Shout Out: Mark J. Cooper

These statuses were written by none other than Mark J. Cooper. These were too good NOT to post:

Shout out to those single women who want a real man to lead but the whole time nipping at his heels and being hyper-critical of his leadership.

Do you realllyyyyyyyyy think he's going to actually marry you??

‪#‎kapow‬

Shout out to those women who feel like she's in partnership with God against all potential male suitors but selectively "forgets" that he believes in the same God she does when he's praying for protection against unscrupulous women.

Shout out to those women who can tell a man about how to be a real man but they failed in the category of womanhood.. because they're preoccupied with HOW TO BE A MAN in TODAY'S PRO- FEMINIST SOCIETY.

Shout out to those women who want a man to lead as long as he walks the path she laid.

Shout out to those women who see men on social media and they form an emotional bond unbeknownst to that man... until that female finds out he is in an unbreakable and monogamous relationship with a woman in reality..

...then that female feels he cheated on her...

‪#‎lmao‬

Shout out to those bible thumping scripture quoting women who know every verse of the bible about the man's role but omit the scriptures that pertain to their role as women.

‪#‎oooohkillem‬

Shout out to those people who complain about not having anyone and the issues for why they have no one but actually don't want anyone because they just want the attention of discussing the problems.

Shout out to those who are your "friend" until the don't agree with something you've said.

And shout out to those who choose friendship with you based upon your socioeconomic status, what they think they can use you for, what they can get out of you or your percieved popularity.

Men Taking Their Wives' Last Name

I've read the article where Zoe Saldana's husband took her last name, and one word came to mind: Whipped. First off, a man should never take his wife's last name, and I don't care who likes it. When a man takes his woman's name, she wants control in the relationship. She's saying he's going to carry on her father's legacy, and that's shameful. He might as well turn in his mancard. I'm sorry, but I can't respect a man who takes his wife's last name, no matter how famous she is. If a man is supposed to ask for his woman's hand in marriage & she agrees, then she takes his name; that's tradition. A lot of women want a traditional relationship, but some women co-sign their men taking her name in marriage. There's nothing traditional about a man taking his woman's name in marriage, but let some women tell it: Maybe he's secure, there's nothing wrong with a man taking his woman's name in marriage, and a list of excuses. Here's the thing: A lot of women complain about the lack of so-called "real men", but when they get one, they don't know what to do with him. A real man expects his wife to take his name in marriage, period. If he's a stand-up brother, why wouldn't she want to take his name? She should be honored to be chosen above the rest. He saw something in her that other women didn't have, and that's what made him choose her. For a lot of men, it's a big deal for a man's woman to take his name, and for a man to take his wife's name goes against tradition.

Here's a woman's comment from a Facebook friend's thread discussing this topic:

"Nothing is wrong in the man taking the woman's last name. There are men all over the world who do that. No pussification in that. Some do it as the ultimate gesture of their love. Some do it if there are only girls and no boys to carry on the family name of the woman. I'd be very happy if my husband took my name."

I respect others' views, but I can't get behind this at all. What men does she know that take their woman's last name? I'm sure she knows a few, but they're probably soft. Of course she would be happy if her husband took her name, because even though some women say they want a traditional relationship, they don't. Some women want watered-down men, and they got what they asked for. So ladies, go ahead and co-sign your man taking your name. Understand that in letting him take your name, you have no right to desire a traditional relationship. You gave that up long time ago when he agreed to take your name.

Tighten Up Fellas: By Mark J. Cooper

Fellas:

You will understand that there's only one woman that can help you and your business plan for your life to flourish... and until you actually find the woman that was custom made for you, you will never feel the need to be a womanizer again, for she will fulfill your every desire.

And Until that time comes... you'll likely continue to deal with heartache and incompleteness.

... don't be mad, be wise.

Wisdom For Men: Mark J. Cooper

This week is dedicated to one of the wisest brothers I chat with on Facebook, Mark J. Cooper. For a week, I'm posting words of wisdom from this man here. Without further ado, let's get into today's message:

A man should never follow a woman's plan if he is supposed to be a leader within that relationship. While she may have good ideas to implement into his leadership plan... she can never be the leader.

Otherwise it is her who is the leader and she will still hold you accountable for the plan's failure if you follow behind her plan. If she has a problem with you leading then you have a contentious woman and you should reevaluate your relationship for it will be short lived.

...don't be mad, be wise.

Glutton For Punishment

So many times I've heard women say, "I can't leave him because the sex is so good.", and my response is always the same: Well, go ahead and enjoy the good sex that comes with being mistreated. Good sex should never be a reason for anyone to stay in a bad relationship, but the reason why some people do is because they don't know their worth. They think with the other head instead of the one attached to their shoulders. I'm grateful everyday that I don't put sex on a pedestal that I stay in a bad relationship. No sex is that good to me to where I will tolerate foul treatment from any woman. Sorry, but my worth won't allow it. If other people choose that for themselves, that's their decision; if they like it, I love it. I hate to see people hurting because they would rather enjoy the good sex in a bad relationship. As with everything else, it comes down to choice. Would you rather enjoy good sex from the right person or good sex from Satan's spawn? If you're smart, you choose #1. I have to be honest: Some people are gluttons for punishment if they would stay in a bad relationship just because they enjoy the "sex." In that case, they have no right to complain about being mistreated because they allow themselves to be dogged.

Advancing Black Americans

I got this from a mutual friend's Facebook page:

First off, I'm targeting the media who does a good job of painting blacks in a bad light. I would order proper representation of blacks in all sectors: Media & entertainment. Next, I'd clean up all black neighborhoods of violence & drugs; get rid of all gangsters, dope boys and those who stand on the corner doing nothing. Honestly, it's a dead giveaway that a neighborhood is rough if there's frequent police presence, you see the same guys standing on the corner from sun up to sun down, gunfire, the only black businesses are low-income stores, etc. No low-income housing because residents would have paid on the job training programs specifically designed for them to make enough money to move out of the hood. All black communities would have their own schools teaching our history & culture, our own colleges & universities, etc. What blacks have to travel miles to another part of the city for, they would have right in their own neighborhood.

Did I Miss It Or What?

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

When I read this Strawberry Letter, at first I thought the husband was being jealous, but now his gripe is legit. Why would his wife get bent out of shape because her husband was mad that another man spoke to his wife in a disrespectful manner (he states the man who spoke was smiling with his boys.)? That's a dead giveaway that there's more to the story than she's letting on. No wife would get that upset over her man checking a perceived offense, so to me she could have something going on. I, and others have mentioned in Facebook groups that men can see things women can't. In a perfect world, a man can speak to a married woman & think nothing of it, but because some men have ulterior motives when speaking to married women, you really can't put anything past folks nowadays. Her husband was right to be upset because he saw a perceived offense against his wife, and he handled it accordingly. A man's job is to protect his turf at all costs. If someone is entering his territory, the husband is within his right to eliminate any & all threats. I don't see anything wrong with the husband's reaction, because if another woman spoke to him in a flirtatious manner, best believe his wife would lose her mind. She raised a red flag for getting upset with her man that he checked the disrespect as he saw fit, because unless something's going on between this other man and the married woman, she shouldn't be mad at her husband for protecting what's his. In conclusion, I side with the husband because like a lot of husband, he knows a man's true intentions. What she saw as a simple hello, he saw something more than that.