In a perfect world, there would be no need for pre-nups. Men & Women would be together forever. Because we live in a fallen world, you have to prepare for the worst. Divorce is almost guaranteed for any married couple. Why do I say guaranteed? Because you can get married with the best intentions, and life happens. Infidelity, abuse, financial issues are all top reasons for marriages to end in divorce. Pre-nups serve to protect a couple. In layman's terms, you leave with what you came. Should I get married, best believe I'm getting a pre-nup. I'm no fool; I have to look out for myself because there's no guarantee my woman will have my best interest (she should do the same). Some people get upset when their spouse wants a prenuptial agreement. Let me get this straight: Someone doesn't want their spouse to get half of what they've worked for prior to marriage, and because they want to protect themselves, you're upset. Their reaction should show you made the right decision. Regardless of whether my spouse gets upset or not, a prenuptial agreement is in order. Such agreement protects both men & women in the event of divorce. Yes, you should have faith in your marriage to weather the storms, but that's not the case. Marriages today aren't like they were back in the day. The older generation understood marriage a lot better than today's generation. Back in our parents & grandparents day, if something was broke, it was fixed. Today's couples have no perseverance. People want the sunshine without the rain. The first sign of trouble, I want a divorce. I'm thinking to myself "Why get married if you're going to duck out at the first sign of trouble? You're wasting your time as well as your spouse's" Back in the day, pre-nups were unheard of because women didn't have the options they have now. Back in the 50's and 60's, couples were determined to make it work. When I read about couples being married 60+ years, I'm amazed because in today's world, you're lucky to be married 10 years. A Facebook friend posted about pre-nups on her page and I commented with "Marriage should be approached like war. In war, there are casualties." Divorce, abuse, infidelity are casualties that can lead to the destruction of a marriage.
The truth hurts. Men and women need to be diligent and do their homework when choosing a mate. They need to look deep before they leap. I understand the power of attraction and being attracted to your significant other, but in the end a person's character and actions should trump the exterior. Good post!
ReplyDeleteAmen. Most people look at the exterior rather than the interior. Your character is what makes you beautiful.
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