Richard, Why Are You Single?

Most of my friends & acquaintances are in relationships and doing alright for themselves; I'm proud of their accomplishments and reinforce that every chance I get because some of them have been through a lot to get where they are. The longer I've been alone, the more frequently I'm asked by my mom & dad, "Son, you don't have a girlfriend yet?" My response has always been "If it's meant to be, God will make it happen." It makes sense because even though the Bible says it's not good for man to be alone, he doesn't hold it against me if I choose not to get romantically involved. Besides, I've got goals to accomplish, stuff to do in life and a relationship is going to get in the way of my ambition. Some people think there's something wrong with you if you choose not to jump on the relationship train. Relationships are a lot of work, and not everyone is willing to work at a relationship. For me, I have to REALLY care about a woman to give her my all; that's something I don't take lightly. You give up your freedom & independence; you are entrusting your heart to another person believing they will do right by you and with all these failed relationships going around, I'm not risking that. For me, it's all or nothing. I need a guarantee that if I'm clicking up with a woman, it's going to work. She's right for me and I for her. To do this, I'm taking it slow. I'm a good man that's willing to give my goodness to the RIGHT woman (and she reciprocates), but at this point other things take precedence. I'm happy for everyone that has found their soulmate, but some people aren't cut out for a relationship. Depending on their ambition, whatever they're undertaking requires 100% focus and when you're focused on a dream, you can't be burdened by a relationship. Your spouse wants you to devote more time to them and your aspirations require full concentration if you want to get where you desire to be.