It's None Of My Business

1. You look fresh to death, but your child(ren) looking rough; that's none of my business.

2. The disconnect between black men & women will forever be an issue. Just read some of the statements in Facebook relationship groups. That's none of my business.

3. Some women want men to tolerate their issues, but they won't work with a man on his shortcomings. That's none of my business.

4. There isn't THAT much going on in your city to where you have to be out all the time. Learn how to have several seats. That's none of my business.

5. I really think some of Steve Harvey's Strawberry Letters are for shock value. No one can be THAT screwed up. It's none of my business.

6. Some (wo)men sleep around, then have the nerve to come home to each other like nothing happened; that's none of my business.

7. A wife makes more than her husband, but the man has the nerve to call himself the head? That's none of my business.

8. Stubborn & combative people call themselves strong; that's none of my business.

9. Men who gossip about other men have woman tendencies, but that's none of my business.

10. Men who compromise manhood for women's approval are simps, but that's none of my business.

11. Fathers who weren't around for their child(ren) while they were young, then come around when their children are successful; they are the epitome of flaw. Again, that's none of my business.

No Children=Selfish?

Why do people still have ancient thoughts that you can't enjoy life without kids? You look around and see families everywhere: Husband & Wife, and children. Just because some people have children, doesn't mean everyone has to follow suit. Not everyone wants children, and that's ok. I see children with deadbeat parents, and I wonder why they even had children. If you're not going to properly care for your child(ren), put them up for adoption. There are parents waiting to adopt children into a loving & supportive environment. Let's be honest, having children is a major responsibility. You're talking about raising someone from birth to 18. Once that child becomes of age to where (s)he can do for self, they move out on their own. Even though a parent has raised children, adult children still need their parents for guidance. Here's a thought: Some people don't want kids, and they're within their right.

If you don't want children, you're assumed to be selfish because of societal pressure. Everybody seems to be getting married nowadays. Never mind that some people are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage, but I digress. If you're selfish, that's a good enough reason not to have children. Once children come into the picture, it's about them. Everything a parent does has to be done with their child(ren) in mind. Your child(ren) need new school clothes, but you have $5000 saved up for a cruise. If you're committed to your children, you'll sacrifice the cruise so your children can have new clothes for the upcoming school year. "Me" becomes "We" as soon as children come into the picture. That selfishness should fly out the window. In some religions, it's considered sinful to not procreate. For example: The Muslim religion states that it's a man's duty to find a wife to bare children with.

Some people may be genuinely selfish. Those people have no business having children because they're just going to put their children aside while they "turn up". If someone's not ready to be a parent, the children suffer. Why do you think there are so many deadbeat parents? Because they weren't ready to sacrifice "me" for "we {the child(ren)}".

A Good Man Leaves An Inheritance

What is a good man? Depending on who you ask, you'll get several different answers. Some will say a good man does right by his woman & family; Some will base it on financial posession. For every person in this world, you'll get different answers as to what a good man is. A good man is a man who leaves an inheritance for his family. Long after he's gone, his presence is still felt because he had such an impact that his lessons still live on through his child(ren). A good man leaves a financial inheritance for his children; he's been toiling for years just to make sure his family is straight, should something happen to him. He doesn't put his family in jeopardy of losing everything they've worked hard to attain because of taking out loans on vehicles that were already paid for. Tell me, if someone gives you $7000 to pay off your vehicle, why would you take out a loan on an already paid for vehicle? That's dumb.

From a financial standpoint, a good man leaves his family with such a financial inheritance that they will be taken care of long after he's gone from this world. I don't know about you, but if God sees fit for me to be married, then I'll definitely move heaven & earth to ensure that my family is taken care of. What do I look like leaving my family with my debt? They shouldn't suffer because of my financial irresponsibility so that's why I'm disciplined with how I spend my money. If I can't pay cash for it, I don't buy it. If I use a credit card, I pay the entire balance at once so I can get back to 0. I can't understand how a so-called "head of household" man could rack up so much debt that his family is going to be left with his bills, on top of what they already have.

