Who You Are vs. Who You Become

People say love me and accept me as I am. BUT what if what you are isn't what you could be? What if they want to love you up to your potential? Are you going to turn that down? Shouldn't a person love who you could be also? I think real love encompasses who you are now AND what you could be with changes that benefit everyone. Yes, a person should love you for who you are but if they see greatness in you, you would be cheating yourself and him/her but refusing to allow that person to love you. I understand loving somebody for who they are based on personality & core values but if you're like many people, you want someone that will help you grow into the person you're called to be. People want someone that will be an asset and not a liability. Being an asset involves pushing someone toward their destiny, being an asset is correcting your spouse in love because you care enough about their well-being to want the best for them and vice versa. If I'm with a woman, my desire is to be the best man I can be for myself and my woman. This can't happen if I refuse her correction. Even if many people never admit it, everyone wants a real man or woman on their team. Somebody that will admonish, yet continue showing them love as they evolve into the (wo)man they're supposed to be. If someone refuses to let you love them based on who they could become, you need to rid yourself of them for they showed you their true colors. They showed you they aren't committed to growth, even if it's for their benefit. Who wants someone like that? Not me and other likeminded folks. Growing up, our parents used to admonish us not only for wrongdoing but because they wanted the best for us. When you were little and your parents corrected you, you thought they were being mean but now that you're older, you see their wisdom. Your parents have been down the same road you're traveling so what's new to you isn't a surprise to them. I will cherish those in my life who love me enough to admonish me to my potential. By loving & accepting someone as they are up to their potential, you take pride in knowing they have evolved into the person they were meant to be. They have you to thank for it.