Confused: By Lotus (How To Be A Woman)

 

How to Be a Woman

August 28 via mobile

CONFUSED

Ladies,

Don't blame him because you confuse no good men with quality men and jokers with Kings and peons with men of nobility.
Don't blame him because you confuse simps with strong men and little boys with grown men.
Don't blame him because you confuse disrespect with reverence and sex with love and contempt with admiration.
Because neglect is not concern, indifference is not compassion and disregard is not respect.
You must take responsibility for your choices. You will never be able to identify the exceptional if you can't even recognize the inferior. Confusion is for commoners. Clarification is for Queens.

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Keep Pressing In: By Tanya Ware

 

In Scripture, there was a lady who had been sick with a bleeding disorder for twelve years. She went to the best doctors, received the finest treatment, but her health continued to decline. One day, she got word that Jesus was coming through her town. When she heard that, something came alive on the inside. She had so much coming against her, but she didn’t focus on that; she knew it was her time for healing. Instead of giving up, she fought her way through the crowds and touched the edge of Jesus’ robe. When she did, immediately she was made whole.
 I wonder how many other people were there like her in that same type of situation. They were sick. They were discouraged. They had trouble. But they just watched Jesus pass by. They let excuses keep them from their miracle. Friend, don’t let that be you. Don’t let your circumstances keep you from reaching out to Jesus. It doesn’t matter what’s happened in your past, just keep moving forward. God has destiny moments in store for you. Keep pressing in, keep believing, keep praying and, like this woman, reach out to Him. Know that He is faithful, and He will meet your faith with His power.

Men Could Care Less: By Lotus

 

How to Be a Woman

Ladies,

Most men really don't care how many degrees you have. It does make you valuable to your employer, not as much to your man. If you don't know your role and can't play your position, he couldn't care less. If you're constantly throwing up your degrees in the face of every man you meet, is there any wonder you're single? If submission is brought up, there are women that love to counter and call it slavery. Yet, they have no problem being a "slave" to that career but can't submit to their man. If you are lacking the necessary prowess to be a good mother and wife, how valuable are you in your marriage and/or relationship? Men are interested in what kind of partner you will be. They want to know if you are a nurturing woman capable of embracing your role as the first teacher of the children and capable of properly caring for them. They are interested in knowing if you can take a house and make it into a home. And they need to understand that you can feed their soul with love and nourish their body with a meal. For some, an appraisal is long overdue, because you may not be as valuable as you think you are. The "depreciated value" just might shock you.

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My $.02: It's one thing to be proud of your education, but to rub it in a man's face is lame. Some women have a Master's Degree, but they can't cook. They have a Ph.D in Bioscience, but they don't know what it takes to keep a man. Where they do that at?

Janet Jackson-What Have You Done For Me Lately?

 

Nojma Reflects

20 hours ago

 

So many of us as women sound like that classic Janet Jackson joint "What have you done for me lately?".....when the question can be asked what have we as Black Women done for the Black Man LATELY?

When was the last time we showed him support and encouragement?

When was the last time you even OPENED your MOUTH to speak to one as he passed by?

When was the last time the man in your life could see that you love him through your ACTIONS; not from what you profess with your mouth?

When was the last time you asked a Black Man his dreams, and goals, and was prepared to bring them into fruition?

When was the last time you laced your voice with caring instead of contempt?

When was the last time the man in your life ate a meal that didn't come out of a box?

Here is how reciprocity works....whatever you WANT....you must be first willing to GIVE.

And for all those women that say I promote doing "too much" for the Black Man...you will always

find your man "never doing enough" for you...because he doesn't have the MOTIVATION to do so.

 

The last sentence says it all: If a woman finds her man not doing enough for her, he lost his motivation. One can only guess why.



