but only if she deserves it. If you're with a woman that treats you badly, you shouldn't even treat her to a Happy Meal. You should treat her with a charge to the game. But, if it's your woman and she's good to you, there's nothing wrong with treating her to something. Granted, you don't have to buy her flowers everyday, that's excessive. But if she likes a pair of shoes at Aldo's and you get it for her, don't think that you're a simp. You should want your woman to always look good and on point. Your woman should match your sexy. What man wants to look like he stepped off of GQ Magazine and his lady looks like she stepped off of National Geographic? Seriously, no man wants this.

If she's a real woman and she treats you like a king, return the favor. After all, she's your queen and she didn't get on that throne with you without work. She worked to get herself to a level to be with a man on a high level. So, treat her as good as she treats you. If you don't know what to get her, the Victoria Secret Semi Annual Sale starts next week. That's a treat for her and you. Treating your lady doesn't make you a simp, it makes you a king that's proud to have a great woman on his arm that is worth treating like a queen.

~Dahlia



The Friend Zone: By Dahlia (How To Be A Woman)

Intro: Dahlia (How To Be A Woman) puts men on blast about the Friend Zone. Read On

 

Fellas, I want to talk to you guys for a moment. Never allow yourself to be put in the friend zone, ever. I don't care what Guy Code or what simp books say, don't you dare let yourself be put in the friend zone. Women do not respect a man in that zone.

When a women puts you in that category, she wants the most benefits from you without having to commit to you or sleep with you. Typically if she puts you in that zone, she's talking to another man, she's in a relationship, she's using you to boost her ego, she's using you to trick your money to her and/or she views you as a "brother". Women, for the most part, do not respect 3 types of men: men who aren't dominate and don't lead, men who are simps and men in the friend zone. Don't wait for her to change her mind, because she really won't and don't simp to her, she'll use you to boost her ego and get free things from you. Women like to work for their men, because things you work for have value. If she doesn't have to work for you, she doesn't value you, so why should you be her man?

If she puts you in the friend zone, switch your game up! Become distant and unavailable. If she wants you to buy her something or take her out, make it seem like you don't have anytime for her. Tell her you're going on a date or your with hitting a spot with many beautiful women (not a strip club), even if you aren't. Also, holler at her friends and watch her switch her game up. If you talk to her friends, her ego will be frazzled because you were bold enough do it. And women like competition. Sometimes, women don't see a man as worth it unless he has other women around him. Or, just charge her to the game. Move onto women that are worth your time. You must never allow a woman to compromise your manhood. Value yourself as a man. You have to believe that you are worth something greater than the damn friend zone. Put yourself on and move onto bigger and better opportunities. Deal with women who will value your worth, your game and your masculine energy. If she doesn't, charge it!

The friend zone is the twilight zone, just a ball of confusion. You get what you allow. Value yourself, get out of that situation and move onto something worthwhile. Fellas, real men strive for the best, so don't lower yourself to the friend zone. Always value yourself as a man.

~ Dahlia ♥



A Random Thought (Azalea of How To Be A Woman)



Another POWERFUL message by one of the How To Be A Woman ladies. Read On:

How to Be a Woman

~~A Random Thought~~

I was looking at some flowers and thought of a good analogy, since women are often compared to flowers: Making a flower takes a lot of energy for a plant, no matter how big or small. Creatures are attracted to the beauty of a flower, including humans. They are colorful, fragrant, and an indication of bearing fruit.
Why does this have any relevance to this page? Well, it takes hard work to 'be a flower,' especially one that bears fruit. It takes time and effort to be gentle, nurturing, tactful, sweet, and pleasant. We are 'cultivated' by our people, views, ideas, beliefs, and experiences--our climate, water, soil, sunshine, and air. We take these things and make them our own and share them to the next person. We are the plant we become and can change depending on environment--the most adaptable survive.

