State Of Society Address

With the state of society, I see why many parents choose to homeschool their children. You have the Radical Homosexual Agenda trying to push their filthy lifestyle on school children. No child should be exposed to that garbage. Real Talk. It seems like children have to be ready for war nowadays because of bullies, immoral ideologies that they may not understand, nor have the desire to. I'm understanding more & more why I'm reluctant to bring a child into this sorry world. What was taboo back in the day has become normal. Back in the day, everybody got jobs fresh out of high school and now you have unemployment (the rate is higher for black men). Some people have been unemployed for a year or more. You have people with Master's Degrees & Ph.D's that can't find jobs so what does that tell you? Something is seriously wrong. What's the use of going to school all those years and you can't get a job in your field? That defeats the purpose *shrug*. Greedy corporate executives, 1 in 88 children with autism, black on black murders, etc. I wish God would wipe us off the map and start over because this mess doesn't make no sense. If I had the power, NONE of the aforementioned issues with exist; forget this "real world" garbage. This so-called "real world" is the reason why society's in the shape it's in because what was taboo back in the day has become normal. The reality is that life was intended to be sweet but when Adam & Eve disobeyed God, THEIR disobedience caused all this craziness we hear & read about. Don't get me started on the divorce epidemic. Back in the day when something was broke, it was fixed. Men & Women understood COMMITTMENT. They married somebody based on who they were compatible with & not for their $$$ or good looks. Nowadays, most people aren't relationship material so it's better off they stay single for life because it's no sense in you being a great catch and attracting someone who's not about nothing. If you can't handle your spouse when all hell is breaking loose, YOU SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED. Simple As That. I understand what many elders are saying when they say things should be like they used to (minus the racial prejudice). At times I'm called narrowminded because I don't co-sign foolishness others support. Well, I'd rather live in the proverbial bubble than get infected by the disease of stupidity.



Judgement

People judge, that's a fact of life. No matter what you say or do, someone will have something to say. You can do something with pure intention and some fool(s) will take offense to it. Just because you don't care what people think doesn't stop them from judging you. The best thing you can do is be yourself and remember this: What others think is none of your business. It took me a while to reach that point, but I'm so glad I did. If I lived my life trying to please people, I would be in bad shape because everyone has different expectations. One person may be easy to please and the next one has a list of stipulations showing you how to gain their approval. The only person I'm trying to please is Jesus and by my progress, I'd say he's well pleased with me so that's all that matters. As long as you treat people respectfully, whether they like you or not is irrelevant. Some people aren't going to like you even if you haven't offended them; that's their problem and not yours. I've always prided myself on marching to the beat of MY own drum. I've never been one to follow what everyone else is doing, I like to stand out because in my opinion, the world is looking for individuals and not clones. I have to be real and mention that everyone to a certain extent cares what others think of them. Even God cares about how his people that are called by his name are represented. If people didn't care about what other people thought you wouldn't look appropriate for a job interview or when you go to church or a formal environment. For an interview, you're supposed to care what the hiring manager thinks by dressing appropriately because (s)he's the one that can hire or reject you. You want to put your best foot forward during the interview, but even then you should be yourself. You're not supposed to interview looking a hot mess, that's not a good look AT ALL. I think everyone would appreciate people judging them positively, it's when they are judged negatively that causes them not to care what someone else thinks. Someone's life is theirs, they can live how they see fit. If they ask me for wisdom, I'll probably share but let them know they can't get upset if I tell them what they need (not want) to hear. Even if they don't like what I have to say, I will still offer wisdom if requested. I like what someone posted on facebook in regards to a thread: You can't control what others think of you, any attempt at doing so is futile. For me personally, as long as I'm not endangering myself or others, it's none of anyone's business how I live my life. At the same time, I'm open to constructive criticism to help me become better.

Paying For Your Parents Mistakes

No parent wants their child going through what they did; every parent wants the best for their child (I hope) because there's nothing more satisfying than sending your child into the world to make his/her mark. Every parent wants to know that when their children grow up & leave the nest, they did a great job when they see their child. Due to genetics,  parents sometimes make foolish choices that they require and end up passing those negative traits to their parents. It wasn't intentional but due to genetics, kids usually inherit the good & bad of each parent. Everything I do, it's to benefit my family (should I have one) because I want to leave a legacy for my kid(s) to follow. Parents don't realize how much influence they have. Parents shape the course for how their children end up? Do some parents allow their children to act all manner of crazy with no repercussions? Yes. I'm also aware of parents who don't play with their children; whatever they say goes. Honestly, I would hate for my family  (should I have one) to have to struggle long after I'm dead & gone so that's why it's important to set a good example for the little ones to follow. I think the reason why most children end up paying for their parents mistakes is because the parents are too busy trying to be their child(ren)'s friend. It's ok to be your child's friend, but you are a parent first and foremost. There will be times where a parent MUST lay the smack down in order for his/her children to grow up responsible, productive citizens of society. If children can learn from their parents mistakes, that looks good on the parent because (s)he saw what mom & dad went through and the child doesn't want to make the same mistakes their parents did. Wisdom is learning from others' mistakes. No child should be sentenced to suffering based on what their parents went through. I do believe children inherit consequences by being a product of their environment; however it doesn't have to be a life sentence. The children must persevere and break the spell. In the matter of rewards for successes, some children will always feel entitled.