My Favorite Tweets

Don't people understand the concept of family anymore? Families putting each other on blast on national TV for fame/fortune. Makes no sense.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013

This goes against what I stand for as a Christian: It's the devil's world, and we just live in it.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013 

#ICanHonestlySay that America IS NOT a Christian nation. Look at the nonsense going on, and get back with me.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 25, 2013

A man must understand himself before he can understand a woman.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 24, 2013

The most important lesson a father can teach his daughter, is to never let a man call her the B-word for ANY reason.
— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 20, 2013

You can have an easy relationship if you select a likeminded person. You will have rough times, but you'll get through them faster.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 24, 2013

Some women are waiting on their Boaz, but they settle for Jo Jo with 5 kids, and no job. Epic Fail

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 21, 2013

Women want their man to open up, but she's not ready for what he has to say.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 22, 2013

There cannot be two chiefs in a relationship, for there will be conflict. Someone must be the chief, and the other person must be the indian

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 16, 2013

Every man who speaks to a woman isn't checking for her, so ladies stop with the attitude. Besides, it's not his fault you failed at life.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 16, 2013

Samson was tue biggest simp in the Bible. He allowed Delilah to seduce him into telling her the secret of his strength, and he was done for.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 18, 2013 

 There are saints, and snakes in church. Many times, the snakes outweigh the saints.— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 19, 2013

The most important lesson a father can teach his daughter, is to never let a man call her the B-word for ANY reason — Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 20, 2013

There's nothing open after dark but legs and Waffle House.

— Florida Made (@RichardMIATL) August 2, 2013

Stop Being Thirsty: By Trina Rogers

Stop looking so Thirsty. Stop looking so EASY. Stop looking so trashy and find some class about what you do. Let someone WANT YOU, instead of acting like you need them all the time. Let someone meet your standard instead of you lowering yours to meet theirs all the time. Don't allow your loneliness to make you think that every smile someone gives you means that they want you. Never let your thirst... cause your perception to mislabel someone's intention. Learn how to take a compliment without creating SOMETHING in your mind that doesn't exist. Every compliment someone gives you shouldn't make you fall in love with that person. Stop making yourself so available. There's nothing special about being easy access, so stop advertising yourself as wholesale when your value should be something that can't be bought. Everybody doesn't deserve you, so stop giving your heart, your body, your mind, to any and everybody. Just because they tell you the right things doesn't make them the right one. Just because the first date went right doesn't make them wifey/husband material. Stop searching for it, and let God bring it to you. Acting DESPERATE for attention is not attractive. Not respecting yourself for attention is not attractive. Begging to be noticed is not attractive. Insecure people do that. Insecure people want attention, secure people demand respect. Insecure people brag and show off, secure people are humble. Insecure people PRETEND to be perfect, secure people embrace their flaws. There's beauty in confidence, but confidence isn't about showing off what you got, it's more about being secure in what you lack. Thirsty people are addicted to attention and will do anything to get it. DON'T LET THAT BE YOU!!!!

GAME: By Lotus of How To Be A Woman

 

    This is too good NOT to share.

 

"GAME"

Ladies,

Some women have a negative connotation attached to the word "game." If a man is so-called "running game" on you, that's perceived as negative. The phrase "game recognizes game" can go either way. And, if someone is "lacing you with game" that's a good thing. Game is, simply put, the skill or knowledge you have or acquire in reference to dealing with the opposite sex. As far as I'm concerned, men as well as women need to have "game." As a matter of fact, women that don't have "game" many times end up with men that don't have any, otherwise known as simps. Simps are not quality men and simps are not leaders. Every male is not necessarily a man and every man is not necessarily a leader. A woman that doesn't have any "game" will not be able to identify a man that is lacking "game." If the man that you are getting to know or have recently began dating does not possess the attributes of a quality man, don't continue with the relationship. Charge him to the "game." This is the exact same philosophy that a man should use if he finds out that you are not a quality woman that doesn't know her role. Ladies, there's nothing wrong with "game" when used in the right way. Having "game" keeps you ahead of the "game" and may prevent you from being "charged to the game."

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Called To Singleness

 

