I often hear people say, "I gave my all". Did you really give your all?
According to whose standards?
Some people seem to think that the "one size fits all" rule applies in relationships.
We are all different beings. What you did to make your past lover happy may not make your current or future lover happy.
For example. Your old lover may have highly valued you buying them nice things (gifts),... taking them to nice restaurants or being there when they call you (acts of service), but your new lover may not. They may value you giving them compliments or words of encouragement (words of affirmation), your physical touch (intimacy) or spending quality time doing nothing more than just talking.
As such, instead of saying "Nothing that I do makes them happy",
Learn what makes them happy by putting more emphasis on what they SAY makes them happy or by observing their level of satisfaction when you do certain things.
According to whose standards?
Some people seem to think that the "one size fits all" rule applies in relationships.
We are all different beings. What you did to make your past lover happy may not make your current or future lover happy.
For example. Your old lover may have highly valued you buying them nice things (gifts),... taking them to nice restaurants or being there when they call you (acts of service), but your new lover may not. They may value you giving them compliments or words of encouragement (words of affirmation), your physical touch (intimacy) or spending quality time doing nothing more than just talking.
As such, instead of saying "Nothing that I do makes them happy",
Learn what makes them happy by putting more emphasis on what they SAY makes them happy or by observing their level of satisfaction when you do certain things.
Then you are justified in saying, "I gave my all".
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