Strong Women Love Weak Men

I've come to the conclusion that strong women love weak men. Weak men cater to them, don't challenge them, weak men are afraid to call women on their B.S, weak men encourage and cosign some black women's silly mindsets and rabid emotions. A real man does the opposite of what I just mentioned...AND THEY CALL HIM OVERBEARING AND CONTROLLING BECAUSE LIKE A REAL MAN HE'S SUPPOSE TO SET AGENDAS AND STAND ON TOP OF IT!!!!...WOMEN TRY TO USE SHAMING DEFLECTIVE AND BERATING RHETORIC WHEN IT COMES TO THOSE TYPES because some women don't like order. They want to do what they want no matter how detrimental to them or the relationship. If strong women want a weak man, I say give them what they want. I will not feel sorry for any weak man who gets trampled on by a strong woman because he's too busy powdering her behind to tell her what she needs to hear. These dudes are the ultimate simps because they play up to her in order to gain favor. Usually, she has to threaten to withhold sex from him and he caves in to her tomfoolery. Some of these men are blinded by the nooky, that's all. You have some men that will sell their principles just to get in good with a strong woman because alas, she has what he wants. Little do weak men realize that deep down, she doesn't respect him. She has his balls in her purse and clowns him to her friends. "Girl, I have this dude eating out of the palm of my hand. He does whatever I say, what a lame." Just like some women say men can't handle a strong woman, so-called strong women can't handle a strong man that will set agendas and stick to them, even if she acts stupid.

The Influence Of Friends

"Jeannine Carswell

Yesterday

**REAL TALK TIME** Many men these days (by no means All) rely on the leadership of their SINGLE male friends when it comes to how to handle their woman once in a relationship. As a male friend of mine confessed to me, "The peer pressure never stops with men" to do silly shit for Egocentric Purposes. And you should check yourself on this, fellas.

Why is the approval of a bunch of miserable single guys important to you? How is the dismissal of your woman's feelings (by you or by your friends) acceptable? And let me BE CLEAR here: SINGLE PEOPLE can be great and can be wise and offer you on-point advice as long as they are MATURE...and as long as they are CHOOSING to be single rather than being single because they have nothing to offer that any DECENT WOMAN would ever want. You should be the captain of your OWN SHIP, not your buddies. It's ALL GOOD to have Guys Night Out...to laugh, converse, tell dirty jokes, yadda yadda yadda. Your true friends should ALWAYS be part of your life! But the 'special lady' in your life should ALWAYS be #1 to you and that should NEVER be up for debate. Surround yourself with men who know this as Common Sense, rather than seeing it as a Death Sentence! Got it? *pats your back*

Why is it considered "weak" by some men to want to please a woman and make her happy? Women will naturally TAKE CARE of you (once you've won us over) because that's just in our nature to do so. If you take that for granted though, or you fail to reciprocate...that's WHEN her nagging, discontent and moodiness starts! Fellas, stop letting your ego, and the immaturity of your male friends GET IN THE WAY of a tighter bond between you and the woman you claim to love!!!

Part of a man's job is to LEAD; and if you cannot even lead yourself away from the silly innuendo of your inexperienced guy friends...how can a woman truly trust you to lead HER then? You know how to tune a WOMAN out easily while she tells you what she needs; yet you aren't capable of tuning out the bitter babble coming from ANOTHER MAN? That is twisted. Truly"