Genesis 2:18 reads, "It's not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him." I think that's true, for the most part. There's nothing like meeting someone who has your back through the good & bad, someone you can open up to & vice versa. What about single people who DON'T want marriage? I believe God blesses single people the same as he does with marrieds, but there's a special blessing attached to marriage. To paraphrase the Bible, it states "A man finds a good thing, when he finds a wife. The Lord showers him with favor" We all want God's favor, and if meeting the right (wo)man is the way to get it, so be it. I truly feel that depending on the level of your calling, marriage could be a hindrance. There will be times where you must devote more to your destiny, than your spouse. For example, look at President Obama: He's got a family, and he's the commander-in-chief of the USA. Taking care of a family is tough enough, but when you're responsible for running a country, that's another list of challenges; you have to balance the best interests of the country, and those who supported you in the election. I look at Michelle Obama, and from what I see, she has no issue with standing by her husband. Wherever he goes, she's right there with him with their daughters. Even better, Michelle has her own agenda independent of her husband Barack, so it's not like she's stuck under President Obama 24-7. It takes a supportive spouse to understand that it's required to spend a little more time on your calling, than with them. Long before (s)he came on the scene, you had a vision of where you wanted to be in 5 years. When you meet someone that has your back, who WANTS you to reach your destiny, they're a keeper. They understand that you may have to sacrifice time with him/her in order to get where you want to go. Being in the military is another one: You're away from your family up to a year or more. You don't know when you'll see your family again, because of being deployed at a moment's notice. It's said that military personnel have the highest divorce rate, based on the continual absence of one or both spouses. Missing out on your child(ren)'s important milestones: First words, school activities, graduation, etc. Family is important to some people, and they seek out a likeminded spouse. The idea of being away for an extended period of time doesn't cross their mind. Some people understand the meaning of spending time with your (wo)man. Getting to know them on an intimate level. You can't do that if you're not there to invest time with him/her. The greater your destiny, the less likelihood of marriage appearing on the radar.

Check & Charge: By Nojma Reflects

Nojma Reflects

about an hour ago

I will never forget a conversation I had with a Sister, that had been a single parent all her life, who stated that she would always tell her son that he wouldn't be shyt. Now he has three baby mamas, lives with her and she helps him pay his child support, but she says he's like that because his father wasn't in his life.

I was like hold up, hold up, and hold up one more time. You, his MOTHER, the woman that bore him, his FIRST teacher, told him ALL his life that he wouldn't be shyt.....it basically became a mantra that you ingrained that in his head, so you predicted what his ain't shyt future would be, groomed him for his aint shyt future....but somehow, it's his FATHER'S fault? I don't know what I found more disturbing: The way she sacrificed her child in order to discount accountability, the level of denial that she displayed, or that the fact that she really felt she was innocent!

Yes an absent parent can make an impact, I can bear witness to that, but what about the impact that the PRESENT parent makes? This example among many others that I could write about is why I do what I do. Our arrogance, gross denial, the get out of accountability aka "victim card" that we automatically dispense whenever OUR WILLFUL actions are put on display, the various shields of deflection we use....I mean it's gotta end somewhere. It has to. Too many of our babies are suffering, being molded in bitter wombs, used as pawns, too many women using their wombs for retaliation, clearly dysfunction breeds dysfunction.

I get all these pleas for balance from women, but yall don't really want balance. I've been accused of being one sided when in actuality, you don't like that I show OUR dark side of the moon. You want some balance? Ok then. Since so many want me to talk about all the ain't shyt men, then it is only BALANCED if we talk about the aint shyt wombs that produced them. If we talk about the doggish men...then it's only BALANCED if we talk about the bitches that bred them, because every dog has a mother right? If you want me to talk about Brothers not marrying women but are sleeping with them then its only BALANCED if we discuss the women that don't MAKE marriage a requirement, but give men the BENEFITS of marriage.

Now how's that for "balance"?

 

 

*All I'm going to say is this: Sister Nojma just checked these deflective women, and charged them with the crime of deflection. Checked 'em and Charged Them.

I'll Go, If I Have To Go By Myself

 

The above link is from the old-school gospel group, The Canton Spirituals. The song is titled "Send Me, I'll Go". I like the lyrics I'll go, If I have to go by myself. When you think about it, sometimes that's what you have to do, go solo. When you're trying to get somewhere in life, and you want to take your loved ones with you, but they refuse to go, you have to forgo them, and go into God's destiny for yourself. When you decide to step out, you're not really going by yourself because God's got you. I think about this song a lot, and I'm at a place where I'm choosing to focus on myself. If others want to root for me and/or come along on my journey, good. If not, I'm still moving forward. As I move forward, the right people may (not) come along. When people see you moving forward into your destiny, that's when some people decide to wake up, and realize the calling of God on their lives. If you look at the biographies of some of society's influential people, in their early lives I'm sure they tried to get others on board with their vision. Some supported them, others did not. Those who didn't believe in him/her were left behind, as they should be. Those very same non-believers probably came back years later after (s)he made it, wanting to rejoice in their success. To use a basketball analogy: You wasn't with me shooting in the gym. Simply put, you weren't with me from Day 1. If those influential people listened to the doubters & haters, they wouldn't have got where they are today. Like the song lyrics state, "I'll go, If I have to go by myself." That's what they did; they went, and never looked back. Genesis 12:1, New International Version-The LORD had said to Abram, "Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father's family, and go to the land that I will show you. The above Bible verse shows how at times, God will call you to leave your loved ones behind to go into your destiny. Did Abram try to rally his loved ones around his vision? Probably. Did they try to talk him out of it? You Bet (everyone, family included, won't always agree with your vision). The important thing is that Abram was obedient to God, regardless of cost. In Closing, I say this: You will have to do what the song says and GO, even if you have to go by yourself.

