Looking Deeper

A woman's heart should be so deep in God, a man seeks HIM to find her. That would be true if she was worth the pursuit but in today's climate, most women aren't wifeable so there's no incentive for men to give chase. Even if she was worthy, many men don't have the patience because some women make men move heaven & earth to prove himself worthy to her. Here's the problem as I see it: Women who use the aforementioned statement are trying to portray themselves as a great catch when they know deep down, they aren't. Everyone wants to portray themselves in the best possible light so people can look favorably upon us. That may work for a while but eventually the truth will come out and when it does, you're looking crazy and those so-called "fans" you had will start disintegrating. If you're going to quote, at least be able to back up what you quote. If a woman says her heart is so deep in God, a man must seek him to find her, then she better portray herself as a Godly woman.

Giving The Benefits=No Commitment

We've all heard the phrase "Why Buy The Cow When You Can Get The Milk For Free?" It means if you're giving it up to someone with no commitment, you can't expect marriage from them. Sad to say, but it's the truth. If someone's giving you husband/wife benefits, why would you want to marry them? If you're like some people, there's no incentive because they're already giving you the benefit without a commitment. Some women don't know their worth so they feel in order to keep a man, they have to give it up. That may work on some men but not stand-up guys like myself and other likeminded men. I like to earn the benefits, not have them handed to me because there's no honor in that. Knowing I earned something makes me appreciate it more because of the work it took for me to achieve it. If a woman is willing to give it up to me without requiring a commitment, I have to pass on her because that tells me she doesn't value herself and is probably willing to give it up for free to other men. Men are just as guilty of this because you have some men who are so thirsty that they'll bonk any woman with a hole. You have women who apply the same logic to men; if he's giving it up to her for free and she doesn't want to commit, why should/would she? She's benefiting without a commitment. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? If you want the milk, you have to buy the cow. You can't have one without the other.

Shortage Of Good Black Women: A Brother's Perspective

Black women complain about a shortage of good black men? Well, after reading this letter there's more of a shortage of quality black women as evidenced in this letter. Here's the letter I cut & pasted from a mutual Facebook friend's wall: 

Shortage. Remember that word guys, shortage? As in inadequate, sorry, gay, criminal and unworthy. Black women have been whining about a shortage for almost 20 years now. They have pretty much complained about some of us, and insulted the rest of us, and they have done it with little to no remorse what-so-ever. I'm going to take this time to express the shortage that I and men like myself have to experience when considering black women as mates. I'm not talking to Thugs, those worthless pieces of filth are lucky anyone is dumb enough to give them the time of day. No, I'm talking about serious, strong, responsible hard working black men, who expect the best in women they choose to date. I'm going to take this post to express the "shortage" in marriageable black women that us black men experience.

Children. It is a fact that well over 70% of single black women have children out of wedlock, on average 2 children by 2 different men. In other words, starting your own family from scratch with a black woman, is about as hard as finding a needle in a hay stack. Believe it or not ladies, not all black men are cool with raising other mens' children, especially 2 or more.

Prison. Black women are the fastest growing prison demographic. Not black men, black women. It is a stat that white male dominated media chooses to keep their own little secret. Men like myself don't want convicts and criminal women for mates anymore than you do ladies.

Education. For every educated black woman there's a ton of illiterate hood rats. Should I pursue these tired hood rat women who no doubt exhibit every quality that makes it a shortage of black women in the first place? Should I convince myself that I have some chemistry with them, chemistry that I know I don't have with hood rats? I don't think so, it's a colossal waste of time for me and other black men with standards.

Weight. Yeah, I know this is a sore subject for black women, but it is a real issue. The fact that 80% of black women are either overweight or obese is alarming if you are considering them for dating and marriage. True, weight is a problem for many people, but black women are the only group with 80% of its population being overweight and obese. No matter what these black magazines that are geared toward black women's mentality may tell you, men are visual creatures, and most of us would not choose an overweight female over a woman that takes care of her body, no more than most black women would choose a broke black guy over one with money. Real talk ladies, 80% is just ridiculous, and to believe men (black, white, red, or yellow) who work hard enough to be able to pick and chose women would ignore healthy in shape women and pursue "big girls" instead, is just unrealistic and lazy.

There it is, if your a black woman, and this pisses you off, SO WHAT! Black men have had our collective faults publicly put on blast by black women for decades now.

Using Your Assets

Women complain that men objectify them; well when you have your T&A out for the world to see, what you expect? Men respect women who respect themselves, period. If a woman portrays herself as a floozy, men will treat her as such. So, if a woman wants to be regarded in high esteem, she needs to conduct herself as such. The reason why women use their booty to catch men is because MEN fall for it. Some men act like they've never seen booty before so that's why they go hog wild over a chick with an ample posterior. I'm not excusing the ladies because they should have enough self-worth to know they don't have to show their butt in order to get a man. Until men learn how to look deeper in getting to know a woman and ladies tighten up on their self-worth, this mess will always be an issue. Men and Women are at fault here because women wouldn't feel a need to dress provocatively if men didn't howl and whistle like horndogs. If you're a man and you ooga booga, catcall or do whatever childish thing men do when they see an attractive woman, you've never seen attractive women before so you react in a juvenile manner. I expect catcalling from 16-year old boys not GROWN MEN. Same applies to the ladies; see a tall, buff man and they lose their minds. There are better ways to find what you're looking for and dressing like a hoochie isn't one of them. If by chance, a loose woman does attract a good man, he's probably going to play up to her to get sex, then leave her. That's the oldest trick in the book; men have been using that strategy for ages and it has yet to fail. Tell her what she wants to hear so she can give up the poontang pie and bam, he's probably long gone. I said all that to say this: Showing up with the booty....DOESNT MAKE U WIFABLE...LADIES...PLEASE LEARN THIS!!!!

