Called To Singleness

 

Genesis 2:18 reads, "It's not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him." I think that's true, for the most part. There's nothing like meeting someone who has your back through the good & bad, someone you can open up to & vice versa. What about single people who DON'T want marriage? I believe God blesses single people the same as he does with marrieds, but there's a special blessing attached to marriage. To paraphrase the Bible, it states "A man finds a good thing, when he finds a wife. The Lord showers him with favor" We all want God's favor, and if meeting the right (wo)man is the way to get it, so be it. I truly feel that depending on the level of your calling, marriage could be a hindrance. There will be times where you must devote more to your destiny, than your spouse. For example, look at President Obama: He's got a family, and he's the commander-in-chief of the USA. Taking care of a family is tough enough, but when you're responsible for running a country, that's another list of challenges; you have to balance the best interests of the country, and those who supported you in the election. I look at Michelle Obama, and from what I see, she has no issue with standing by her husband. Wherever he goes, she's right there with him with their daughters. Even better, Michelle has her own agenda independent of her husband Barack, so it's not like she's stuck under President Obama 24-7. It takes a supportive spouse to understand that it's required to spend a little more time on your calling, than with them. Long before (s)he came on the scene, you had a vision of where you wanted to be in 5 years. When you meet someone that has your back, who WANTS you to reach your destiny, they're a keeper. They understand that you may have to sacrifice time with him/her in order to get where you want to go. Being in the military is another one: You're away from your family up to a year or more. You don't know when you'll see your family again, because of being deployed at a moment's notice. It's said that military personnel have the highest divorce rate, based on the continual absence of one or both spouses. Missing out on your child(ren)'s important milestones: First words, school activities, graduation, etc. Family is important to some people, and they seek out a likeminded spouse. The idea of being away for an extended period of time doesn't cross their mind. Some people understand the meaning of spending time with your (wo)man. Getting to know them on an intimate level. You can't do that if you're not there to invest time with him/her. The greater your destiny, the less likelihood of marriage appearing on the radar.