Ne-Yo - Let Me Love You (Until You Learn To Love Yourself)

Is he being realistic? Is Ne-Yo misleading people to think this will happen? I didn't watch the video. I have been hearing the song on the radio and the gag reflex got started up. Drivel I tell ya!!! This is 2012 and I really don't think anyone is going to attempt to heal someone who is broken no matter how in love they are with them or what they see as potential in a mate. Let's be honest, no one is patient enough to fix a damaged person. If someone's damaged, no amount of love can bring him/her back unless they get the help they need to become whole again. It takes a special person to work with a damaged person, to the point of wanting to build a relationship with them. Honestly I couldn't do it BUT...if I feel she was worth it, I possibly could. She would have to show serious growth because I don't have time to go back & forth. We're all broken to a degree; question is who's healing themselves enough that you want to help? Unfortunately, not many people are into healing themselves because they're on some "this is how I was when you met me so stop trying to fix me" craziness. For the people who depend on others to fix them: It's not their job to fix you. You should fix yourself. Why depend on someone to do for you what you CAN & SHOULD do for yourself? There's more pride in getting where you want to be on your own than depending on someone because in a way, you can say you did that. I feel like this, a man can love a woman all he wants but if she doesn't love herself, it's useless.

Secretive Adoption

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2242567/Terry-Achane-Married-fathers-horror-wife-places-baby-adopted-Frei-family-telling-him.html

Shakes Head. This article has me fuming because how could a woman be so foul as to place her child up for adoption without discussing it with her husband? Yes, he was deployed but that gave her no excuse. Stories like this are why custody laws need to be revisited & revised because it seems like a woman can be the most  unfit parent and the courts will always rule in her favor. I guess it pays to be a woman huh? To know you've got the legal system in your back pocket, all she needs is a few well-placed stories and boom, the legal system is stupid enough to fall for her stories. In the story, one couple was having marital problems because Ms. Bland suggested having an abortion and he wouldn't stand for it. Their marriage could not have been that bad to where she wants an abortion; there has to be more to the story. If her husband was opposed to the abortion, that should've been the end of it. Carry the child to term and figure out where to go from there. I guess women feel like they have all say so in what to do with a baby since they're the ones carrying. Last I checked, she couldn't get pregnant by herself (she had help) so she should've discussed this with her husband. The husband's a drill instructor who took a job out of town. Unbeknownst to him, his lady went behind his back and put the child up for adoption. The couple that adopted the child say the adopted baby is theirs and they won't give it up without a fight. Make it so bad, she gave the courts fake contact information so the husband couldn't track her down to inquire about his child's welfare; basically she gave him and the courts the run-around. Stories like this are why men need to be CAREFUL who they lay down with because you don't know. You don't know what that woman's moral character is like because as evidenced in this story, some women are very spiteful and will pull stunts like this. I can only imagine how irate the husband is going to be when he comes back only to find out his child isn't there. If my wife (soon to be ex-wife, after she pulled this) pulled this crap, best believe I would be hot. Little does she know that I would already have a tracking system in place so that I would know where my child is at all times. You can't trust nobody (even your man or wife). I'm glad the father won his case but the longer this drags out, the less time he has with his child. You can't get back time lost with your child. At least he's fighting hard to see his child because in situations like this, most men would feel if the mother wants to be spiteful and keep him from his child(ren), that's her problem and not his. The problem with that logic is this: That child will grow up one day and by the time he comes around, it will be too late because that child will be living their own life. They will get used to not having their dad around to the point of indifference. If he's there, good. If not, oh well. Life Goes On.

Facebook hiatus/Miami vacation

I first joined Facebook on March 21, 2008. Since that time I've been on FB nonstop for 4 years straight. No breaks, nada. I've met wonderful people on Facebook and continue to do so. I've even come across people I used to go to school with. I guess it's true what people say: You come up on familiar faces all the time on Facebook. Last week I decided to take a FB hiatus because as with everything, Facebook can beome very addicting. I'm in Miami, Florida as we speak enjoying this beautiful weather and taking in the city. Facebook is the last thing on my mind if I'm in Miami. Think about it, when you break away from your favorite leisure activities, you have more time to focus on what's important. You can use that time to work on a few of your goals, improve yourself, etc. Makes me wonder why I didn't do this hiatus sooner. Since my time in Miami, I've been all over the city (yes, even the hood side of Miami. The hood has some historical spots and some of the most awesome soul food around). From South Beach to Overtown on up to Opa-Locka/Miami Gardens, I've been all over Miami. I'm digging Miami so much I'm not sure I want to come back to Tallahassee, lol. All good things must come to an end so in a roundabout way, I'm looking forward to coming back to Tallahassee so I can pick up where I left off. Best believe I'm returning to Miami because there's no city like it. The international flavor & cuisine, attractive women, palm trees & blue skies, shopping, nightlife, etc. No wonder people from other cities drive for miles just to come get a taste of MIA. I never knew how rewarding a hiatus can be which makes me wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Everyone needs a break at some point, myself included. What better way to break away from Facebook than a Miami vacation?

A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life?

