The Cowardly Man

As a man, you're supposed to embrace man principles, just like women are supposed to embrace womanhood. The worst kind of man is one who co-signs women to gain their favor. These men agree with everything a woman says even if she's dead wrong. True, we're entitled to our views but some things you need to take a stand on. There are men who talk a big game around their boys but when an attractive woman comes around, they change their stance. I call these men cowards because they lack spine. It takes a real man to stand firm in his beliefs under intense opposition. Through it all, he never waivers. He garners the respect of all (even oppressors) because he stood up for what he believed in. It's easy to have a belief during the good times but your beliefs are tested in rough waters. Are you going to waiver or stand firm? Honestly, I  can't stand men who brown nose; where is his manhood? I understand that all men share the same gender but in terms of personality, many of them differ. You have men who embrace manhood and those who embrace woman ideologies. I'm a man through & through so I will always stand up for manhood. I'm not afraid of being labeled as chauvinistic because I adhere to traditional standards of manhood (man being provider, head of the house, etc). Going further than that, I'm strong enough to tell a woman she's dead wrong (and I expect the same from her). I see so much brown-nosing from men on Facebook; men co-signing women on any & everything and the minute he has an opposing view, she says he hates women, controlling, chauvinistic, etc. The SAME man changes his POV and he's back in her good graces. I want no part of these cowardly men because to me, they're women trapped in a man's body. For real. This is why fathers are critical in a boy's life because a woman CANNOT impart manhood into a boy because she's not a man. Boys raised around women are more likely to become effeminate because that's all they knew was women growing up. You have some young men who break that cycle and realize they need strong male figures in their life to impart manly wisdom. Effeminate men are not respected in today's society because most people view them as weak.

Once, Twice, Three Time's A Charm

Why cheat? If you're not happy, LEAVE. Cheating is a waste of your time and your partner's. In the end, cheating's not worth it because the time spent sneaking around with another person could be better spent finding someone more compatible. What sounds so simple, people make so complicated. Ok, so someone cheats on their spouse, the other person finds out and gets upset (rightfully so). All kinds of emotions are running through their head: upset/angry, hurt, sad, etc. Remembering the good times they shared, the offended decides to give the other person a 2nd chance. I'm all for 2nd chances but honestly, some people abuse them. When you give someone another shot, you are trusting them not to foul up again because the next time, it's over for good. Reading the above pic, the offender has to feel genuine remorse for their transgression or otherwise, continuing to take someone back after they cheat is giving them a green light. You can't keep giving someone passes when you know they're going to abuse them. Honestly, it's tough deciding to give someone another chance because you don't know if they're for real or trying to jerk your chain. I have zero tolerance for cheating because if I'm giving my woman 1000 reasons to smile, all she needs is one reason to creep and when she does, I'm gone. No second chances. I will forgive her but I can't give her another shot because she'll have a green light to keep cheating knowing I'll take her back. As long as you lay down the law early on in the relationship, there should be no problems. People that continually take someone back after they've cheated are setting themselves up for bitterness because of allowing someone to continually hurt them. Newsflash: If someone cheats on you, they didn't love you because if they did, they would not have crept. Save the "you're never there, you're always working, etc." excuses. In the same manner, if you continually take a cheater back, you have no right to get upset because YOU allow them to hurt you.

When In Doubt, Duck Out

You know marriage is under attack when the legal industry advertises in this manner. Life's Short, Get A Divorce. With divorce being big business, I can see why law firms would try to profit off divorce. Couples that aren't compatible shouldn't have gotten married to begin with because they've wasted each other's time. Whatever happened to approaching relationships the OLD-SCHOOL way? Get to know a person before you decide to marry them, this way when you marry them, you know you made the right decision having done your due diligence. I cannot in good conscience support financial gain from a painful experience. I personally hate divorce because of the pain it inflicts on the parties involved: The couple getting divorced and the children (if any are in the picture). I also realize that divorce is a last resort after one has tried everything to make the relationship work and there's nothing left to be done. When you've done all you can and there's nothing left, take your loss and move on. I'm 50-50 on marriage, part of me would enjoy being married to the right woman and the other half doesn't want to deal with the ups & downs of relationships. It's going to take a special woman to make marriage worthwhile for me. Many men are reluctant to marry because of child support laws and alimony which are set up to favor women; many women feeling they are entitled to this, that and the third when they aren't bringing nothing to the table. Shacking has become the new marriage: Live together without formal commitment. At least when a couple shacks, they aren't bound by legal/financial and moral obligations to make the relationship work. The option to bounce is always available. At this rate, marriage may become extinct since many people are less likely to tie the knot. Honestly, marriage used to be about love and companionship but now it's delved into a business arrangement: What you can do for me instead of what we can bring into each other's lives.

