Self-Hate

Some people don't know what the term self-hate means. You must hate yourself (or your own ethnicity) if you point out foolishness amongst your people. "You must hate blacks since you criticize their bad behavior" Really? So you're supposed to let foolishness go unchecked? That's news to me, why didn't I get the memo? The actions of one (or a few) reflect on the whole. For example: I live in Southeast Washington, DC; which is supposedly the pit of hell in DC (on the contrary, since gentrification is sweeping SE DC like a flood). 80% of violent crime occurs in this area, and I'm active in trying to get the area cleaned up: I speak out against the ghetto thuggery. Some people get upset with me, and say I hate myself. I'm trying to figure out what it is about you that could make me hate myself. See how silly that sounds? I was chatting with a friend on Facebook, and we discussed this very issue: Why do some blacks assume you hate yourself if you have the guts to speak out against foolishness? People kill me sometimes. My definition of self-hate is having no pride in who you are as a person. You see no good in your own, and point out the negative. That's the problem with some blacks: They want their behinds powdered, and don't want to address the issues. You can't have beauty without getting rid of the ugliness. Ugliness symbolizes foolishness & ignorance (Worldstar Hiphop, youtube videos showing blacks acting stupid, etc.). Beauty is when you see blacks prospering in life. We all know there's far too much negativity, and not enough goodness among blacks. Yet, people raised sand when Bill Cosby called out black people for their ridiculous behavior. I feel like this: When you care enough about someone or something, you point out their foolishness because you want better for them. Hopefully they'll straighten up, but some people thrive on being ratchet; they see no shame in acting stupid. Help who wants to be helped, and leave the rest to their demise.

I Used To Think...

There was a time where I asked myself, "How could some people go through life unmarried?" These people have everything someone could want in a spouse, but somehow love eluded them. I never thought something was wrong with him/her that is preventing them from finding love; I just believed that everyone is deserving of someone to spend their lives with. As I got older, I realized that some people are content being single; doesn't mean they can't find Mr(s). Right, it's just that they're so used to riding solo, that they're no longer concerned about finding a spouse. Some people are indifferent towards relationships; they'll be alright with or without a mate. That comes from being secure in yourself, and knowing your worth. As long as you know your worth, the rest will fall in place. Depending on someone's destiny, a relationship could be a distraction rather than blessing. Take President Obama for example: US President, husband & father. Being U.S. President is hard enough, but to have family responsibilities adds extra pressure. Sherman Hemsley played on The Jeffersons, and Amen. He was unmarried with no children, and he died at 74. Most people would think something's wrong with a person that dies unmarried and no children, but because he was an actor, it was no big deal. I believe God calls some people to marriage, others to be single. This IS NOT an attack on marriage; marriage is a beautiful thing when you're with the right person. It doesn't mean you won't go through trials, just that it's easier to get through rough times with Mr(s). Right at your side. The older I get, the more evolved my thinking becomes on certain topics. I used to see things one way, but now I'm seeing things from all angles.

God Did That! He Won

When I read this story, I had to cut & paste because it was good. P.S: She pushed out 4 children at once; I know her woo-ha is broke. Think of what would've happened if this man listened to the naysayers, and chose NOT to marry this woman. Read on:

 

 

A girl that is faithful to the Church with a bump on the back was going to marry a brother of the Church. People made fun of him telling him, with all the beautiful girls that are in this church, is it this girl that you want to marry? A girl with a bump? The brother replied: I love it, and also God told me clearly that she is the woman of my life. They got married, and after 3 years the brother that was nothing, had nothing and lived in poverty began to prosper in business and he teamed up with his wife and they became rich and prospered in their business, everything they touched turned into gold, they bought cars and houses. Some time ago, his wife became pregnant, and they went for an ultrasound and was told that she was pregnant with triplets. When the time of birth arrived, the doctor and the wise women were doing their job by telling the woman to push and the first, the second and third babies came out.
While she was getting ready to have a rest, the doctor told her she has another one in the belly so she should continue to push, while she did a round thing came out of her stomach, the doctor examined it and discovered that it was hump.
She straightened and could now stand up normally; there was a loud noise throughout the hospital. People gloated on all sides and gave glory to God.
When she went to the church people who laughed at her were all silent, they were shocked by the huge miracle that God did in her life:
1] a miracle of finance
2] a miracle breakthrough
3] a miracle of birth without caesarean.
4] a miracle of three bouncing baby boys
5], a miracle of healing of her bump.
6] A miracle which silenced all those who laughed at them.
Our God is wonderful!

 

This brother went against the grain and married this woman, despite what others told him. Now he & his family are doing very well for themselves. A Happy Ending Indeed.

 





Lord, Why Can't I Find A Good Man?

 

I don't mean to laugh, but I find this pic hilarious for obvious reasons. Many women pray for a good man, but when God sends one to her, she finds every reason to sabotage a beautiful relationship. Some women are so used to doggish men, they can't handle a stand-up brother who has his stuff together. According to this pic, God gets tired of answering a woman's prayer for a good man, that the caption says it all: "I sent you one. You said he didn't have enough swag. So? Yes, God has unlimited patience, but even he has limits. I feel like this, if a woman wants a good man, be a good woman. No good man wants a bad woman, and vice versa. When you pray for something, be ready for the blessing; however it comes. The problem is, some women have a manual of what they want their man to look like: 6'4, light-skinned like Boris Kodjoe, makes 6-figures, puts up with her foolishness (some women love to throw up scripture to support this argument. "A husband is not to divorce his wife" bla bla), spends money on her, great cook (some women who want their potential mates to go beast mode in the kitchen, typically can't cook, or have no desire to learn how to cook). Ok, that's great you have a manual. God sends you your desired man, but here's the curve ball: He's short, and content with his position in life. He's reached a level of success that's good enough for him. She gives this man the side eye, because she wants to take over the world, and he's content without the fame & fortune. Can she get past her hangup(s) towards him, or not? Time Will Tell. Most women can overlook a few flaws in a man, as long as he has the core values she's looking for: Compatibility, Trust, Respect, Caring, etc.

