Positive Friday

Starting today, I'm going to do Positive Friday. Positive Friday is where I share inspirational tweets from some people I follow on Twitter. With all the negativity in society, people need every bit of positivity to get through life. Here we go:

In the end, you’ll realize that the best thing in your life is not a thing.
— Believe (@LargerThanWords) October 17, 2014

Your Purpose has been Decided by GOD, and it's meant to be Discovered by You. #LoveMovement
— #LoveMovement (@Featuring_Jose) October 17, 2014

It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.
— Believe (@LargerThanWords) October 17, 2014

Being a prisoner of hope means that you don’t let yourself get talked out of it. Believe that today will be your day.
— Joel Osteen (@JoelOsteen) October 17, 2014

Sometimes the decisions which seem hardest to make, are the ones that will eventually make us happiest.
— Believe (@LargerThanWords) October 17, 2014

Most people have a hard time with this one:

In a relationship, you have to accept the other Person as a whole, Not just the parts that are easy to like. #LoveMovement
— #LoveMovement (@Featuring_Jose) October 17, 2014

I love this one from my old pastor:

Now look at your own life. You belong to a creative God, & He’s creative enough to turn your darkest hours into your most glorious moments.
— Ron McCants (@ronmccants) October 17, 2014

Don't talk about the way you are. Talk about the way you want to be.
— Brenda Edwards (@BEdwards1115) October 17, 2014

Preachers Of LA: Carnal Christians

On last night's Preachers Of L.A., the subject was Saved, Sanctified, and Sexual. Deitrick Haddon sounded stupid with his comments about virgins. When his friend Tim said he was 49, and a Virgin, Deitrick acted shocked. Why be shocked? Just because he couldn't keep it in his pants, doesn't mean everyone is the same way. That's what's wrong with Christians today, and is the reason why sex has NO PLACE in church, because Christians discuss it according to the world's standard, and it's looked at as vile. Pastor Tim sits down with Wayne & Myesha Chaney, and Myesha giggled when Tim revealed his virginity at his age. Myesha's reaction proved one thing: Christians have become so carnal, that they ridicule a virgin believer. According to the Bible, fornication is a sin, so let them ridicule all they want. Virgins have the last laugh because they don't have to deal with the pain of bad relationships. Contrary to what the world has people believe, there are some people that don't place sex on a pedestal. Not everyone is concerned with chasing tail. There are believers who have a far greater purpose than just getting some action. Kudos to the believers who aren't influenced by carnal Christians. I salute you to the highest! It's not easy holding out in a carnal world, especially when there's so much pressure to "do it". Everyone around you is fornicating with this person & that person, but there are those who actually have self-control. Those are the ones who get my respect.

Just because YOU are hot in the pants it doesn't mean everyone else has to be. Nothing is wrong with waiting on the Lord. #PreachersOfLA

— Tiffany Montgomery (@tmontgomeryrn) October 16, 2014

@PreachersofLA Tonight's episode is why Christians are so carnal, because they view sex according to the world.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 16, 2014

Boy these Haddons are irritating me. Thats what wrong with the world now! #SexIsOverrated Its TOO much emphasis on it. #PreachersOfLA

— IGclassydiva_inheels (@DntUwannaSHANTA) October 16, 2014

This tweet sums up the entire blog message:

@PreachersofLA It's truly sad that Christians mock fellow believers for remaining virgins. Sex isn't everything.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) October 16, 2014

God Less America

God Less America

The LGBT strikes again. The City of Houston demands that pastors turn over sermons dealing with homosexuality, and gender identity. Look, it's one thing to attack Christianity outright, but to disguise it as "equality" is foolish. Understand this: I'm NOT promoting hate against homosexuals/lesbians or transgender folks, but I have to take a stand here. True equality involves equal rights for ALL, not a select few. The gay community needs to keep it real, and just say that they're trying to stamp out Christianity. They're too scared to be honest and say, "We're trying to eliminate Christianity", so by dressing it under so-called "equality", that'll take some of the heat off. The only issue is that most people can see right through this. If there was a time for the church to stand up, that time is now. Homosexuals are serious about forcing their lifestyle on society, so Christians should be just as vigilant about their beliefs.

Why should pastors be forced to turn over sermons dealing with homosexuality? Last time I checked, pastors are protected under the same 1st Amendment rights as others, so if pastors want to speak against homosexuality, that's their right. It's not that pastors are speaking against the homosexual, they're against their sin. It goes back to what I said in a previous blog, Christians can love the sinner, but hate the sin. Pastors are called by God to preach the truth according to God's word, and homosexuality goes against everything God stands for. The problem is that pastors are scared to keep it real. They don't want to lose half their congregation, so they preach milk-toast sermons instead of realizing that sometimes, you have to preach the uncompromising truth according to God's word. Looking at the state of America today, I'd say God Less America is a good title.

