Public Service Announcement: Money Equals Power

Finances are one of the top reasons for divorce. Ask any married couple who's been married for over 40 years and they'll tell you. When the money pours like the Mississippi, life is good. When the money dries up like the Sahara, that's when trouble creeps in. Couples have to make every dollar last until they get paid (which could be monthly, bi-weekly, twice a month or weekly). They can't live like they used to before their finances took a hit. Every argument seems to be about money, or the lack thereof. Anytime you have one spouse making more than their counterpart, (s)he will bring up "I make the most, so I call the shots" every time. People can deny this ugly truth all they want, but it doesn't change the validity. Whoever makes the most, makes the rules. If the man makes the most, he calls the shots. If the wife is the major breadwinner, she has more of a say over purchases because she's gonna be contributing the most. It behooves people to marry a levelheaded person, someone of similar financial status so you two can build together. A couple that builds together, stays together because they have nothing to lord over each other's head. 

In politics, money definitely equals power because billionaires can buy elections. They pay politicians to advocate on their behalf, and it shows in many of the laws passed. You don't believe me, research the two most recent elections, and I bet you that billionaires were influential in swinging the election in their favor. Politicians vote according to campaign contributions. Whoever contributed heavily to a candidate's election, the elected must vote in favor of their contributors. In conclusion, money equals power, whether people like it or not.

Public Service Announcement

I'm sick of people bragging about what they have. I have this, I have that, I'm a boss, etc. If you say something long enough, you'll believe it. That's called bragging, and that's not a good look. Who are you trying to impress? Really though, every other person probably has what you have, and more, so you're bragging for nothing. People who brag are overcompensating for the lack they've suffered at one point, so I guess they're not trying to go back to being broke. Nobody cares about how many cars you have; no one cares if you can buy something with no worries, nobody cares if you can buy $500 plates at a ritzy restaurant. If you can do those things, I'm glad for you. Understand that the majority isn't as blessed as you are. Boasting about what you have is a slap in the face to those who are struggling, and as jealous as people are, you're asking for haters. You know most people can't stand others doing better than them, so why invite those issues if you don't have to? People who are really blessed, don't have to brag. Their demeanor tells all. They use their fortune to help others better themselves. That's the definition of a boss, someone who uses their authority to help others better themselves. You may be legit in your boss claims, but if you're not using your blessings to bless others, then you're not as much of a boss as you think. If you're such a boss, give an unemployed person a job. If you're such a boss, pay off a struggling family's mortgage. I rest my case.

Wisdom Among Wolves: By Hondo Solomon

Hondo Solomon is one of the wisest brothers I know on Facebook. His words can be applied not only to those seeking to get into polygamy, but for life as a whole. You never know who's for or against you. Ever hear of the term Wolves In Sheep's Clothing? Wolves are very smart, a lot of times they don't show their true nature right off the bat, they blend in with upstanding people, and once they get comfortable among the good, slowly they start to show their true selves. 

The following piece of advice is from Brother Hondo Solomon: 

Brethren,

Avoid all known alliances--friendship, business partnerships, civic leadership, religious affiliation, etc.--with lesser males who support the family court system in any way, shape or form.

These men will, at some point, betray you. Remember, this is warfare economics and you must walk wisely among wolves.

Hondo Solomon: Ally Or Enemy?

Author and Polygamist Hondo Solomon gives brothers some polygamist wisdom. In short, not every man is an ally of their fellow man. Some men play the ally role, but will turn on him for vaginal access.

            Hondo Solomon

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When considering another brother as an ally, listen for his accounts of sleeping with another man's consort in the present. Said man will someday turn into a fast approaching enemy with an army of simps and white knights behind him.

Avoid these lesser males at all costs, because your consort is next.

Are You Cheating Even If You're Not Married?

