How can some people know everything about their partner in 3 months? THEY CAN'T. Getting to know someone takes a lifetime because you're discovering new information about them. They should know some of your likes/dislikes, what makes you smile, and some of what makes you tick. They should know your belief system, they should know how many siblings you have, and a little about your childhood. They should know the kinds of movies you like; just things your friends would know. It depends on if you believe in being physically intimate within the first 3 months of dating...if you do, they should know some of what pleases you. These are the basics of getting to know someone. Unless someone's an open book, they're not going to tell you their life story. Why would they? They don't know you like that (and vice versa). People have no discretion in what they reveal about themselves to others. Some things you should keep under lock & key, because they can and will be used against you. If I'm getting to know a woman, she's getting the basics of me: My name, age, occupation, hobbies. As I invest time with her, we share private details of our lives. I'm not expecting a woman to be so open with me off top. In fact, I would frown upon anyone who reveals such personal information to a complete stranger. I was taught to keep my guard up at all times, because I never know if that person will use my information against me. In the relationship realm, women expect men to know everything about them. It's not possible for a man to know his woman inside & out, because women change like chameleons: They're always showing new sides of themselves regularly, and unless a man asks the right questions, he will never understand his woman. If a man wants to know his woman, observe. Observe her in her world: How she reacts to situations, what makes her upset, how she views the world, etc. Observation in one's natural environment can tell far more about them than asking the right set of questions ever could.
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