To expect a man to dump his friends is asinine just because some women want to hog all their man's time. I'm all for making my woman #1 in my life if she shows herself worthy, but if she doesn't have a pot to piss in, she may only get half of my goodness. It takes a strong man to be able to boast of his woman to his friends. If they clown him for it, that's their problem because he can easily say: Where's your woman? I rest my case. Have fun with those dirty heffers at the shake joint. It's not that it's considered weak if a man makes his woman happy, it's that sometimes we need a break from you ladies to be with our friends. Most men won't admit this but even when they're with the fellas, you're on their mind. A REAL MAN knows that there comes a time in his life where they will need a woman on their left in order to get things right. We are all human, but a woman's instincts are different than a man's. So my point is that a real man will only have 2 friends and that includes their spouse. Another real man would respect the relationship and know not to butt in his personal life. Peer pressure is something voluntary little boys choose to do. If a man tells his woman he'll be home at midnight and his boys want to stay out until 5am Saturday morning, they start calling him a punk and saying "No woman is gonna give me a curfew; I run this!" Before you know it, he cowers under the pressure from his friends because he doesn't want to seem like a punk. He comes home late and his wife gets upset because he didn't come home when he said he would (rightfully so). How much hanging out can a man do? For me, I'll stay out until midnight at the latest and then I'm checking out. Knowing I have a good woman at home waiting on me will probably give me more incentive to get home a little earlier because she could have something planned for us and I wouldn't want to disappoint. If they're my boys, they'll understand. If not, then that's their problem.

Powdering The Behind

"Trina BabyTee Rogers

A recent conversation got me thinking about the mentality of some women. A woman asked me how to get a good man. She explained how impressed she is with my relationship with my man and asked how I "got" him. I said I didn't get him, I became the type of woman a man wants to have in his life. He came to me because of what I presented to the world. I told her "be a good woman and you will have a good man." She said, "I am a good woman!" I said, "then you would already have a good man, and you don't. So you are lying to yourself." I haven't seen a 180 degree turn that fast in a long time! She called me every name in the book! How in the fuck do I know she ain't a good woman....who in the hell do I think I am......I don't know shit about her and who she is....etc. etc. etc. During her tirade I thought to myself maybe my presentation was a little harsh for her! FUCK HER AND HER FEELINGS! How the message is presented don't mean SHIT!! The message is still the same! I won't coddle her feelings, or anyone else's, to make her understand where she is wrong. After she was done, with her little temper tantrum, I made one statement that shocked the hell outta her and made my point clearer that a crystal glass......the good man you have been looking for could've been in this room but you just showed your ass as the typical, ignorant, no-good black woman you are. No matter where you are, those qualities, positive or negative, will always show. Guess what you just showed the world? [Exit stage left] THE LIGHTNING ROD IS A BITCH IF YOU GET STRUCK DOWN!!"

Some people never cease to amaze me. Everyone thinks they're a good man or woman but as evidenced in this scenario, sometimes they prove otherwise. If you're a good man/woman, you shouldn't have to broadcast it, it will show in your conduct towards others and most of all, yourself. Besides, how does it look to boast of being a good woman and you carrying on like this? Looks pretty crazy to me. See, women like Ms. Trina Rogers got it figured out. She stated "be a good woman and you will have a good man" That's all there is to it. If you're the person you want to attract, the RIGHT person will fall into your life. Because of this woman's belligerence, she could've missed out on Mr. Right. 9 times out of 10, the good man could've been in the same room but I guess she'll never know. *Shrug*.

A Happy Home

Most people really never take into consideration just how influential the function of the home is to raising children. Maybe this is due to most of us for the last 3-4 generations all come from broken and unconventional homes ourselves and feel as though we are ourselves well adjusted. When in fact we can all learn something from ourselves and our upbringing.

It takes courage to "look within" and I am realizing that although it has become "fashionable" to do this, very few learn from it.

Mate Stealing

I've heard of instances where people have stolen someone's man or woman. Can you "steal" someone's mate? It depends on your definition. Some people say it's possible for you to steal another person's mate and others say your mate was attracted to someone else and decided to start a new relationship with them. Some   people love hard so they can't fathom another person taking their man/woman. I feel like this: If another person steals your mate, LET THEM GO! There's millions of other men and women in the world, why stress over the loss of one? Sure, (s)he may have been the one for you, but if they allowed an outsider to steal them away, they weren't right for you to begin with. A loyal woman or man would not allow themselves to be stolen. Even if you steal someone away, what does that prove? It proves that he/she wasn't right for you like you thought. Let the other person have your trash while you go for your treasure. Many times, the person who allegedly "stole" your man or woman is doing you a favor because they are responsible for the drama, not you. If they stole your (wo)man, they can have them. People need to realize that you can't keep what doesn't want to be kept. You can give your mate the best of you and they still leave. It sucks, but that's life. Not everyone is right for each other. When you meet someone that's RIGHT for you, you'll look back and say "It was a blessing in disguise." I refuse to force a woman to be with me. If she wants to be with me, great, we'll make it happen and if not, exit stage left. Richard doesn't chase after any woman and I'm not about to start now.

