Head Of House: Do Finances Play/Should they play a part?

If a man's the head of house, he's the HEAD. That means he's the leader financially, spiritually, emotionally, etc. I will never comprehend how a man can call himself the head of the house and his woman makes more than him. Finances play a part in who's head of house, whether people like it or not. Money equals power. Whoever makes more, usually has more say-so in purchases and overall operations of the home. Finances are one of the top causes for divorce, and the minute a married couple has a fight, one of them (we know who) is quick to throw out how much more they make. Even if a woman does make more than her husband, she should respect his authority in the home. If he's a responsible decision maker, and considers the family before he makes the final decision, then in my book, he's still the head. No matter how good a woman is, some men will always be insecure about their lady making more than him. That shouldn't be, but it's true. If a (wo)man is quick to throw up in their mate's face how (s)he makes more, they were waiting for a reason, and the argument is the perfect time to go for the jugular.

Scenario: I make 100k a year, my wife makes 40k... i'm paying the bills and managing the household off of those funds.. She respects my decision making on the purchases and how I'm running the house. After 5 years, I lose my job because of budget cuts; she has been promoted and now makes 80k.... I'm getting unemployment. I'm still the same responsible decision maker I was 5 years ago, but now her job is bringing in the most money. Because I was making good decisions and had the respect of my family then, doesn't make me lose my credentials because she is making 80k, I will continue to make the same decisions, but my money won't be there because I lost my job. A loss of income doesn't make you lose your place in your household. As long as I have a history of responsible decision making, then I would be ok with my woman making more than me, while I still lead responsibly. I would do everything in my power, plus more, to get back on my feet. I couldn't be ok with my woman shouldering the financial load of the family. What if something happens to her to where she can't work?