What Happened?

What happened between, "You're so awesome", "Princess you're everything I've prayed for", "Honey you're everything I've always wanted and more", "Sweetheart, I think about you all day", "I pray for you everyday", "When I get up in the morning, you're the first person that's on my mind", "I love you more than you' ll ever know", "Baby, you mean the world to me" that lead to you and that person not speaking anymore or to, "I hate you", "I wish we never met", "You make me sick", "I never want to see you again", "Don't call me again". I mean, how does a person come from being everything you've always wanted to being everything that you never wanted?

 

My Answer: Life happened. The person put their best foot forward and it backfired. While you should present the best version of yourself, keep it real. Let someone know pisses you off, because they won't be caught off guard when you're at your worst. If someone can't handle you at your worst, keep it moving. You have nothing to be ashamed of by showing the bad side of who you are. We all have our not-so-good areas about ourselves. It's funny how representatives are the first one to show up. What is a representative? In this instance, a representative shows up in place of the person to put in a good light. After the representative has shown up, the real person is left in all their flaws. It's important to not be fooled by the representative. Allow the person to get to know the real you and vice versa.

I'm all for putting your best foot forward, but many people value honesty in their mate. They want their (wo)man to keep it real as much as possible. Let them know your good and bad side, and the right person will respect that. Some people want to see no wrong in their spouse, so they want a cookie-cutter, perfect version of their mate. There are people who respond to that, and that's fine; to each their own. The interesting part about this story is that it's exactly how relationships start: Baby you're the greatest turns into I want a divorce. People rush into relationships and become blinded by the person's true colors. Once (s)he shows their true colors, you're stuck trying to figure out how to respond. This wouldn't have happened if both parties were honest from the start. Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to relationships.

Allow people to show you who they are, don't get caught up in the representative. When people allow themselves to fall in love with the representative, they may not like what they eventually discover.