Todays Black Men Are Too Weak For Black Women!

The title of this video blog by Tommy Sotomayor is a Jedi Mind Trick. The title is simply stating how today's black men are fed up with the sassy, ghetto attitude that some black women possess and how they dress it up as being strong & independent. Can you blame some black men? A man deals with enough outside the home and the last thing I, or any sensible brother want is to come home and have to deal with more drama from our so-called "woman" No, I'll bypass all that. I'm not saying that all white women are pushovers because some of them will check a man just the same but for the most part, some white women know what it takes to keep their man happy, and he responds in favor to her. Some black women feel that a man is supposed to roll over and accept her attitude & sass. A little PLAYFUL sass is ok but when the attitude is on-going, a man has to decide if he's going to love her through it or hightail it elsewhere. Me, I prefer the path of least resistance. I've been through enough in my life to where I want my latter days to be better than my former days. I'm about peace & quiet and that's the reason why I'm single, I have little patience for most women's sass/attitude. If she calls me weak for refusing to tolerate her slick mouth & attitude, I'll be that. When I cut her loose, it will give me confirmation of having made the right decision.

The Importance Of Marriage

Why is marriage important? I've thought about this for the longest and have come up with a variety of answers. Aside from the financial & legal benefits, is there any benefit to marriage? Sure, you have companionship and someone to be there for you in the good & bad times but most people can't give concrete information as to why marriage is important. I was having great conversation with a Facebook friend and she informed me that those who are likely to be selected for upper management are married folks. In their eyes, married people are more responsible & stable so they can handle the responsibilities of being in an upper management position. I don't think it's fair to assume that married people are better suited for upper management because you have single people who have their stuff together. If anything, I think single people would be better suited for upper management because singles don't have any demands on their time, and they are able to devote most of their day to their position. When you're married, you have to balance work & family. A single person doesn't have to worry about it because their main focus is the job. Granted, singles have a life outside the job (as they should) but overall, they don't have any responsibility to others like a married person. Your spouse is going to want you to spend more time with them and your job may require you to put in extra time towards a project and that's where it gets tricky. To say that married people are better suited for upper management is ridiculous; like to say that married couples are more responsible & stable than singles. Besides, how many married couples are TRULY happy? There are some couples that front like their happy but deep down, they are beating down the door to get out of their situation. Singles don't have to deal with the ups & downs of married life (spouse acting stupid, kids health issues, etc.).  Here are some statistics according to http://www.divorcestatistics.org: 

Marriage Divorce statistics (in percent)

First Marriage 45% to 50% marriages end in divorce

Second Marriage 60% to 67% marriages end in divorce

Third Marriage 70% to 73% marriages end in divorce

Looking at those statistics, they confirm my belief that marriage is dead. The more you get married, the higher the likelihood of divorce. Many times, people who don't have the willpower to make the first marriage work normally don't have the willpower to make any subsequent marriages work. I'm willing to bet that these are the big reasons why some first time marriages fail and most 2nd and 3rd marriages fail even more: They weren't over their first marriage and rushed into the second.

Didn't learn from their first marriage and repeated the same mistakes.

Blending families can be the hardest job as a parent, and it puts tremendous strain on a couple.

Some people realize they lived through one divorce and aren't so afraid on another.

Last but not least, most people are afraid to be alone, which could be a major factor as to why some people want to be married.