A Time To Fight, A Time To Chill

Ever since Adam & Eve disobeyed God, life has been a struggle. Between unemployment, and kids being born with disabilities, some people are born with a good start in life, others have the odds stacked against them. That's the mark of living in a fallen world. How much fighting does one do before (s)he wants peace? At some point, you want to kick back, and relax. No one wants to fight 24-7, I know I don't. I've been fighting all my life (still do to this day), and now I just want to kick back and relax. I want a taste of Easy Street. Then again, when your back's against the wall, you find out how strong you really are. The Bible speaks on seasons: There's a time for laughter, and a time for grief. A time to live & die, etc. Everything happens according to season. Some people experience difficulty early on in life, others experience it later. Both aren't necessarily wrong, it's just that we're all different, so each person has their own story to tell. The more battles you face, the more accustomed you become to fighting. Is this a good or bad thing? Yes & No. Yes, because testimonies come from tests. No, because you should want to have good times in life. Even the most battle-tested warriors want times of peace. They want to be able to let their guard down, and enjoy life. There was a Lizard Lick Towing episode that dealt with this very issue: Ron Shirley, owner of Lizard Lick Towing received a business proposal from a crooked businessman Lars Dixon. Lars offers Ron a hefty sum of $ if he forks over his company. Ron accepts the check, but Lars throws a curveball. The curveball was that Ron's crew would be without jobs, and after Ron realizes the mistake, he gets his company back because Ron's cousin was going undercover for Lars, feeding Ron intel about how Lars is cooking the books. Long story short, Ron had to fight hard to get his company back, and now that he has his company back: He learned that everything that glitters, isn't gold. Sometimes, you can chill too hard, and be caught off guard by a situation. At least when you were doing battle, your guard was always up so nothing could get by you. I said all that to say this: There's nothing wrong with being a fighter, but you should also want to kick back sometimes. There's a time to fight, and a time to start living. I think I want to start living.

Pure Comedy..Jesus Doesn't Love You

Some ideologies are SO ridiculous, that all you can say is Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You. Some of these are recycled from yesterday, others are fresh off the top.

 

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~I want to send a special shout out to people who criticized Rachael Jeantel for her dialect & speech. First off, she's trilingual (Creole/Haitian, Spanish, and English), and second, she didn't want to testify. Third, she was the same age as Trayvon Martin when he was killed. Given what she's been through, people need to have several seats and lay off that girl. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's ironic that some women want a man with his stuff together, but expect him to help her come up. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You

~Half of the best TV Shows earlier this year got axed, only to be replaced by crap TV. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You (network executives)

~Men should stop kidding themselves. All of a sudden, you want to settle down with one woman when you used to be a pimp/player? Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Since when did education & financial stability make one a suitable spouse? I thought loyalty & respect, plus compatibility were more important. To those who think this way: Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to men who want to be women, because it's easier. Pure Comedy...Jesus Doesn't Love You.
~Shout out to all ladies who take on manly characteristics, then want to be women when it suits them. Pure Comedy...Jesus Does Not, and Will Never Love You.

I Got Something On My Mind

~Shout Out To Men who say "yaaasss" in a homosexual manner. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~The irony about this gay agenda is when people take a stand against gay marriage, gays and gay supporters are quick to say "Live & Let Live". Ok, then when students want to pray in schools, talk about Jesus or celebrate Christmas..LIVE & LET LIVE.

~From Hondo Solomon: "I LOL when I find women stating they want a man that can keep up with them. This always leads to their doing everything else except taking care of the man and his home."

-Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Men who are "secure" in their manhood to show emotion (i.e. cry), yet consider themselves real men. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~Shout out To Women who want to be men; Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~It's suspect for a man to be worried about what another man is doing. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~To whom much is given, much is required. In the same light, when much is acquired, much is at risk.

~Shout Out to women who criticize other women who hold them accountable for twisted ideologies towards men. PURE COMEDY, JESUS WILL NEVER LOVE YOU.

~Today's rap is all about balling in the clubs, what I smoke, drink, how many cars I have, I have hoes, gun shooting, pushing weight (drugs), etc

~People talking about popping molly, and sweating; do these fools know what molly is, let alone can do to you? Shakes Head. I swear rappers are gassing these folks up with drug use promotion. First, sipping syrup. Second, popping molly. What's next?

~Special shout out to Christian women who quote the Bible regarding man's responsibilities, but when an educated man flips the script, and talks about what women should do...wolves howl in the wind. A deluxe vibrator collection and an army of dead zombie cats are their lot.

~Shout Out to men who talk about going to Brazil or wherever to find a wife, because they think she will jump when you say how high. Pure Comedy, Jesus Doesn't Love You.

~"It's not tricking if you got it" Well, I'm not tricking, and I got it.

~New Year, New Me? Have Several Seats. New Year, Same You. Nothing changes, and probably never will.