It's Good To Be Selfish

I used to think being selfish was bad but as I got older, I realized everyone is selfish to a degree. Those who say they aren't selfish are lying because no one can be generous 24-7. There comes a time where you must put yourself first because if you aren't at your best, you can't give anyone your best. No one wants leftovers because leftovers signal scraps. The original person got the good stuff and they left you with their scraps. I'm as thoughtful as the next person but I won't be used. If I get the idea I'm being played, THE END. Selfishness is only bad if you go around thinking the world revolves around you. You don't care if your actions harm others, all you're worried about is getting yours. You have the power to help someone but you choose not to because you don't see that person as worthy of your assistance. Selfishness can be bad if you don't help someone in need. No one has gotten where they're at on their own. I'm selfish (make no apologies) when need be. I want to give the best to someone and if I need to save for myself, so be it. Otherwise, I'm of no use to myself or someone else who is dependent on me to be at the top of my game. What's funny is people get upset when you cut off the gift because you saw they were using you. That's their problem, not yours. Allowing yourself to be used is not the move. It's when you've been used long enough that you decide to be selfish and not care about anything/anyone around you. That's understandable but at the same time, there are genuine people that really need help so to turn your back on them is foul. Everyone is not above being selfish because when it comes down to you or another person, 9 times out of 10 you will do what's best for you and yours.

My Vision

Seems like yesterday I've just debuted The Chill Zone. Since the website's existence, it has grown rapidly. 2308 views and counting. I was supposed to debut this website in June but a good friend suggested I get it up faster and I listened. Since my website has been up, over 2300 people & counting have viewed my website. I'm not going to break that number down but best believe I average double-digit page views daily. My blog website is my way of discussing life from my perspective: what I've seen, been through, situations my loved ones have been through. I also discuss subjects I'm passionate about and as time goes on, I'll start discussing issues that hit home for many people as well as myself. I want to take my talent as far as possible. I stumbled upon blogtalkradio.com and I'm extending my blogging into the blog talk radio. Having my own blog radio show, I reach a wider audience and people put a voice with my writing; it's a win-win for everyone (myself included). The money will be a by-product of my passion for blogging. My following is pretty strong as evidenced by my page views. I'm working on a way to increase my comments because I want to be on all cylinders: Lots of page views, engaging dialogue with respondents, etc. When I was on MySpace, I used to write everyday. Sometimes, I would write twice a day if I had a lot to say. For the past couple weeks, I've written 5 days because I've had much to say on various issues so that's going to continue. I feel like 4 days isn't enough so that's why I give my viewers 5 days of commentary. Periodically, I'll solicit topic suggestions on facebook so I can have something to speak on because the best writers experience writer's block. Even the best writers go through a drought where they struggle to find content. I don't want that to happen so periodically I'll solicit topic suggestions. Also I'll do a series on various issues as well so I can get to the root of why people do what they do and so on. I'm excited about my vision and look forward to how far God's guiding my talent. I've been writing long before I started school and that talent was evident in how I did well on English essay exams. When you have a talent, it shines through in all areas of life. My inspiration for blog commentary is the world around me and my experiences because if someone can be inspired by what I've seen, that makes writing worth it.

Beauty Vs. Money

A reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan to a pretty girl seeking a rich husband

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here.

I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above.

You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married?

I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.

If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I've met a few girls who don't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.

4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

Ms. Pretty

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan:

Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.

My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here.

From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.

Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money" : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year.
Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position".
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased".
Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.

signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO
 

This was so good I HAD to post. This should serve as notice to all golddiggers that looks won't cut it. She may be pretty but as stated in this letter, she won't stay that way. This is what I don't like about these kinds of women; they use their looks to weasel their way into a man's life and think that's all she needs to keep her. A real man like the JP Morgan CEO saw right through her and told her like it was. It may have been a little harsh but this woman needed to be brought down to Level 1. I respect this woman's honesty in admitting she's checking for rich guys, but like the CEO of JP Morgan stated, she would be a liability rather than an asset. This woman needs to get her priorities in order because no rich man with sound morals would get involved with her. Why should he? Most wealthy people got that way by making wise financial decisions and they're not going to let a golddigger bleed them dry. Wealthy people prefer relationships with those of equal financial status.

An Argument Is NOT A Conversation

Arguments and conversations are two different things. An argument is a heated debate whose sole focus is for one person to prove they are right. Arguments usually never get settled because both parties are trying to voice their side of the story. Throw in name-calling, cheap shots and you have yourself a knock-down drag out affair. A conversation is general dialogue between two people. Conversations can turn into arguments depending on the level of passion a man and woman have for the subject. Women seem to think that arguments are healthy; why that is I don't know. Women are used to dealing with their feelings & emotions so of course it's nothing for them to get into verbal altercations. Men don't like confrontation or arguments (for the most part) so a man will always choose the path of least resistance. If a man meets a combative woman, he exits stage left. Why would any man want a combative woman? That's silly. A man's peace of mind is precious and he shouldn't let anything/anyone come between that. Women feel that arguments are "HEALTHY" because it shows you care enough to tackle the tough issues. You can deal with tough issues in a rational manner without flying off the handle. It's when the discussion turns into screaming & hollering, cursing & throwing things that causes the man to walk out. A man is more likely to WANT to deal with issues if his woman presents them in a respectful manner, but if you bring him attitude, he will ignore you and rightfully so. A woman cannot talk crazy to her man and expect him to listen to her. I know for me, I'll let my woman know off top if she expects to get anywhere with me, she will talk to me like she has sense or I will ignore her. What I look like letting my woman talk crazy to me? Won't happen on my watch. Even if I'm wrong, I don't respond to attitude. All you have to say is "Richard, I didn't appreciate your comment or action." See how respectful that approach was? No belligerence involved. Let's be clear, arguments are healthy if they lead to resolution. Arguments ARE NOT healthy if both people refuse to hear each other's side and come to a mutual understanding. This goes for men & women: If you meet someone who's combative, it doesn't matter if everything else is in order, don't proceed further because that combativeness will be the downfall of your relationship.