If You Think You're Lonely Now

Today's blog message is titled If You Think You're Lonely Now. My blog is going to be a spin on the Bobby Womack classic, later remade by K-Ci and JoJo. Saturday was Valentine's Day, the day were couples go all out to show love for each other. Call me crazy, but why would you wait one year for a  day to show your (wo)man how much you love them? You should be showing them love year round, and Valentine's Day is the culmination of the rest of the year. My heart goes out to all singles who spent V-Day alone. Some (wo)men felt some kind of way because they had no one to call their Valentine. In my opinion, Valentine's Day is overrated because you spend hundreds of dollars to show love for your spouse, only to fuss with them the next day. Where do they do that at?😂😭You and your spouse are lovey-dovey on Valentine's Day, and tomorrow y'all are at each other's throats. If that's what love is, I want no part of it.

I can't stand when (wo)men are so desperate for a Valentine that they'll go on a date and break up with someone the next day. I believe the term for that is "user". Someone spends money on you for V-Day, they think you could be the one, but you're using them because your butt doesn't want to be alone for V-Day, so you date them for a month leading up to V-Day, then break up with them. Richard doesn't respect that. Make it so bad, the (wo)men who pull this mess don't feel bad about it. In their mind, they felt special for one day & afterwards, they have no use for that person. This is where my discernment kicks in to avoid these types of women because she tried it. No woman will get my goodness without me. In other words, she takes me along with the benefits of being with me. I wonder how many (wo)men got together for a month leading up to Valentine's Day, only to break up the day after. This happens much more than I want to admit, but I'm glad it does because it shows me who people really are.

In conclusion, if you're a (wo)man that feels some kind of way about being alone for Valentine's Day, and you pull this mess of getting together only for one day to break up afterwards, you make me sick. Karma has a way of checking you.

Why Women Aren't Being Pursued

A woman is only worthy of pursuit, if the man sees her potential value to him.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) February 14, 2015

So many women complain about interested suitors not pursuing them, which leads some women to believe that something's wrong with them. It's like this: A man will pursue a woman he sees value in. If a man doesn't recognize a woman's value, there's nothing wrong with her per se, it's just that she's not valuable to him. The simple solution for her is to remain single until the right man recognizes her value. No sense in crying over why this & that man isn't checking for you. People need to stop depending on others to see your worth; not everyone will see your worth and that's fine. Maybe it's not for some men to realize a woman's worth because many men are looking to come up at a woman's expense, and that's not a good look. It's happened many times over; a woman works with a man to help him come up, then once he's made it, he leaves her. She's stuck looking crazy because she invested all this time into a man, and another woman reaps the benefit of her work. She had good intentions, but the wrong man sensed her worth and took advantage of it. I'm all for pursuing a woman, but I have to recognize her value to me. How can we make each other better? By getting with a woman I can't see the value in, I'm doing her a disservice (hopefully she would feel the same about me), and I don't do people like that. If a man pursues a woman, it's because he sees the value she could bring to his life. When a man sees a woman's value, he will move heaven & earth to lock her down because he knows other cats are sitting in the cut ready to take his spot.

Husband Sleeping With Sister

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

After reviewing this strawberry letter, it's safe to say that this man has express flighted himself to hell. It's one thing to for a man to sleep with another woman, but when that woman is your wife's sister, that's messy all across the board. He better be glad she didn't go off on him, because we might be watching him on CSI or First 48. In any event, this man was dead wrong for sleeping with his wife's sister. You have a good woman who gave you a precious daughter, and he's going to pull this mess. I'm not coming down on the wife for taking her daughter and filing for divorce, because the wife has to look out for herself and child. Maybe the sister was a knockout so he had to get a taste; or, he could be frustrated with his woman and he wanted a stress reliever, and there she (the wife's sister) was. All she can do is forgive her sister, and keep her out of her life as much as possible. Yes, she can't divorce family but she can refuse to allow bitterness and anger to cloud her body. The sister and husband will pay for their misdeed on Judgment Day, so she shouldn't worry about it. She's already left him, so that's the first step; next step is focusing on her child. The sister is going to live with that for the rest of her life. When they were caught sexing, the wife's sister couldn't look at her because the sister knew she was foul. Knowing this, sometimes family can hurt you the worst because they know everything about you. The wife has every right to be upset with her sister for violating. If she wants to cut her sister out of her life for good, that's her decision. Sometimes, toxic people (family or not) need instant removal.

