Repost From A Friend: Between listening to my Christian program, hearing people share their stories, etc., I always hear about someone that put their trust in another person and end up with nothing. How does this happen? I can never surrender my all, just not happening. And certainly not giving up my money and trusting another person with my wellbeing and survival. NEVER.
My View: Cold feet is a term used to describe the nervousness couples feel when they're about to get married. So many thoughts run through their mind, from not being a good wife/husband to being a perfect parent. Those feelings are normal because it shows some people take marriage seriously. You're making vows to each other, and to God to hold each other down through the good, the bad, and the ugly. You don't know someone until you see them at their worst. Anybody who has followed Real Housewives of Atlanta knows what I'm talking about. Porsha Stewart was married to former pro football player Kordell Stewart. They're in the middle of a nasty divorce, and on a recent Atlanta Housewives episode, Kordell packed Porsha's things and sent them to her mother's home. Kordell must've been really upset with Porsha for him to do what he did. Honestly, I didn't see Porsha and Kordell working out anyway because Kordell was a little controlling. Porsha had to get permission from him to go spend time with her friends, he gave her a monthly stipend, etc. I guess Porsha was so desperate for a man that she didn't take time to get to know Kordell. Porsha was a doormat, and Kordell capitalized on that. What I'm saying is this: When you're meeting someone for the first time, they will paint themselves in a good light. Why wouldn't (s)he? Their goal is to attract someone they can spend their life with. If you're upfront about your faults, that can turn some people off because although no one's perfect, people do want to know your good qualities. As time goes on, you share your flaws/faults with the other person. After sharing, it's on them to figure out the next step. When you marry a person, you're stepping out on faith. You're trusting that you made the right decision with God's guidance. You're entrusting your wellbeing to someone else, to care for you like your parents have. It takes a lot to trust someone with your heart, and believe that they will take good care of it. In today's world, trust is uncertain because you don't know if a person's an opportunist; looking to marry you for what you can do for them. Opportunists do exist; they come into your life to use you for their benefit, and leave. They got what they wanted, and have no more use for you. People used to stay together for 50+ years (those couples exist, but they're rare), now you have couples getting divorces after 1 year or even a few months. The above Repost From A Friend proves that marriage isn't for everyone, and it's not. Some people don't want the headaches that come with marriage.
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