An Argument Is NOT A Conversation

Arguments and conversations are two different things. An argument is a heated debate whose sole focus is for one person to prove they are right. Arguments usually never get settled because both parties are trying to voice their side of the story. Throw in name-calling, cheap shots and you have yourself a knock-down drag out affair. A conversation is general dialogue between two people. Conversations can turn into arguments depending on the level of passion a man and woman have for the subject. Women seem to think that arguments are healthy; why that is I don't know. Women are used to dealing with their feelings & emotions so of course it's nothing for them to get into verbal altercations. Men don't like confrontation or arguments (for the most part) so a man will always choose the path of least resistance. If a man meets a combative woman, he exits stage left. Why would any man want a combative woman? That's silly. A man's peace of mind is precious and he shouldn't let anything/anyone come between that. Women feel that arguments are "HEALTHY" because it shows you care enough to tackle the tough issues. You can deal with tough issues in a rational manner without flying off the handle. It's when the discussion turns into screaming & hollering, cursing & throwing things that causes the man to walk out. A man is more likely to WANT to deal with issues if his woman presents them in a respectful manner, but if you bring him attitude, he will ignore you and rightfully so. A woman cannot talk crazy to her man and expect him to listen to her. I know for me, I'll let my woman know off top if she expects to get anywhere with me, she will talk to me like she has sense or I will ignore her. What I look like letting my woman talk crazy to me? Won't happen on my watch. Even if I'm wrong, I don't respond to attitude. All you have to say is "Richard, I didn't appreciate your comment or action." See how respectful that approach was? No belligerence involved. Let's be clear, arguments are healthy if they lead to resolution. Arguments ARE NOT healthy if both people refuse to hear each other's side and come to a mutual understanding. This goes for men & women: If you meet someone who's combative, it doesn't matter if everything else is in order, don't proceed further because that combativeness will be the downfall of your relationship.