Your Past Doesn't Define Your Future

The inspiration for this blog came from a sermon that Bishop Ray Willis preached on 8/12. He laid it down. In short, he stated that your past doesn't dictate your future. When I heard that message title, I knew it was something that Joel Osteen usually says, because I follow Joel Osteen and I like his style. Anyway, many times in life we allow our past to dictate our future, and that should not be. Some of the most influential people have had pasts (some good, others not so good). The difference between them and some regular people is that those big timers didn't let their past determine where they wanted to go. Sure, it may have been a tough battle to the top, but when (s)he made it, they can look back and say "I did that." Many people need to realize that their past is just THAT, their past. Each new day presents an opportunity to get it right. I know for me, I'm not going to let my past define my future because I've been through too much to give up now. As I sometimes say, I'm tempted to give up, but too stubborn to do so. Some people are used to losing in life that they don't know what to do when they finally start winning. All they've ever known was loss, so I can't expect them to know what winning feels like. I know for me, I will never get used to losing. If God allows me to win, then that's what I'm going to do. I don't want ANY regrets when I take my last breath. I want to be remembered as someone who came, saw, and conquered. I can't do that if I allow my past to dictate my future. I don't understand how someone can be SO CLOSE to breakthrough, and decide to quit. Their past tells them "Remember your failures? What makes you think you'll finally succeed?" Some people listen to the naysayers instead of what God says. If you're a child of God, then you automatically win. Anything less than that is uncivilized. If this applies to ANYONE, remember, you can do all things through Christ which strengthens you. Don't let your past dictate your future. I'm not, and neither should you.

It Never Fails

The following situation explains why men need to be careful about who they lay down with, because some of these women are downright foul. Read On:

Hello GFCAV (Grown Folks Conversation, Adult Version), I have a question----
My baby daddy just lost his job 2 months ago, now he can't pay me my child support. So every time he come to see our twin sons (who is 3) I charge him $1.00 per minute. Yep, that's right I sure do! And What?? This nigga gotta pay me to see his sons. If he want them overnight he gotta pay $75. He still be coming to see our boys, but not as often. I feel like he needs to be punished for losing his job and I want my money regardless. He call himself showing up at my door crying tears because he miss his sons, talkin about he putting in apps everday and please let him see his babies. Im like "oh well nigga, you either gonna pay up or miss out". I don't give a F**K about his relationship with my sons. My boys don't need no broke ass daddy. My new boyfriend will teach my babies to be real men, not some cryin ass punk. My question is this: How long should I wait before I report his ass for non-payment of child support. I need my damn loot!

 

My View: This story is all the ammunition I need NOT to lay down with a woman, because God forbid I'm in this situation, and I would hate to have to fight to see my children, based on unforeseen circumstances. Regardless of whether he lost his job or not, a father has the RIGHT to see his child(ren). For this woman to be so evil as to CHARGE him $1.00 per minute to see his children is dead wrong; I can't respect this, and no one with a brain would either. Getting punished for losing his job? She needs to be in a mental hospital, because something's obviously wrong with her. If the shoe was on the other foot, she would be begging for mercy (think Dwayne Wade's custody situation with his ex), and expect for him to cut her slack. Her new man lacks a spine because he's allowing this foolishness to continue. Call me crazy, but if I'm with a woman that won't let her child(ren)'s father spend time with his kid(s), I'm going to say something. Kids NEED their father in their lives, broke or not. Lack of proper guidance is why many boys end up dead or in prison, because they don't have a father to show them the way. I pray he doesn't knock her up, because she's going to do him the same way. This is what a few Facebookers had to say on this issue:

 

William Green Speechless,trash and poor excuse for a woman. Pimping out the boys and hurting the boys at the same time.She really has shit backwards and fucked up. Spending time with the boys is whats important,broke or not broke. You have many men spending the money,but NOT spending the time. Then wonder why their boys end up in prison or dead.No proper guidance. This so called new man of hers is worthless ass fuck to allow these type of actions to go on.Hopefully,he see her real character ans smart enough not to get her ass pregnant because she do him the same way.Dont blame it on not having a job.Just trifling! Damn!