Monica Wright Ends Engagement to NBA Superstar Kevin Durant

Monica Wright Ends Engagement to NBA Superstar Kevin Durant

WNBA Superstar Monica Wright broke things off with NBA star Kevin Durant. The reason was that Durant was unfaithful. I stand behind this sister because even though you've invested time with a person, you're not supposed to tolerate cheating. If you overlook small matters, you'll let big things slide. Monica Wright did the right thing, no matter if her fans hate her for it. There comes a time where you have to put your faith first, and if your fans can't respect your decisions, they weren't your fans to begin with. True fans will have your back, even if they don't understand your decision. Sometimes, it's not for her fans to understand why Ms. Wright to do what she did. She said it herself: Her decision to break up with Durant was based on Godly principles. He was cheating on her, and she wasn't standing for it. When you know your worth, you're less inclined to tolerate mistreatment from your mate. The average woman would've stayed, knowing he was a walking millionaire.

Monica Wright's decision to leave Kevin Durant confirmed the difference between a godly woman and worldly woman. A Godly woman knows her worth because she was made in God's image. She respects herself enough to walk away from that which doesn't edify her, and that's what Monica Wright did. If Monica wasn't saved, she would've stayed with Durant because she would've been blinded by dollar signs. Some women are blinded by dollar signs, so she'll put up with any & everything because she doesn't want to lose that comfort. There are "worldly" women who value themselves too, but a Godly woman's worth is far deeper than that of society. In my eyes, she's the real MVP for staying true to her values, and refusing to compromise herself as a Godly woman. In conclusion, she (Monica Wright) didn't let money make her settle. Because she didn't let money make her settle, that makes her God's MVP.

In conclusion, you have to take a stand for what you know is right in God's eyesight. When you do that, God's rewards far outweigh any punishment you could face for taking that stand.

Broke into Neighbors House, Wife was Away!

Strawberry Letter: I have had a crush on my neighbor for years, but he has never paid me any attention. So what I thought was when his wife/girlfriend was away, I would hit on him. When I saw him heading for the store, I would go to the store, when he would go to work, I would make it my business to be outside when he leaves or when he gets back from work. Shirley, I have went so far as picking up a cigarette butt he was smoking when he was walking home once. Now let me tell you what happened, I noticed his wife/girlfriend goes away occasionally and he is home alone, so on night I decided to break into his house and seduce him. What man would turn ME down? I mean me, I should have thought about it when I entered because it appeared to be quiet, so I started looking around, and the next thing I knew I was being attacked. I was getting hit so hard, I thought I was being beat with a bat. All I saw in this man's face was the hate that you would have for another man. He beat me so bad that I had a broken wrist as well as a broken tooth, I didn’t think no one could hit so hard. He hit me for about 20 minutes and threw me out the front door, and I was glad to be free from him. When I got home, I didn’t tell anybody what happened; I stayed in the house. Did he know I was a woman or what? That happened 2 years ago and I see him every now and then, and he walks past me like he doesn’t know me. Do you think he knows it was me who he beat that night?

My Response: She's lucky to be breathing, because he could've shot her. You don't run up in anyone's house with bad intentions because they will give you a lead shower. This is the mess I'm talking about when I speak on relationships: People have NO respect for relationships. You can marry with the best intentions, and your spouse will still do what they want, so it's almost not worth it to get involved with someone. People talk a good game when they're in front of you, but when you two are apart, you don't know their real intentions. From the way she describes herself, she's shapely and very attractive. Based on her confidence, I'm sure she could pull any man, but why go after a taken man? I'm thinking every man she has pursued (or pursued her) has turned her down, so the only man she feels she can get is a married one. It's said that a married man is the highest possible caliber because that woman has what other women desire, a good man that'll do right by them. This man beat her like a runaway slave, and for 20 minutes at that. How was the man supposed to know that was her? He didn't, so he did what was best for him, and that was beating her like she stole something. I'm just glad she didn't get shot. Anyone else would've been a crime scene, I'm just being honest. I think he may be ashamed of beating a woman like a dog which explains why he's avoiding her. She saw a crack, and tried to take the whole mile, but she got what she asked for, more than she asked for. I bet she'll think twice before running up in another man's house. What if he had a gun, and shot her? This is why people need to be careful when they get others involved in their web of deceit, because it could backfire.

Issues With Independent Women?

First off, I don't know of ANY MAN that has an issue with independent women. According to Facebooker Deanna Butler, she feels men have issues with independent women. First off, men don't have issues with independent women, it's the arrogance & attitude that comes with it. Here's a few comments from the debate (over 200 comments and counting)

"It just seems like they want a woman who is down on her luck or something. I just don't know any more."-Lovely Day

"It's been my experience that men are wired to be needed and wanted.  So if a woman is independent where she hasn't saved room for him besides in her bed, what's the point.  I think most men appreciate a woman whose well rounded and can hold it down.  They just don't like the attitude some "independent" women have. But I'm not a man and I'm single so what do I know...."-Twanna Gill

Michael Garrett: Not all men have a problem with this, what I do have a problem with is a woman trying to be the Alpha male in our household!

