Strapped Up In My City

It's funny when some ghetto brothers flex like they're the only ones strapped up with a weapon in their city. When some of these guys talk like this, I laugh on the inside because anyone who's lived in the inner-city knows that every man is strapped with a weapon, what makes the next guy special? There's a saying that rings so true: The loudest one in the room, is the weakest one in the room. If you're talking this, this and that, you better be able to back it up, or you will look crazy. Honestly, I feel sorry for the next generation coming up because you have 11-13 year old kids carrying machine guns being quick to spray. Listening to hood rap, you'd swore these artists make it seem glamorous, but it's not. There's nothing rewarding about having to tote a Desert Eagle or an AK to protect yourself. When you're living foul, those are the precautions you have to take. You make a lot of enemies when you're living the thug life.

Many people who walk around talking about how strapped they are suffer from Big Balls Syndrome. Everybody's a tough guy when they're toting an AK or 9mm, but you take away their weapons and they're soft as tissue paper. These men are looking for a reason for someone to get wrong so they can smoke them. People walking around with guns shouldn't be allowed because many people have too much attitude, and one wrong move or perceived slight can be deadly. It's almost not worth it to engage physical contact with a person because if you win, they can come back and shoot you. It's easy to hide behind that assault rifle or 9, but without that weapon, we'll find out what your hands are made of. Back in the day, you didn't have this stuff to worry about, but now...times have changed. It's always the big-city ghetto folk who talk about being strapped in their city. It's a badge of honor for them, because they have nothing else going on in their lives.

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LeBron set back $30 million if he returns to Cleveland

 

LeBron set back $30 million if he goes back to Cleveland

 

LeBron James and Carmelo Anthony are two of the big stars that will be free agents this summer. Carmelo's reasoning behind wanting to depart the Knicks is he wants a ring, and what better way to get a ring than by clicking up with proven winners? There are talks of the Bulls courting Anthony, and if Anthony goes to Chicago, he'll be a great addition to Derrick Rose and Joakim Noah. On a side note, Boozer is set to be traded to the Lakers during free agency. The aforementioned article has me asking myself: Why would LeBron want to return to Cleveland? Think about it: Lebron CARRIED that team. He shouldered the scoring load every game and had no help. If Lebron had a big game, Cleveland didn't have any other players that could step up and relieve him, so it was all on Lebron James. LeBron going to Miami was clearly a good move for him because he went to a team that has proven winners, and Wade & Bosh could easily fill in for LeBron if his game was off. Miami has a strong bench in Battier, Allen, Chalmers, Norris Cole, Udonis Haslem, etc. In addition to the Big 3, Miami's bench has played a role in the Heat's last two championship victories.

I remember Lebron caught hell for leaving Cleveland; fans went as far as burning his jersey. My thing is Lebron made the right move for him. If he wasn't winning in Cleveland, why should he stay? If I'm Lebron James, I would immediately rule out coming back to Cleveland. I would keep my talents in South Beach and continue leading my team to championships. Compared to his Cleveland days, LeBron James has come into his own in Miami. He's stepped up when Wade and Bosh were injured or having bad games. I just don't see Lebron returning to Cleveland, and according to the article, he'd be set back $30 million if he went back to Cleveland. From a financial standpoint, it makes good business sense to keep LeBron James in Miami since they can afford to pay him a little more money. Lebron is enjoying success that he would never have back in Cleveland. His wife has her own business in Miami, his children enjoy living in Miami, and LeBron has been prospering ever since he made that move to Miami. All things considered, LeBron will most likely opt out of his contract and then re-sign with Miami. That would be the smart thing to do.

 

 

 

Who's At Fault?

This question got mixed responses when someone posted in one of my Facebook groups. Some people said the man's at fault because he's married, others said the homewrecker & the man are wrong, and some said the wife. Generally, the married man would be at fault because he's married. When a man takes a woman as his wife, he chose HER. That means he's to leave these other skanks alone. I say this quite often: If you can't be faithful, don't get married; it's not fair to your spouse and deep down, you're cheating yourself out of a happy life. Women know a good man when they see one, so in some way I understand why some homewreckers ruin marriages. It doesn't excuse their actions, but I see why. It's shameful some men don't respect their marriages enough to reject another woman's advances. He wants to see if he still has it, or the other woman may have what his wife lacks. Worst case scenario, the married man fell out of love with his wife, and by messing around with another woman, that will fill that void in his life. The only woman a man should be sleeping with is his wife.

The reason I also feel that BOTH (the husband and homewrecker) are at fault is because it takes two to sleep together. A married man must have a willing participant; he can't sleep with another woman by himself. Think about it: If a man doesn't have another woman to sleep with, he has no alternative but to remain faithful to his wife. He keeps his marriage in tact and saves himself a pissed off wife. Nowadays, adultery can end in death because some (wo)men will react unfavorably to a cheating spouse. All these men out here, and a homewrecker has to go after someone else's husband. Did it occur to homewreckers NOT to take what doesn't belong to you? Then again, I don't expect homewreckers to have a conscience. The wife bears responsibility because she's not doing her job at home. I understand the husband and wife are busy with their professional lives, and that can damper their love life.