Put A Ring On It

Every woman strives for this moment, the day where her man puts a ring on her finger. The issue is that like many men, many women are not marriageable. Loud, obnoxious, belligerent and disrespectful types need not apply for marriage because they don't deserve it. A woman has to be the cream of the crop in order for a man to propose her. A man shouldn't propose to anything with a booty and a cute face. I'm aware that there are some women that don't want to be married due to career aspirations and lack of good men (they are right to a degree). A real man takes a woman for wife purposes. I don't think it's shameful that loud, obnoxious, belligerent and disrespectful women are passed over as wife material because it's not. If you're acting contrary to what you seek in a mate, you don't deserve a relationship because that man or woman is not going to want to deal with your issues. For many other women who want marriage, it's very shameful for them not to achieve wife status; that's the very thing they live, dream and strive for. To be rejected & not esteemed is one of the most painful things for a woman. For the most part, every woman wants marriage but not every woman is worthy of it.

Riding Solo

I have a soft spot for loners. To see people go through life on their own is sad to me. We were created for companionship, a basic need all humans have. There's nothing like feeling close to another person, being able to count on them in your of need and vice versa. The problem is letting the WRONG people into your life. When you let the wrong people into your life, you become jaded from being hurt repeatedly. You can choose to do soul-searching to figure out why you attract toxic people in your circle orrrr....you can write everyone off as sorry, it's up to you. Toxic people have no room in my circle so they can stay from around me. I want people that are going to push me towards my goals and overall, motivate me to be the best I can for myself. Not everyone is right to be in your life, I get that. I'm the first to say you should have a screening process in place to weed out the unqualified candidates. It's worked for me because I've been able to avoid unnecessary bitterness from creeping into my life by being jaded. That's not a good look for me. Many times, you don't have to weed people out of your life because they do it for you. I can't see how some people go through life solo, no friends & family, acquaintances, no support system, etc. It's like they're just existing. I admire self-made people who have gotten to where they are with no help from others. Those people have been told no countless times but they didn't let it stop them. Self-made people usually have very few, if any (other than family, and even family can be your biggest haters) people in their corner. Then again, some people are loners by choice. They enjoy their solitude so I can't fault them for that. Why place yourself around toxic people if you don't have to? I like being around people but most of the time I ride solo. You don't always need people in your corner to be happy in life. Sometimes, being a loner is a good thing.

Why God, Why?

If anyone says they've never questioned God, they're lying. All of us has questioned God whenever stuff goes wrong in our lives. It's natural because many times, situations happen that are out of our control and we want to know why God would allow this. The Bible mentions that God reigns on the just & unjust. It's not fair that one person can mess it up for everyone but that's what I gather from God raining on the just and unjust. Reminds me of my school days where one kid did wrong and the whole class got punished. You can be faithful & obedient, live by the word and still have to face the same wrath as a sinner. I can truly understand why most non-Christians don't want to come to Christ because if they see Christians going through worse situations than them, what's the point? It's not wrong to question God as long as it's to find your calling or ask why some people have a good start in life and others have the odds stacked against them. When you see someone who had a good start in life whereas you had to fight for everything you got, you're going to ask God why did they have everything handed to them and you had to hustle for yours? Some people go through so much in life (out of their control) they end up turning their back on God. Why live for Christ and you go through more as a Christian than in the world? Now I would NEVER turn my back on Christ but I have wondered the rationale of living for God when you're predestined to go through hell? Those same people you used to run with before you got saved aren't checking for you anymore because you tightened up. At the same time, I realize God is not required to explain himself to anyone, myself included about why he does what he does.

You Can't Be Pimped If You're Not Willing To Be The Ho

Some people make me sick to my stomach, they really do. I sometimes wonder if I'm the only person with my priorities in order because I don't run out to get every new product that hits the market. If I buy a product and it serves me well, why would I get the same product? True, the new product may have new & better features but if what I have is working for me, I'm keeping it. Take the IPhone 5 for example, $500+ retail price and you had folks standing in line for hours waiting for the release. Apple already has the IPhone 6 coming out at the turn of the year so I expect this madness to continue. Shakes Head. There used to be a time where people were content with their current position but every time a new product hits the market, people racing to get it. Most people get IPhones because of the name and not because the product meets a need; marketing pimping at its finest. Some people forefited their rent & car note for that IPhone 5; hope the IPhone was worth that eviction notice and repo notice. I like nice things but bills come first. Anything leftover is for play-play or I put that in savings. People that aren't used to nice things go buck wild when the latest gadget hits the market. Student loans are the same way; students take out thousands of dollars that have to be repaid and in this economy, many of them can't find jobs or they have to take jobs below them until they find a job in their field. Part of the blame is on the student because some students pick useless majors instead of picking fields with the strongest job growth. In order to be pimped, you have to be willing to be the ho. You have to bend over to be screwed or for monkeys to ride your back. How about employment? Most college graduates end up not working in their fields so what's the point of having a degree in Biology and you can't get a job in that area? Because of the economy, companies are cutting back so current employees are having to do more with less; some employees haven't gotten raises in 3-4 years. This is the "new" way of doing business. Veteran employees are being laid off in favor of younger workers who are willing to take less wages because they're desperate for experience. That's a form of pimping. Prostitution works especially well because a hooker solicits clients for services only to give the money to her pimp. She rarely, if ever gets a cut of the profits. It's shameful that people will virtually go broke trying to keep up with the latest fad.