When you ask someone out on a date, and you don't want your pockets to suffer, you can't go wrong with a $2 for $20 at Applebee's. Chili's has a similar deal, so whatever place is your preference, enjoy yourself. Best of all, many men wouldn't mind coming out of pocket for a woman with this kind of special. If someone has a problem with this, they're not the one. You share an appetizer, and get two full entrees all for $20. If my lady and I are going out one evening to dinner & a movie, I'd take advantage of this deal. Nobody has time to spent ridiculous amounts of money on dinner & a movie. I'm very frugal with my finances, because I just can't see going to a 5 star restaurant and paying $100 or so on dinner. It's not like you get a generous portion of food. If you do dinner & a movie, you're going to spend more than $20, I'm just saying. The cost increases if you live in a major city (Chicago, New York, Los Angeles, Miami, Dallas, Houston, etc.). I do notice a difference in big-city women and women from medium-sized cities. Big-City women have more expensive tastes, and they expect a man to drop stacks for them even though she may not see herself with him long-term. A man and woman live in Chicago, and he asks her out on a date. The man & woman are both investment bankers at a major finance firm in Chicago. He asks her on a date, and she agrees. They both are making bank, so money isn't a thing. The guy is very frugal with his finances, and doesn't see a need to have expensive taste. The only expensive thing he owns is his 2014 Infiniti that he paid for in cash. On date night, the man & woman introduce themselves and they go to Applebee's for a 2 for $20 special. The woman isn't pleased because she thought he was taking her someplace nice. Because he asked her on a date, he had power to choose where they went for dinner. Besides, he's paying so I don't know what her deal is. They're having good conversation, and she starts loosening up. After dinner, he leaves the tip and they're on their way. The moral of this message is this: No date should cost more than $20, and if it does...offer to go dutch.
Lol, are you serious?!?! Okay, first let me say this...there is nothing wrong with going to Applebees.....if both people agree. Some women may not happen to like Applebees or restaurants such as this. Being a person who has tried a variety of cuisine, I know that there are so many delectable dining choices that are budget friendly to expensive. More than the cost, you have to be willing to broaden your horizons and experiences. If you are willing to do so, you may be able to dine as inexpensively but more impressively, especially in a major city. If frugality is your main concern, it would be best if you date a woman who shares your frugal ways. Also, it makes a difference if it is a lunch date or a dinner date. A woman is not necessarily wrong because she would prefer a more upscale dining experience. Being a financially savvy man who has good money management skills is attractive. Being a cheapskate is not. Why do some men spend so much money on trying to present a high profile image in a car? These men ride around in an expensive car, in the quest to attract certain types of women, but yet complain when these certain types of women expect you to spend a lot of money on them. You can't have champagne taste on a beer budget. In my opinion, a man who is really concerned about his finances, who is not wealthy, does not purchase a brand new 2014 Infiniti, paid cash or not. He buys a low mileage 2010-2012 Infiniti, or better yet, a Honda and keeps it moving. If a man treats a woman so selfishly on a date, this is only a sign of how he will treat her in a relationship. The point is, I'm not saying you have to go pop bottles and make it rain on a date. But when you go out of your way to be cheap, that says you aren't willing to make any investment in that person. How can men save money? Stop asking any woman with a big butt and a smile on a date. Save your dates for women you find truly worthy of getting to know beyond getting to the cookie jar.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on this @ violetessence. Probably the best thing to do before you go on a "official first date" is to also have a few mini dates, like coffee, the beach, museum, park, etc., so you can not only break the ice but get a feel if this person may be the one you can be serious about. Somewhere along the way, the beauty of courting has been lost in translation and it seems that more people in general are more in a rush to get into the bed and "get theirs" than get to slowly know each other. We need to learn and appreciate more of the inner beauty and character of a person as much as we appreciate the outer appearance as well. The bank doesn't have to be broken, but if one is serious about settling down, they shouldn't be afraid to make an investment as well. If people would take their time to know each other, it's much easier to weed out the sex fiends and the gold diggers. I appreciate a frugal man as well and I also agree the more research, experience and imagination he has, that makes for a better well-rounded individual.
DeleteVioletEssence-Great Response! I do agree that men need to seek women who have similar outlooks on finances. The issue is frugal men who seek out women who have expensive tastes, then when she expects him to come out of pocket, he gets upset. Well...you should've known what she was about. I don't know why some men floss for a woman's approval. Most times, she's looking for a free meal at his expense.
DeleteAnonymous-Like your response as well. It's too soon to spend money on someone you may not be interested in. Feel each other out before you drop stacks. If I'm getting to know a woman, we're going to start off as friends first. During the friend stage, I'm evaluating her (and she evaluates me) to see if she'd be good for me long-term. Most people rush into relationships without getting to know a person.