Follow The Leader: By Nojma Reflects

Ummm yeah...I'm not that bitch, your bitch, to my female friends even if we tight like glue, I can't be a bitch, even if you're playing. I'm not gonna be your side chick, your jump off, your throw back, your side piece, your mistress,your silly hoe, your side hoe, any type of hoe, I'm not gonna be a 1, 2, 3, or however many years girlfriend, I'm not gonna give you the access code to my womb "just because".....you want the benefits of a wife....then you have to WIFE me. I don't mean calling me your wifey, telling your homeboys ay yo this is wifey right here, if you want your future reproduced and secured through ME, then you're gonna officially make me your wife. I'm not bending nor compromising on that. In another words "I aint taking no shorts!". See how easy it is when you set requirements. I keep trying to tell you, there is NO ONE that can teach you how to respect me, love me and treat me LIKE ME.

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My View: I've gotten away from sharing Sister Nojma's Facebook messages, but this one was too good NOT to share. She's serving a wake-up call to men who would come at her sideways, and think they're being affectionate. If you're going to approach a woman, do it RIGHT or not at all. Too often, women give wife benefits to undeserving men, then want to get upset when he doesn't stay around. As much as I feel bad for these women who have been played by no-good men, I believe people do what one allows. Simply put, if a man disrespects a woman, she allowed it. No questions asked. I liked her perspective on being a wife. If you want wife benefits, make her your wife. I mean, you have couples checking in like husband & wife, washing each other's clothes, sexing each other, cooking for each other, doing everything a married couple does, EXCEPT that couple is unmarried. In today's world, that's called shacking up. Shacking up is not just co-habitation between an umarried couple, it can also mean unmarried couples who live together THAT give each other husband & wife benefits. In order for a woman to garner respect from her man, SHE has to show him how to respect her. If he's not willing to wife her, she needs to cancel his butt. The level of love and respect you have for yourself, is the level that will be given to you (man and/or woman). Some of these men do need to tighten up, calling women wifey when they aren't married to these women.