 

Eletha Owens Excuse my French and rant, but this trifling, stupid B*TCH here is something else. I can see gold diggers like her a mile away...smh. This post shows her shows her true character. She only had those children because she saw money and meal tickets...smh. She could care less about what her ex is going through, how much he loves/misses his children, and how it pains him not to be able to provide for them the way he wants to. I'm sure there is a pro-bono legal agency out there that can help him fight for SOLE CUSTODY of his children because he is the one who should be raising them anyway. First of all, he needs to get DNA test to make sure those kids are his before he goes any further because she seems like a TRICK who will put a baby on the "highest bidder"...smh

 

Khrystle Nichole Oh wow! I hate when children are used as pawns in a dispute between parents. Ultimately she will be the one who the boys will grow to resent. While it can be frustrating to not have enough money to provide for your children, that shouldn't be taken out on the children or a man who is truly doing his best to provide for his children. I'm sure it's frustrating for him too. The funny thing is most of these women knew that man's financial status and earning potential before they laid down with him. He most likely has no more money than when she met him. But they seem to think that after they have babies with him that he will be able to miraculously make it rain. It's absurd. I think some of these women live in fantasyland.

 

Babette Glenn She ought to be charged a dime a second for ruining those boys lives. Their Dad, for whatever reason lost his job and she has the nerve to charge him to see his children and wants to put him up for child support. PEOPLE....PLEASE do not try this foolishness in your relationship with the mother of your children. You will be the one to get burned, just like she is. Her "new" boyfriend is soon to be her "old" one and there's no telling how many others she's going to run through before those boys turn 4.



Black People Are Toast

This is going to be the realest commentary I've written, but it has to be said. Looking at the state of the black community, I shake my head. From being locked up with impunity to content with mediocrity, it's safe to say that blacks are done. No matter how many strides blacks make in education and business, the overwhelming majority of statistics do not show blacks in a favorable light. A Riviera Beach man was jailed for raping a 12-year old boy in a field; he took him to a field and sexually assaulted him (the 12-year old was forced to give the older man oral sex). The reason was the thug had issue with the boy's older brother, so he (the offender) targeted the young boy as a way to get revenge. This is that ghetto mess I don't like: Street law dictates if you have beef with someone, you bring it directly to THEM. You don't go after the rival's family because they had nothing to do with it. Oh well, most street thugs feel if they can't get to you, they go after your loved ones. The more crimes I read involving some black people, the more disgusted I become. Post-Civil Rights era, on up to 1980, the black community was making moves. For example, Orange Mound. Orange Mound is a historic black neighborhood in Memphis, TN; the first black neighborhood built by and for blacks. It went downhill in the 80's and 90's, but back to my topic: After 1980, the black community took a nosedive. Went from doctors and lawyers to rappers and ratchets. Go on WSHH (WorldStar HipHop) and type in ghetto fights, twitter beef gone bad, and what's the common denominator? Black people. I'm NOT saying all blacks are up to no good, there are some blacks that were raised right, and are doing very well for themselves. Those blacks are what, 5-10%, 15% at the most? The other 85-95% bring the entire population down. Far be it for a black person to value his/her health, and they don't eat soul food (fried chicken, collard greens w/ hamhocks or hog jowls, mac & cheese, ribs, sweet tea, etc). Many blacks will call for their black card, because soul food is a staple in the black community and all blacks consume soul food. A black person that has a diverse culinary taste is assumed to be "white". Since when does expanding your horizons outside of soul food determine your race/ethnicity? I don't get that. Or, a black student who makes excellent grades is called a nerd by fellow black classmates. "You're acting white". Right, so because I strive for success I'm acting white? Gotcha, let me turn my black card in (insert sarcasm). There are more examples, but the gist is many blacks are content with living up to the stereotypes placed on them. Oh well, if never going to jail, striving for success and having good moral character makes me "white", I'll carry that proudly. It kills me to see the majority of blacks carrying on in nonsense like it's not wrong; then they complain about the white man holding them back. Smh. That is why black people are toast, with No Jam.