A good man leaves a strong moral foundation. His family will carry on his legacy so it's important a man sets the right example of how to conduct himself in a corrupt, godless society. When he hurts someone, he's man enough to apologize. Children learn more from what a parent does, rather than what they say. If a man disrespects his wife in front of the children, what is he teaching his son? He's teaching his son that it's ok to mistreat women. If he has a daughter, he's teaching her that it's ok to be mistreated. When a family doesn't see their father reading the Bible, they're learning that he doesn't need God to help him guide his family; he can guide his family on his own.

God Will Never Give You Someone Else's Blessing: By Tyrese Gibson

Tyrese brought a word with this video:

God Will Never Give You Someone Else's Blessing

Money Train

Tyler Perry & Steve Harvey are great friends. Collectively, they tell women what they want to hear and they gobble it up by showing support for Tyler Perry plays & films, Steve Harvey films, etc. The moral of the story is: Get women behind you, and the money train will grow. Because women support Steve Harvey and Tyler Perry, those two are among the most successful & wealthy black men. I'm proud of those brothers because they've come a long way, and they deserve their success. Let's be honest; if TP & Steve Harvey started telling it like it is, their fan base would cease to exist. Many men aren't too fond of Steve Harvey & Tyler Perry as is, so with women making up their fan base, I guess Steve & Tyler Perry have to continue catering to women. The sad part is, many of them don't realize they're being sold a dream.

Tell a woman what she wants to hear, and you win every time. Sounds good doesn't it? At the same time, some women will say she needs a real man, a strong man. For all this wisdom they impart (I will admit, they do have useful information), you'd think adjustments would've been made in gender relations dynamics, and yet there's more of the same relationship outcomes. What works against women is their unwillingness to listen, learn and adjust. Men know this and use their bullheaded nature against them to our advantage. There are some well-versed women that don't subscribe to Steve Harvey's 'Think Like A Man" mantra, but that's because their fathers and other men in their lives have already schooled them. From this blog, I've learned one thing: Tell a woman what she wants to hear, a man is revered. If you keep it real, she could hate you.

All In The Family

I have gotten myself involved in a love triangle, and I desperately need to get out of it. A few weeks back, my wife came to me and told me she had spoken to her mother and the mother said her father has ED (erectile dysfunction). My wife told me her mother wanted to stay with him, but she has natural needs that she needs fulfilled. Right about this same time, my mother-in-law started hitting on me. I was totally forthcoming with my wife about her mother’s inappropriate verbal comments, like “I bet you have a monster down there!” My wife excused it by saying her mother is just sexually frustrated. I rebuffed her mom’s advances, but they kind of peaked my interest. My wife said she spoke to her mom and her mother told her that she wanted to have sex with me. She told my wife that we could help “save the family.” My wife told me that she wanted me to consider helping her mother out, but I was completely thrown back. I made a vow to my wife and to God to be faithful to my wife! My wife felt that saving our family was more important and since her mom sacrificed a lot to raise her, so this was just a small thing to ask for in return. I did not feel this way. I am a church boy and my wife was my first. After a few weeks of being pressured by my wife and mother in law and with my wife’s blessing, I slept with my mother in law and OMG!!! As I said, my wife is the extent of my sexual experience and my wife’s sexual experiences were limited as well… But her mother has opened my eyes to a whole new world of sexual exploits and I love it! I feel so guilty because I want to have sex with my mother-in-law more than my wife, and it doesn’t help that she is an absolutely stunning woman, I mean she is bad! She and my wife look more like sisters than mother and daughter. She’s a mix between Angela Bassett and Halle Berry! I told my wife that I needed to end the arrangement with her mother because I did not feel comfortable anymore. My wife told me if I wanted her to learn new tricks, she would join her mother and I the next time, to “get some pointers.” Needless to say, her mother is teaching US well. My wife is now a beast in the sheets and she tells me her mother’s relationship with her father has improved greatly. I feel so guilty because I have a great relationship with my father-in-law, who is also the pastor at my church. I need to get out of this situation, but I do not want to destroy the family or my church.