A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life, True Or False? It depends on the person he's with. It's true if a man's woman is appreciative of him but false if she's not. If a woman is appreciative of how hard her man tries to keep her satisfied, then he will have no problem moving heaven & earth to please her. If a woman nitpicks over everything, then her spouse will not put forth as much effort to keep his woman happy because he knows she won't appreciate it. This phrase is one of those quips women use to get their husbands to do whatever she wants, even when he has good reason to refuse. With most men lacking spine, she gets her way. Honestly, I don't buy that "A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life" statement because a man can do everything in his power to please his wife and it's not enough. She will always have something to say about how this, that and the third could've been done better, she wouldn't have done it this way, etc. If it's that important to you, do it yourself. This is why many men are reluctant to get married, unappreciative women. Can you blame them? Why would any man want to marry someone that won't appreciate him? That's silly. When a woman says A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life, red flags go up for me because that says she wants him to do any and everything to please her without reciprocity. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for moving heaven & earth to keep a woman happy but in doing so, I want to know she will appreciate it. In being appreciative of me going the extra mile for her, I have no problem doing what a good man should, and that's pleasing his lady. What one man won't do, another man will (that goes double for women). A Happy Wife Is A Happy Life is valid if a woman's appreciative of her man keeping her happy, not in the big things but the small things. The phrase is false if no matter what a man does, it's not good enough for her. She finds fault in any & everything and wonders why her man checks out. A man will always go where he's appreciated.

Respecting Your Elders

I prefer hanging around elders because of the wisdom they have. Face it, young people don't know how to be serious. They think life is about having fun when that's not the case. Usually, older people are established and have stopped playing games. They don't see a need to relive their youth because in their eyes, they had all the fun they can stand so they usually settle down. Young people just don't have the life experience of older folks so that's why I gravitate towards them. Elderly people will always tell you that back in their generation, life was more simple. People actually had respect for each other. Elderly people lived through the Civil Rights Era/racial injustice, great depression, riots, etc. These young bucks couldn't last a day in old folks' generation. Don't get me wrong, there are young people that have their stuff together but that's because they were taught well. What young person you know has their stuff together that wasn't schooled well by the elders in their family? *Crickets* That's why even though I'm 32, I'm old-fashioned in my thinking and I'm not sorry for it. You can learn a lot about life from elderly people, which is why I respect them to the fullest. Ask an elderly person anything, and 9 times out of 10, they know what to say because they've been down that road I'm traveling. Many times, they know what does and doesn't work so I take their direction into consideration.

The End Of Hostess

http://www.thebarrieexaminer.com/2012/11/21/twinkies-bakers-say-theyd-rather-lose-jobs-than-take-pay-cuts

Normally I don't do twice a day blog commentaries but this one caught my eye. As you guys know, Hostess, the company that makes Twinkies has gone bankrupt so they were forced to shut down. As I read the article further, many bakers were fed up with management forcing them to take pay cuts while management gives themselves enormous raises. That's how the business world usually works, the little guy suffers while the execs pockets are unaffected. That's not right so in a way I can understand the rationale behind the workers stance. Some people haven't had raises in 3 years or more and probably have had their pay cut once and to ask them to take ANOTHER pay cut is ridiculous. This is the type of economy graduates have to look forward to and it breaks my heart. At the same time, it's not smart to quit a job without having another job lined up. I remember a company in bad times telling their workers, you will have to suffer with me, and when our company is doing better, we all benefit from it. The workers worked hard for less pay, no one was laid off and when times got better, workers were given more money for their dedication to the company. Now the attitudes are different, companies don't give a crap about their workers, and workers don't give a crap about the company. No one works together. This is how companies fail. Bring back management working with labor, bring back the good ole work ethic and bring back loyalty between companies and employees, We need to work together or we will all surely fail.

Once Upon A Time

Once Upon A Time, women preferred strong men. Strong Men were seen as ideal because they could provide and protect their family. Nowadays, the tide has turned and now women seek out emotional men; men who cry just as much as, if not more than them. These women don't want strong men because a strong man will not put up with his woman's foolishness. A strong man will lay the law down when necessary and if he won't allow his woman to get her way, she starts pouting like a spoiled 2-year old. Women prefer emotional men so they can henpeck him. If a man is henpecked, he will cater to his woman 24-7 even if it means he bites his tongue when he has reason to speak up. A strong man is quick to tax his woman if she gets out of pocket. Why wouldn't some women want emotional men? He uses well placed tears and boom, he's got her right where he wants her. Men know how to play up to women in order to gain their favor. A man doesn't have to be emotional but if a woman likes an emotional guy, that's what he gives her and she falls for it. Discernment IS NOT women's strong point so that's why men are able to easily get over on women. Men are constantly adapting their strategy to suit women's desires, kind of like how a chameleon changes to suit his environment. If a woman told her weak man to eat dog food, he'd do it because he doesn't want her to go off. SO? Let her flip out! It seems like men have gotten soft over time. By the same token, strong women are rarely, if ever attracted to weak men. I'm not saying a man can't be emotional because if he feels the need to show emotion, go ahead but to be emotional 24-7 is too much. I can't stand to see men jump through hoops for women that aren't checking for them.