I Got Shhh On My Mind

 

Today's commentary is going to deal with the unemployment situation. I read a Facebook picture meme that stated "You Need Experience To Get Experience". Ok...and how is someone supposed to gain experience if they aren't given a shot? Someone can be qualified for a position & interview well, and still not get the job. "Seeking intern with 1-3 years experience in software development" Last I checked, internships were designed to give you EXPERIENCE which could lead to permanent full-time employment. The whole statement "You Need Experience To Get Experience" is malarky. Make it so bad, some unemployed people have given up looking for work, because they're tired of the games employers pay; call someone for an interview only to realize that HR already had someone else in mind. Well, if you already had someone in mind, why would you get a person's hopes up for nothing? That makes zero sense. It's foolishness like this that's the reason why many people are looking to full-time work-at-home jobs. Every now & then, I research internet income opportunities and I read testimonials of how regular people (some of which had corporate jobs) got tired of the corporate grind, and decided to get into working from home. These people are making much more working from home, than they did working full-time. Before you know it, there won't be a workforce because everyone went the work-from-home route. Simply put, employees are getting sick of corporate games: Companies expect loyalty from their employees, but lay them off in the same light. I could see laying off dead weight at your firm, because the slackers are there to collect a check. I can't understand laying off your most talented employees. Tell me what sense does it make to lay off your most skilled employees? NONE. I link this to sports: A coach keeps mediocre players, and trades his best players. A good coach keeps his best players, and works with the mediocre players so they too, can become skilled. The job market isn't like it used to be under President Clinton. When Clinton was in office, unemployment was at its lowest in decades; and the economy was prospering (that's another commentary for another time). You Need Experience To Get Experience is the dumbest statement I've ever heard. To Get Experience, You need to be hired first.

Arranged Marriage

The following was posed as a Question From A Friend, and deals with Arranged Marriages.

Question From A Friend: ARRANGED MARRIAGES! The more and more I think about it, I am a strong advocate of arranged marriages. Why? I want my daughters to marry into families that share the same godly values, share the same culture, religion, and language, and a similar socio-economic class. These identical factors would help make communication between the two individuals easier and help them understand their origins, carrying these values through generations. Although differences are necessary, when both individuals have a common core foundation in these areas, there would be more chances that the marriage would be successful and the risk of divorce would be lowered, creating a strong nuclear family. Yes, it is counter-cultural in our society, but certainly worthy of consideration. Would you consider this for your children? Why or why not?

 

My $.02: I've thought about arranged marriages, and I've come to a conclusion: Arranged Marriages are necessary. Why are arranged marriages necessary? Because it's hard to find someone who shares the same religion & culture, godly values, language and socio-economic class. Although differences are necessary, too much difference is bound to terminate the marriage because the couple has nothing in common. I come from a two-parent home (as do most people) and I think about those who come from divorced backgrounds. A woman that hasn't had a father in her life would have a tough time relating to her husband, because she wouldn't be able to understand how a man feels, and thinks. Being able to relate to your spouse is paramount to marital bliss. The same applies to men; Men who haven't had a mother in their life (either she's a deadbeat or passed early on in childhood) wouldn't understand women because he hasn't had anyone to teach him how women think & feel. It's no secret that two-parent households produce well-adjusted children, because those children are able to witness their parents interacting with each other; showing them how a loving couple behaves. Children who witness loving relations between parents are likely to emulate that in their own committed relationships with their spouses. Arranged marriages wouldn't be a bad idea, as divorce would almost be exterminated. When both individuals have a common core foundation, arranged marriages have a higher success rate because both man & woman would be on the same page. I would consider an arranged marriage for my child(ren), if I got to know my child(ren)'s mate, and both families were on the same page. Looking throughout the Bible, I realize that arranged marriages were the norm; there was no courting involved. Going further, arranged marriages can seem forced, because in a sense, a parent is picking their child's husband and/or wife. Let the child grow up to make up his/her mind as to who they want to marry. As long as parents raise their child(ren) under sound doctrine, then that child will make good choices in life. Looking at the divorce rate, it's safe to say that many people aren't making sound decisions in who they marry. If you've known someone since childhood, there's a big advantage of knowing them as a person because you two grew up together. That's where the arranged marriage concept comes from, growing up with someone of similar background & mindset.