Congratulations to this couple for bringing shame to their family. It's one thing for a man to sleep with his attractive mother-in-law, but when his wife co-signed, that's just foul. This is why I say that most couples don't respect marriage, because of mess like this. I wish I would even think of sleeping with my mother-in-law; it's not worth the embarrassment I'd feel if this got out. Truthfully, he's wanted to sleep with his mother-in-law from Day 1, and he needed confirmation from his wife. This strawberry letter reminds me of a Fresh Prince episode where Phillip's former college girlfriend Janice Robertson (Pam Grier) comes to visit Phillip, and old feelings resurface. By this time, Phillip is already married with a family of his own. Will is seeing her daughter and Janice becomes attracted to Will. Allegedly, Will and Janice sleep together and once word gets out, it causes a big mess. This guy sacrificed his character for mother-in-law good good.
Obviously the husband DOESN'T feel guilty because he's going back for seconds, thirds, etc. He did say his mother-in-law is a cross between Angela Bassett & Halle Berry. Regardless of how fine his mother-in-law is, that's no excuse for violating his marriage, even with his wife's "blessing". According to the Bible, blessings bring no sorrow with them. I can see why sex is supposedly viewed as an important part of marriage, because if you're not getting it from your spouse, you will look for it elsewhere. I can imagine how the father-in-law is going to feel once this love triangle gets out. Remember the 70's show All In The Family? They're definitely keeping it All In The Family with this love triangle. As the head, he's supposed to set the example. The husband should have put his foot down and said NO. Vows to God carry far more weight than "saving your family." I would feel some kind of way if my wife gave me her "blessing" to sleep with her attractive mother-in-law.
A SMALL thing? Asking your husband to sleep with your mother in law to save your marriage doesn't qualify as a "small" request. As the Bible states, what's done in the dark will come to the light. This is the kind of mess that destroyed Sodom & Gomorrah, gross perversion.

Ball Til You Fall

While I was on Facebook yesterday, I read an article about a woman who won $10 million & was broke within 5 years. Chances are, she did the following: Went on a shopping spree, took expensive vacations, hooked up so-called "family & friends", and the list goes on. To be honest, $10 million isn't a lot of money considering what's left after taxes. If you win $10 million dollars, you're left over with $5-$6 million after taxes. From there, so-called "family & friends" come out of the woodwork and you decide to break them off a little something, then you go on vacations and buy luxury clothes & cars. You're lucky to have $2 million left over, if that. If you're fiscally conservative like myself, I'm thinking of how to grow that $10 million. I may want to leave that money to my family should something happen to me, but I digress. Khrystle Nichole (a Facebook friend) posted a real quote (I'm paraphrasing): "If you want someone's true colors, give them liquor and a large sum of money". Then, wait for it...wait for it.

She's right. Alcohol & a large sum of money is truth serum. If you want to find out a lot about a person, give them a large monetary amount and alcohol and watch the truth flow like rivers of living water. I have a theory as to why some people ball til they fall: They're not used to having anything, so when they get a little change, it flows out just as fast as they got it. Going out and buying homes, luxury clothing and vehicles, etc; that's all crazy to me. From time to time, I comment on threads asking "What would you do if you won millions of dollars?" I always respond with: Tithe 20% to my church (10% off the top, the other 10% as an offering.), invest a portion, and set up a trust fund for my nieces. I don't need to take lavish vacations or buy luxury cars because those things don't define me. I will say this much: If God sees fit to bless me with multi-millions of dollars, I will bless those who God lays on my heart to bless. Those who I knew since day 1, they'll get a little something, but other than that, I wouldn't do anything different than what I do now.

This whole "Ball Til You Fall" mentality that people have when they win the lottery is exactly why many people end up broke within 5 years, and some sooner than that. They're not used to having money, they attract the wrong crowd, and they're overcompensating in some way because a lot of people who came into millions of dollars, have come from nothing. They're not trying to go back to poverty, so in some way I understand why they ball til they fall. They want to have fun, even if it's for a little time.