Embracing The Struggle

It's a given every man & woman wants someone on their level, there's nothing wrong with that. Would it be wrong for a man or woman to turn down their soulmate when they're trying to come up? Yes, we all want someone who has it together but there's something to be said for taking someone on while they are bettering themselves. You get to see them in action and give them a helping hand when they get discouraged. If I met a woman and I knew she was right for me, I would take her on while she's coming up because I could be her strength when she is weak. Once she makes it, I will get to share in her blessing because I was there when she had little and I will be there when she has much. I read a quote by Will Smith that said "If you were absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present for my success" It amazes me how some people want to take credit for another's blessing but they weren't around when (s)he was grinding day in & out to get where they want to be. You weren't there when at times they had to cry because setback after setback presented itself and they knew God wanted them to go this route but all of a sudden that person makes it and you're attracted to them. You get mad when he/she turns you down. You can uplift someone without having to struggle with them. The best way to uplift a person is to give them knowledge they can use to improve themselves, then once you see them progress maybe you can revisit a relationship with them. The problem with that is nobody's going to wait around for anyone to get themselves together. They either come into a relationship on point or not at all. It would be stupid to want to "carry" someone in a relationship. Nobody should have to carry ANYONE in relationships. This is why I plan on staying single for as long as possible because I want to be on point as much as possible so when Ms.Right comes into my life, we will be whole which makes us a power couple. Relationships are more successful when both people are on the same page. Being on the same page involves the man and woman being of one accord financially, spiritually and physically. If any one of those are out of alignment, the relationship may not last. It's disgusting to the DNA to look down on someone because of their occupation. So because a brother or sister works at McD's, they aren't relationship material? THAT'S FLAW. The most successful people were not born with a silver spoon, they have had humble beginnings. President Obama's FIRST job was an ice-cream scooper at Baskin Robbins in 1979. Women probably looked down on him back then and probably many of those same women are checking for him now. There are good women that will stand by a man and watch him come up; those are the good women a man is supposed to hold onto.