If the plant is not wanted, then it is a weed. It is so easy to be a weed. They just pop up where you least expect them. They are annoying, sometimes parasitic, and deeply rooted if they want to be, but with the right tools they can be removed or cultivated into a more useful/attractive plant. I would rather keep and teach it to grow than culling the plant.
I would like our teachings to be like plant food and fertilizer. Some will be like fish emulsion--yes, it stinks and is yucky, but it is needed and useful for growing. Some will be like slow-release---it is gentle and won't burn. Some will be like compost--an oldie but a goodie. Some will be like a liquid fertilizer--a thirst quenched, a refresher. Some will be grainy and powdery--like oatmeal, it is good for you.
I'd like this page, like my garden, to be organic rather than conventional--we don't want to produce GMOs, as they are artificial and loaded with pesticides and herbicides; we want to make the real stuff--natural, more flavorful, more nutritious, and more likely to be heirlooms, and won't cause cancer in the long run.
If you are a flower according to your man and other men, please spead the seeds your flowery goodness onto the next generation so they can be the future cultivar of flowers. Be a flower or a fruit-bearing flower, but for goodness sake don't be a weed.
*~Azalea



Prince Charming: By Dahlia (How To Be A Woman)

How to Be a Woman

Ladies, it's okay to have dreams for your Prince Charming. We grow up imagining ourselves as princesses and we hope to find that prince that will whisk us away to a beautiful castle and that we'll live happily ever after! But, unfortunately, life isn't a fairy tale.
As young girls, we're princesses that dream of princes. As women, we're Queens that dream of Kings. Don't give up your dreams, because they can come true. You can find that wonderful, real man, but you must understand what it is to be a wonderful, real woman. You must be on top of your A game, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. You need to understand that while a college degree, a nice place and a good job are great things, that doesn't put you at the top of the totem pole. Real men want a good woman at their side, one who has her own mind, acts like a lady and submits to him, as well as other great features and aspects. And ladies, you already know that you only submit to the right kind of man.
It's okay to have a dream. But the purpose of a dream is to work on it to make it a reality. If you dream big, do big. Make sure you can be the best woman you can be for yourself, and be on point so that a great man will check for you. Water does indeed seek its own level, so be on your Queen ish so you can find a man on his King ish. Be the best and the best will come to you.
As it was said in "Inception", "You mustn't be afraid to dream a little bigger, darling."
~Dahlia ♥

 

 

My View: When I started this blog website in January 2012, the intent was to showcase my $.02 on various subjects. I still do that, but I also promote others' work on my blog as well. The Facebook Group How To Be A Woman is a page that I proudly support because the ladies who run it are stand-up; one of which is married. Much of this week's material has come from their page, because it's too good NOT to share. Today's topic is titled Prince Charming. Every woman dreams of finding her Prince Charming; the perfect man she can live happily ever after with. Nothing wrong with that, because a stand-up man seeks a queen he can grow old with. The difference between today's woman seeking Prince Charming, and children's fairy tales is evident: In children's stories, the princess spent time getting herself ready for her Prince. She made sure she had herself together, and she wasn't satisfied until her Prince saw nothing but perfection. Today's woman? Not so much. Some women want to be called queens, but many act NOTHING like one. How can you be called a Prince or Queen, when you don't have the qualities of one? That's nonsense. This part stands out to me: Make sure you can be the best woman you can be for yourself, and be on point so that a great man will check for you. Water does indeed seek its own level, so be on your Queen ish so you can find a man on his King ish. Be the best and the best will come to you. If you want the best, BE the best. A woman has every right to want Prince Charming, but she should make sure she's getting herself together so that when Prince Charming arrives, she will know it. Nobody has a right to expect the best, if they're not the best, or willing to become the best. That goes for men & women.

Forgive & Forget: On My Terms

Hurt is a part of life. Everyone has been hurt, will be hurt, or is hurting right now. For those who haven't been hurt, it's only a matter of time because people are flawed. Some people deliberately hurt you, others don't mean to hurt you (but they do). Those who deliberately hurt you, at least you know where they stand, and you can avoid them or deal with them from a distance. If someone hurts me deliberately, they are showing me their true colors. Once someone shows me their true colors, it's a wrap. I choose not to deal with them because who's to say they won't try to do it again? One strike is all I need, and I'm gone. Everyone is familiar with the phrase "forgive & forget", right? I believe in forgiving, but not forgetting. If you forget, you'll fall for their mistakes again. People do what you allow, always remember that. At some point, you must wise up to how a person is, and deal with them accordingly. Some people can forgive & forget, while others the healing process takes time. Some hurts are so deep that it takes time for a person to forgive & forget. For example, sexual abuse is one of those tragedies you CANNOT just get over. Most sexual abuse occurs between loved ones, and for someone to violate a person in that way is shameful. The hurt from that stems so deep, that the victim is going to need counseling, and much prayer to get over that anger/bitterness. I will say this: People who say forgive & forget are the ones who have a hard time admitting when they're wrong. These people expect others to give them a pass for their mistakes, but hold it against someone if they foul up. People like this do not make good friends, employees, mates, etc. because they can't take responsibility for their transgressions.