Relationship Expectations

When meeting someone for the first time, you're trying to get to know them. How far the relationship goes will depend on the couple's compatibility. A couple has to be compatible in ALL aspects in order for a relationship to work, nothing can be out of alignment. If a man has expectations for how he wants the relationship to go, it would behoove the woman to take notes so she can be the best for him and herself. In an ideal world, we would accept others as they are but that isn't true by a long shot. Let's be honest, nobody is willing to take someone as they are. It's said if a person shows you who they are, believe them. 9 times out of 10 that assessment is spot on because they are showing you their true colors right off the bat and it's on you if you can love them past their flaws. If not, don't waste your time and theirs by forcing a relationship to work because you're too busy trying to change him/her. You can't change a person, only they can change themselves by choice. I've never understood how somebody can get with a person and expect to mold them into their ideal man/woman. If that person has personality/character flaws that are deal breakers for you and you can't handle that, keep it moving. They're good for someone, just not you. The sooner people learn this, the better off they will be. It's good to want someone on your level and most people find someone that's right for them (as they should) but as time goes on, people change and sometimes for better or worse. What gets me is people who have these expectations for their mate but they have NOTHING to bring to the table themselves. How can you require the world of someone when you're not willing to offer the same in return? That's silly. Be the person you want to attract.