Petty BS

Petty BS seems to be more prevalent than ever. Everybody getting in their feelings over trivial matters, not acting like they have sense, etc. For some people, being petty is a way of life. It's fine, because as long as I don't have to be around them, that stench won't rub off on me. If it's one thing I can't stand, is to see grown folks acting petty. I expect kids to act that way, because they don't know any better, but for adults to be on some childish mess is disgusting. I'm aware that there are teens that are more mature than these so-called adults, and that's sad (although it's good). For the most part, kids do what adults do. If kids see adults acting with good sense, they will emulate that; If kids see adults carrying on in ratchetland, guess what? They do the same. Adults cannot get upset about kids acting petty when 9 times out of 10, those adults taught them the ins and outs of pettiness. This is what constitutes Petty BS: Gossiping. Gossiping used to be confined to women, but MEN are engaging in gossiping. A man that talks about another person behind his/her back IS NOT a man. A man tells you what he thinks face to face; he has nothing to hide. Regardless of gender, gossiping is petty on both ends. If you can't stand behind what you say, why talk behind someone's back? You can talk crazy behind someone's back, but when word gets back to them, you get that Scooby Doo. Another example of Petty BS is frenemies. Frenemies are people who are friendly towards each other based on a beneficial relationship, but harbor resentment. Frenemies can't be trusted because you don't know where they stand; one minute they're cool with you, and the next they can't stand you. That's a good example of petty BS because some people don't have the guts to be straightforward. They would rather smile in your face, and plot on you behind your back. To me, that's petty & fake simultaneously. The older I get, the less tolerance I have for petty nonsense, from myself, and others. No Bueno.

Why Are You Single? By Trina Rogers

Trina BabyTee Rogers

Young and young-minded females have a few subconscious issues to resolve. Why are they single? Of the many answers I have been presented with, one response has never been stated with all honesty. I've heard the ones who say 'I want this type of man', 'he has to be able to handle a woman like me', 'there are no good men', 'they're all gay or married'. Typical deflection if you ask me. But what about this response: I need my life (heart, body, mind and soul) to be completely ready for when God sends him to me. Some women have requirements, expectations, demands and presumptions about what 'the man for them' should be, but the man has the right to want a certain type of woman as well. In the midst of all the chaos of the Good Black Man/Woman relationship, have these women really taken into account their attitude and conversation towards men? While they are speaking their mind, recalling past experiences they can't let go of, and placing blame for whatever reason, that one man is sitting on the sidelines watching their every move. Do they think that man likes what he sees? Do they think God will send them a man when they regularly talk and behave the way they do towards what He has created for them? If the old cliche' is true that Game recognize Game, they see the no-good men because they themselves are.

 

 

 

 

 



RichardISMS

1. What you value, goes into how you live your life.

2. During the course of getting to know someone, how they handle the word "no" speaks volumes about their character. Are they going to have a conniption just because they don't get their way?

3. You cannot be a leader without any followers.

4. Most people are great individuals until you make them mad, and all heck breaks loose. Your true character shows in rough times.

5. What you allow, is what will continue. For instance, if you allow someone to disrespect you and you don't check them, they will continue doing so.

6. Just because a man speaks truth about a woman, it doesn't mean he hates his mother or women. Some women need to stop that foolishness.

7. I used to think everyone was cut out for marriage, but now, not so much. Unrealistic expectations from men & women have contributed to this mindset.

8. Black Men & Women have a hard time finding quality mates, so why do some (wo)men try to make it seem like one gender is better off than another when it comes to searching for love? True, women far outnumber men, but quantity doesn't always equal quality.

9. 20-30 years from now, most people won't remember Drake, Lil Wayne, or Rick Ross.

10. There are girls, and there are women.

11. There are boys, and there are men.

12. If a man is truly interested in a woman, he will move heaven & earth to show it.

13. Much of life comes down to choice, take or trust.

14. People talk about Jesus Take The Wheel, but when Jesus takes the wheel, folks want to get back in the driver's seat.

15. Better watch those people you call your friends!

16. Loyalty is a lost art among people; everyone has their own agenda.

17. Riding solo isn't always a bad thing.

18. I remember when Atlanta and Miami cats used to beef heavy in the 90's, because the Boobie Boys took over Atlanta's dope scene

19. Home should be the one place you have peace. If you don't have peace in your own home, something's wrong.

20. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.