Tommy GOES IN on black men with this one. Many times, black men point the finger at black women, but forget for every finger they point, several are pointing back at them. It's easy to blame someone else for your shortcomings, harder to own up to them. Why? Because that's too much like right. It's too much for someone to admit "I take responsibility for this, that & the other" or "I contributed to this negative event". My thing, people don't want to appear weak; they don't want to be vulnerable, because that would mean admitting (s)he isn't perfect. You're not supposed to be vulnerable with the wrong people, I get that. There are nasty people that will use your information against you, so you have to use discretion in what you reveal. Many of our challenges, we bring on ourselves. It's no different with black men. If black men want to solve many of their dilemmas, all they need to do is the reverse. Simply put, flip the would-be dilemma into a positive event. See how easy that is? Nooooo, some black men deflect just as much, if not more so than women. YES I SAID IT! Black Men are guilty of deflection just like women are. The first time a man lays down with a woman, and she gets pregnant; the first thing he says is "That Baby isn't mine" or "She offered the cookies and I ate" Just because someone offers, that doesn't mean you have to accept. Looking at the state of black men, many of them have NO RIGHT to call themselves kings. Think about it: exterminating each other in record numbers, fill up prisons, less likely to graduate college, etc. Are those behaviors kingly? I THINK NOT. A King conducts himself in the highest fashion; he has very high moral standards, because others are looking up to him. So black men, if you're going to refer to yourself as king, make sure you act as such.
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