You don't have to be married to someone to cheat on them. Anytime you're in an exclusive relationship with a person, and you step out on them, you've cheated. The whole idea of courting someone is to prepare for marriage. If you can't be faithful to someone in the courting phase, you won't be faithful to them while married. Each stage of life prepares you for the next, and so on. When I hear people say "Even if you're with your (wo)man, as long as you're not married to them, you're not cheating.", that's hogwash to me, and is another excuse people like to make for their cheating ways. Just admit it, you don't have the courage to be faithful to your mate, so (s)he would be better served with someone who can stay faithful to one person. If you choose someone as your (wo)man, you're making that person yours. All the temptation out in the world doesn't compare to what you have with your (wo)man. Cheating is cheating. Just because one is not married, does not make their relationship with another person invalid. One has to date/court before one gets to marriage. So should both parties of said dating relationship/courtship be in it with each other only? To me, if someone steps outside of it, it would be called cheating. I think marriage is the intended goal for us, but it is up to us to use the "word" as a guideline how to get there. No matter how anyone tries to word it, betrayal transcends everything.

Can A Man Be Faithful To One Woman?

With some men, you'd think they have NO SELF-CONTROL. They can have a good woman at home who brings out the best in them, and they'll still want to see what else is out there. These same men end up complaining about women because they made the choice to not take care of the blessing God gave them. The Bible says that a man who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains the Lord's favor. The favor comes from allowing God to send a helpmate suitable for him. The wrong spouse can make or break you. I'm going to answer this question once and for all: A man can be faithful to one woman for life. If he has a good woman, all the temptation won't make him stray because he knows what he has. It was his woman who stood by him when he was struggling to become successful, it was THAT woman who vowed to love him even if he acted like a fool at times. When a man is on his deathbed, who does he think is going to be there by his side? That good woman he takes for granted.

I'm sick of some men making excuses for why they stray. Just admit it, many men are led by their flesh. They're looking at what her body is like, instead of what her character is like. That woman he's checking for, she won't be there for him when he's down and out. She's checking for him because she sees the champagne and luxury living. Take all that away, and she's gone. It takes a lot of obeying God, because the average woman alone doesn't have enough to hold a man's attention. That may be the case, but when a man chooses a woman, he agrees to love her through it all. Even though he may find someone that's better for him, he chose HER for a reason. He saw something in that woman that the others don't possess. If he wasn't satisfied with the woman he chose, why would he choose her to begin with? Answer: She had a nice body.

If you're a real Christian man that knows the Word, you won't allow temptation to invade your thought process. Thinking about cheating on your woman is just as bad because sooner or later, your thoughts graduate to actions. If a man's not spiritual, then of course he'll be moved by flesh. In conclusion, no matter how much temptation a man faces, it's up to him to make the choice. He can CHOOSE to remain faithful to that woman he chose, or he can stray. Some men need to cut the crap and stop making excuses for why they can't remain faithful. That goes double for the co-signers.





Walking Away From God

Even though I've seen God's Not Dead in theaters, I decided to pop in the DVD at home. As I was watching the scene where Shane Harper asked his professor what happened to him, the professor said this statement that got me thinking: The most hardcore atheists used to be Christians before they took the blinders. They realize the world for what it is, and not how we want it to be. There is validity in that statement, even if some Christians may not agree. Why else would someone walk away from God? They're tired of living for God, while going through hell on all fronts. These ex-Christians have had one battle after another, they've prayed for a miracle, and they've served God. They've also been faithful and obedient, yet their prayers didn't come out like they hoped. Unfortunately, we live in a fallen world. Because we live in a fallen world, there will be times where we question God. There will be times where you're waiting for God to speak and he's not hearing your cries. That doesn't mean God doesn't care (he does). He cares about the injustice his children face. He cares about the hurt his children go through, and all of that will be dealt with swiftly. Until that does, all I or anyone can do is hope. Walking from God has crossed my mind at times, but I've never followed through on that. Why? Because God has always came through when I was on the brink. How could I quit on that? I can't, and I won't.