Situations like what's described in this picture happen in real life. Like a movie, you have various characters who all play a part. Because there are various characters, you can't hold one person accountable.

Guest Speaker: Angel In Disguise

Today's blog message comes from Angel In Disguise.

Women kill me with this, "A real man would do this or that bull crap. How do you know what a real man should do???? How about putting more emphasis on what a real woman should do and maybe you could INFLUENCE and ENCOURAGE change in YOUR man that you SO desire. Since women like coming up with a LONG laundry list of what men Should do, I put together this list of what WOMEN should do.

A real woman won't put her hands on a man.
A real woman won't violate a man's privacy witho...ut his permission.
A real woman would let her man lead her (after all she chose him).
A real woman wouldn't hop all up in a man's faces cursing and screaming like a fool.
A real woman would use wisdom to cooperate with her man.
A real woman don't make demands to her man.
A real woman knows that she can't control an Alpha male.
A real woman builds her home and not tear it down.
A real woman would not make a CONSCIOUS effort to destroy ANY relationship.
A real woman would simply realize that she isn't compatible with a man and agree to end the relationship.
A real woman won't tell a man what a real man is.
A real woman would ask a man if he wants to be a father beforehand instead of waiting until she gets pregnant and assuming that he will stay with her when SHE decides to keep it.
A real woman would conduct herself as lady at ALL times.
A real woman would never justify her rage just because she is angry.
A real woman does not believe that just because she's mad at her man she can act a darn fool.
A real woman knows how to shut up instead of wanting to get the last word every time.
A real woman doesn't have unrealistic expectations such as believing that her man should value EVERYTHING the same as her.
A real woman doesn't disrupts PEACE in her home.
A real woman creates a loving atmosphere.
A real woman is a pleasure to be around.
A real woman understands that men and women have different roles.
A real woman isn't OPPOSED to building up her man if he has low self-esteem.
A real woman understands that men have feelings too.



Moral Dilemma

Sometimes in life, we will be faced with moral dilemmas. Some are easier to solve than others. What is a woman to do if she's faced with this situation? Does she break the kids off something or does she keep the $2.5 million and continue living comfortable like she does already? It boils down to the woman's character. If she's a stand-up woman, she'll set up a trust fund for the children; that's what I would do if I was faced with this situation. When I say side chicks are coming for the crown, they're getting down for that #1 spot. Wives better step their game up. Even if a good woman is faithful to her husband, there's no guarantee that he will reciprocate. You really don't know someone like you think; you're not in their presence 24-7, and no one has time to trace their (wo)man's every move. Why did he wait until his deathbed to reveal this secret? Because he knew his wife would fire off on him. Women aren't playing that. In a way, I feel bad for the husband's wife because she had no idea.

This situation reinforces the importance of honesty. Had he came clean about the other woman, the wife would've had a reason to be upset, but in the end she would've respected his honesty. Was the wife not good enough for her husband? That's the only logical solution I can come up with as to why he had a side woman. Then again, some men aren't satisfied with just one good woman, they have to have extra. A woman of good character would think of the children first. She would put the $2.5 million in a trust fund for those kids to live on: Those kids would be able to go to college and graduate school off of that money. She's already living good, so what would an extra $2.5 million mean for her? There are many variables to consider: What if he had kids of HIS own by his original wife? So, he neglected his own family to take care of another family? That's usually what cheating husbands do when they're involved with a side woman that has children. When it comes to moral dilemmas like this, the children come first.

Living Amongst Blacks

Everyone wants to live in a safe environment that's crime-free with good schools. Your financial standing determines where you'll live: Will you live in the ghetto or in an upscale community? Contrary to popular belief, there are blacks who don't want to live amongst their own and you can't blame them. Who wants to live among violence and poverty? In the black community, the no snitching rule is prevalent. If you see criminal activity, keep it to yourself because you never know who's watching. Your house gets shot up, and people saw the shooter(s), but won't come forward. I think the reason why some blacks don't come to the police is because of distrust. Relations between blacks and police haven't been on good terms, so I don't expect some blacks to come forward. The issue is when one of their own gets shot, and expects someone to come forward with what they know.

I don't want to live around blacks either. It's not a race thing, but a safety issue. Historically, black communities in major US cities have been rife with poverty, drugs and violence, and I don't see that changing anytime soon. It's sad, but that's the reality. There are a few working-class & upper-middle class black communities that are crime & drug-free, where residents have a rapport with the law. I think some of them are in Metro Atlanta and the DMV (Washington, DC Metro area). Let's be honest: People want to live in good neighborhoods with great schools, and if that means one ethnicity will dominate that area, who cares. At the same time, even some inner-city residents secretly aspire to live in better environments for their children. Rapper The Game (Jayceon Taylor) said it himself: He couldn't raise his children in the same environment he came up in.

Just because some blacks have the financial means to live in better neighborhoods, that doesn't make them any less black. This suburban black vs. inner-city black rivalry is crazy. Last time I checked, collectively, all blacks are in the same boat.