Provision

One of my FB friends asked this on his page, but it's a good subject to write about. From a man's POV, it depends on whether the father is active in his boys' lives. If the father's active, he should be schooling his sons on the 3 P's: Provision, Protection & Profession. Since the question asked deals with provision, that's what I'll speak on, so here goes. If a man's father is showing his son what manhood is about, the boy will grow up knowing how to provide for his future spouse because that's what he saw his father doing. If a boy has no blueprint to manhood & he meets a solid woman, he may have a problem providing for his wife unless he suddenly "gets it." Times are different. Back then, men could afford to be sole breadwinners because goods & services were cheap, so there was no need for the wife to work. Now, it's almost impossible for a household to survive on one income unless the couple is frugal. I think a lot of men have a problem with paying 100% of the bills because of fear: Fear that his wife will take advantage of that, and it's a valid reason. No man or woman wants to feel used & there are some spouses that take each other for granted, like it's expected of them to do this, that and the third. If we're honest, one spouse does all the providing and the other spouse contributes nothing. God forbid something happens to the sole provider, and then what? Can the other spouse step in? I have no problem paying 100% of the bills, but I will be making all....ALL decisions, just saying.

I think if a man was raised with old-school values, he'll have no problem being the main breadwinner. In fact, he would be honored to finish the job his wife's father started.