Unfaithful Wife, I Told Him To Invite Her Over

Strawberry Letter | Steve Harvey in the Morning on WDAS

The more I read these Strawberry Letters, the more I'm convinced that almost no one is capable of honoring their wedding vows. It's like everywhere you turn, infidelity is going on. Why get involved with someone if you're going to cheat on them? That's stupid. It's like this, you can get involved with someone and you still don't KNOW them like you think. You're not around that person 24-7, so there's no telling what they're thinking. I don't care what anyone says, no one's completely open with their spouse. People will tell you what they want you to know because if they decide to scheme on you, they don't want to be found out. It seems like military servicemen & women are prone to infidelity because both spouses are apart for several months, sometimes up to a year and in that time frame, one or both could be sleeping with another person. This is why people don't need to be airing their business because they don't know who's watching, and in this instance it was the children who knew about the infidelity.

When it comes to cheating, actions tell the whole story. Being secretive, denial, getting in feelings when confronted about infidelity, and then catching your mate in the act should give him all the clues he needs of a cheating wife. Maybe the wife didn't understand what she was getting into with a military man. She liked the idea of being with a military man, but she doesn't agree with the required separation period. Anyone who's in the military will vouch for the following statement: When someone signs up for the military, their family signs up with them. The reason is while the (wo)man is fighting overseas, the family is taking care of the homefront in his/her absence. This man has all the clues he needs to recognize a cheating spouse, the question remains: What is he going to do? Personally, she would be gone at the first offense. I'm a believer that people do what you allow. If your spouse continually cheats on you, it's because you allow them to. You're scared to be alone so you'll put up with infidelity just to say you have someone.

Strawberry Letter: Jan. 19, 2015

Normally when I do Strawberry Letters, I always post the link to the letter and give my $.02, but I want viewers to listen to the audio version of Steve's Strawberry Letter. This situation is bonkers.

Zing! Pt. 2

It's hard to find people that are worthy of love. No wonder why most people remain single because you have to go through so much crap, much of which is out of your control.

2. Some (wo)men say they hate their spouses, but they love how (s)he puts it down in the bedroom. 

3. Most women have Master's Degrees in Taxation, but somehow they consistently pick doggish men.

4. I'm starting to enjoy Scandal. It's got a strong plot, which is ironic because I was the same one ranting & raving against the show. Moral of the story: Give something a chance before you write it off.

5. President Obama has had everyone at his head from Day 1, but he shut everyone down with his famous statement: "I don't have anymore campaigns to run, because I've won both of them."

6. It's sad that majority-black cities have very high violent crime rates, poverty, and failing schools.

7. Memphis is a city I wouldn't mind living in long-term. Lots of black history, and interesting culture. Reasonable cost of living and the job market is pretty good.

8. NCIS Los Angeles has had some serious firefighting. Good guys and bad guys exchanging gunfire.

9. Since I've been following Billy Graham's Bible reading plan, I've gotten so much out of God's word.

10. This is someone's response from a Facebook group I'm in: You know if you asked a lady the difference between thyme and oregano, she'd think you were being disrespectful, but if you asked if she did anal, she's going to give a coy smile.

Confession: What I Dislike

Until today, I've never done a confession. I'm going to start doing a series of confessions as to what I dislike about humanity. There's a time for positivity, and a time to be real in your writing, so that's what I'm about to do. Today's Confession is titled What I Dislike. Here we go:

1. I dislike people who can't get along with others. It's not all about you, so get used to having to co-exist with various personality types. That doesn't mean you have to be friends with them, in fact I'm a proponent of assembling with likeminded folks. Opposites do not attract, as society has you believe.

2. I dislike men who put women on a pedestal that they get in their feelings if a woman rejects them. She rejected you, so what. One may say no, another will say yes. I've never had to deal with rejection from women because I don't value them enough to want romantic involvement.

3. I dislike people that talk too much. You have the right to remain silent because anything you say, can & will be used against you.

4. I dislike those who try to shame me into feeling bad for being single. While you're fussing with your spouse, I'm good on this end. No arguing, having to compromise to please her, etc. You folks can have that "For Better Or Worse" nonsense. My happiness and peace of mind is far more important than loving someone at their worst.

5. I dislike women who say "I can't stand women that can't get along with other women". If getting along with other women means catty behavior, no wonder most women refuse to associate with their own gender. I don't blame them.

6. Everybody has a gift of "discernment". Right, they think I was born yesterday. Discernment is a silent gift, meaning you don't have to brag about having it.