Richard Hudson (myself): 😴It's the attitude that comes with being independent. Some women like to scream they don't need a man (which may be true), soooo...why are you looking for what you don't need?

Swoll Heffner: We don't have issues with independent woman at all. What we have issues with are the women who uses her status as a token to prove over achievements in their education and careers. We're proud of those accomplishments, but it's the women that becomes shallow in those feats that we don't like or appreciate.... Deanna Butler

Darnell Cooper's comment was spot on: After someone defines "being independent" as not being an insufferable bitch,.. the convo will start.

Harsh to say it that way,.. but I had run into enough "independent women" who believes "Independent" = "Having it her way" up to and including Spending his money, burning his time, scheduling stuff that doesn't inconvenience her.

I don't feel any pity for those women who see independence this way and complain that men don't accept it,.. life is too short.

C Rob Jones: Its not that she's independent.... Its the fact that most self proclaimed independent have this level of arrogance that turn men off. Its great that you are doing your thing ... very great.. need more like ya.. however SOME are just too much and too independent

Ranata Denise: They wanna play captain save a hoe. Lbs. I don't know why a woman can't be proud about being a success. So men can be arrogant but not women? I see men throw around their success left and right.  And I don't think women say they don't need a man cuz they are independent. They say it cuz they are fed up, like most women, with men. That's my take on it. Of course we need a man, but we're not hurting without one is all that means.

Michael Moultrie: I am being honest with you. I will put this on my deceased father and uncle. I have never ever heard in my circle of friends or family about them feeling any type of way that a woman is doing good financially better than them. That has got to be the dumbest thing I have ever heard in my life. If somebody really thinks about it, how dumb does that shit sound. Most men got problems with that fake attitude that comes with it. If you don't need anybody spiritually, financially, or physically then you need to stay single. I am not dating anybody that doesn't serve me any purpose or I don't need them in some type of form or fashion.

Twanna Gill: I feel like if you are with a man you can't trust to lead the relationship he's simply the wrong guy for you.  Doesn't necessarily reflect badly on either person.

Lovely Day: I believe in being capable or having the funds to get it done, single or in a relationship. I won't be alpha but I can't be so dependent either.

Robin Butler: I'm old school and I like the traditional household. That's always been my dream. My mother work but she doesn't have to. If she walked in a quit my dad wouldn't say a word. My grandparents were the same way. The men always took care of the woman and she took care of the house.  So I guess its embedded. I can handle my own don't get me wrong but I do respect having a mam around the house.

Richard Hudson: Lovely Day, my approach to relationships is simple: There can only be one chief in the relationship. If she refuses to submit even after I've shown myself worthy of following, I can't, and choose not to deal with her any further.

Neathra Stanberry: I don't think its that "men" have an issues with the woman being successful or independent. I think its the attitude that comes with "what most men assume" women with this type of success will portray. As soon as I say what my profession or where i live the very first thing i hear is "oh you like to be in control". I think most of us assume.

From these comments, you have a balanced view. Some believe men don't have a problem with independent women, others do, and according to their old-school upbringing, they feel like the man should lead. I'm all for a man leading, but there are areas where the wife may be better in, so he would be wise to defer to her strengths. The man has a different perspective than his lady, so he can see things a little more clear. There are times where the man leads, and times where he has to defer to his lady.

Preachers Of L.A: Loretta Is Fed Up

On last night's Preachers Of L.A., Bishop Noel Jones threw his friend Loretta a birthday party. During the party, Noel shared his feelings with a poem he wrote. It was pretty smooth, but she was disappointed because she was expecting a proposal from him. Bishop Noel Jones and Loretta have been friends for 17 years, and anyone can clearly see they have feelings for each other. They've had intimate conversations about the direction of their relationship, they greet each other with kisses, etc. I could be wrong, but friends don't greet each other with kisses, at least not same sex friends. If it's a man and woman and they're just that friendly, then maybe they'll greet each other with a peck on the cheek. Last night, Loretta decided to confront Noel about her disappointment, and she told him he needs to grow up, and give her the love she deserves. Bishop Jones told Loretta earlier that he's content with their friendship, but Loretta wants more. The other preachers are enjoying married life, and Loretta feels left out because she's the only one who's unmarried. Lavette (Bishop Ron Gibson's wife) told Loretta that her merchandise is good, meaning she has a pure heart and is worthy of a good man. I respect Loretta because she finally got some gumption and told Bishop Jones to give her the love she deserves, or there's a possibility she may not be around. I've long said that Loretta comes off desperate. She keeps asking for more than what Bishop Jones is willing to give. Hopefully, Bishop Jones will make Loretta his leading lady, or Loretta needs to exit and don't look back. There's no sense in holding onto something that's not possible.