**GOT CHARACTER???**

Why Have A President?

Do most people realize that the approval rating for Congress generally ranges from only 10-20%??

I want to make a formal apology to George W. Bush. NOT because I support him -- never that! But I truly realize now that he couldn't screw up the country without the help of the Congress. NO PRESIDENT - INCLUDING BUSH - has enough power to fix, screw up, or approve much in this country BY THEMSELVES. It's not a One-Man Show folks!! Bush was being used as a puppet by folks like Karl Rove and Dick Cheney. Although probably a good man (which I hadn't always believed), Bush was just one man who surrendered his backbone to special interests. And America's prosperity was sacrificed in the end because of that. He didn't mess up alone, is my point. So ALL of the blame cannot go on him. ALL of the blame cannot NOW go onto President Obama either. The republicans in Congress vowed to make this man a "one-term President" before he even spent ONE DAY in office and vowed to say "Hell No" to pretty much EVERYTHING he wanted to do no matter how good it might be for our Nation. Putting your Politics before your People is the biggest reason why this country is going backwards, is broke, and is bitterly divided. Congress is absolutely horrible. Useless. No matter the party! And again, I sincerely hope that BOTH SIDES are going to work to actually FIX things this time. Or we are doomed. What's the point of electing a president if the PRESIDENT doesn't really have any power? I mean, Congress is calling the shots telling him what & what not to do so when you think about it, there's no need for a President of the US.

Stereotypes In Politics

This was inspired by Jeannine Carswell, an intelligent Facebook friend of mine: (courtesy of Jeannine Carswell): I don't agree with everything the Democrats do. They can stand to make some improvements of their own. But I've got to tell you...

My Biggest Issue with the Republican Party is this false (and long-held) belief many of them have that most Black People are on welfare or stay getting Food Stamps. They aren't saying that a PORTION of us are doing this, they think that MOST of us are doing that! A disgusting LIE that Fox News and the like keep spewing to their gullible followers. I mean this UPSETS me. 

Just to give an example: Let's just say that 2 in 10 Blacks are on Welfare. The other 8 people work and do NOT receive Assistance. WHY would you stereotype and mistreat the other 8 in 10 Black People and lump them in with the "welfare queens"? How are the 8 being lazy leaches if they are working??? If a young black female works at McDonald's full-time she is NO MORE of a bum than the white lady who works full-time as a WAITRESS at the Waffle House. But the white lady at the Waffle House has convinced herself that she should vote Republican because BLACK & LATINO PEOPLE ARE HER BIGGEST ENEMY and THEY are why she isn't better off in life. That is an insane mindset!! If anything, you have a lot more IN COMMON with that black lady you are hating on! Rich white republicans don't care about the poor white republicans who support them in elections. That's why it's quite laughable to see you two joining forces. If you are a beer-drinking, jean-wearing, no-healthcare-having, working-class white dude....YOU have NOTHING in common with Mitt Romney but your white skin!!! This is why Blacks & Latinos sit back in utter confusion looking at this! 

There are more white people on Welfare than ANY other group. Get your facts right! And MANY people of all backgrounds have had no choice but to get Food Stamps in the past decade -- not because of their RACE but because of the RECESSION. Not every Black Person that has received Food Stamps in their life is an "abuser" of the system! Until you can stop allowing yourself to be a Hateful Puppet for a party that doesn't care about either YOU OR ME....you will ALWAYS be misled and you will always be labeled racist for those views that you are holding because they are based on LIES. 

Do a lot of black dudes rob banks? Well...that depends on if you're willing to admit that many white dudes are pedophiles. Guess we all can stereotype huh?

This is what I think: A few people can & will mess it up for everyone. Is it right? No, because there are people that truly need the help and will use public assistance to get back on their feet, which is what public assistance was intended for. Yes, you have leeches that make it a lifestyle but to make it hard on everyone is foul.

Division

I'm starting to believe that division is a part of life. Think about it, you have Rich vs. Poor, Christian vs. Atheist, Healthy vs. Sick, Black vs. White and the list goes on and on. Read what a good friend posted on her Facebook page: (courtesy of Jeannine Carswell): All this talk going on about the President & the Congress "finally coming together". I pray that they actually do join forces to get more done. The People come First, NOT your politics!! 

Not only are we divided into Red & Blue -- we are divided young VS. old...Black VS. White VS. Latino VS. Other....Women VS. Men...Compassionate Christian VS. Greedy Christian VS. Atheist. 

Well is this nonsense going to stop or what?! If not, I seriously fear a SECOND Civil War to come for the good old USA pretty soon.

My $.02: Now is the time for everyone to come together and stop all this foolishness. Obama won twice, get over it. Join up with the Commander In Chief so we can make this the best nation in the world.