Thought
Of The Day: If you're not in a relationship, you aren't happy. Really?
So happiness is based on being involved with someone that may/may not be
right for you? I like to see happy
couples in love. Yes, they have issues but being committed to each other
allows them to work through those problems. Men & Women do not have
committment issues, most people aren't worth a committment. Let's be
honest folks, men and women have more baggage than ever before and who
wants to take on someone as a project? Most people are incapable of
loving someone past their mess and in some way, I can't blame them. You
have to be patient to love him/her past their baggage in order to get
the best of them. If you can't bring your A-game to a relationship, I
will not spend time trying to fix a woman. That's not my responsibility.
My parents and friends ask me this from time to time and I tell them
the same thing: I don't want the trash most women bring: ghetto attitude
and loose morals, too busy living the club lifestyle, etc. Men have
issues they need to fix as well and probably more. Many people don't
know how to be single. They base being whole on having someone in their
life but little do some people realize that you have to learn how to be
single before you can be in a relationship. If you can't be happy alone,
how do you expect to be happy with another person? Wholeness comes from
doing soul-searching then working on yourself to where if you decide to
start looking, you and her will bring the best out of each other
resulting in two whole people. When two people are on the same page
& they are complete within themselves, they're a power couple. Many
people don't want a relationship because they value their ambition &
freedom/independence moreso than companionship. With everything coming
together (thanks to my homeboy Jesus) regarding my goals & a better
job making good money, the woman who finds me has to be on point and
then some. I'm bringing 110% to the table so I'm expecting the best of
her, minus the baggage. Character & Personality flaws are
non-negotiable with me. I will not deal with attitude & drama,
making me pay for another man's mistakes. I am wary of anybody who says
"take it or leave it" because that shows they want you to accept their
craziness but they won't deal with yours. If someone walks out because
you won't bend your dealbreakers, let them go. That's the best thing to
happen because that's less drama I, you or anyone has to deal with.
Contrary to popular belief, it's possible to find a drama &
baggage-free person. It's work but it pays dividends in a happy life
together.
