Just because a man or woman cheats...doesn't mean they don't love their spouse, right? You would think that to be the case but sadly some people feel otherwise. There are people that feel if their man or woman cheats, they still love them. I respect people's views but this doesn't make sense because love is about honoring and respecting your mate. If a man or woman loves their mate like they say, they wouldn't jeopardize the relationship. They consider how their mate would feel if they cheated. Trust is sacred in a relationship and once it's broken, it's hard to repair. The best thing to do is not put oneself in precarious situations. If you're in a tempting situation where you know you will cheat, GET OUT IMMEDIATELY. If one's home life isn't interrupted by a one-night stand, they're not leaving. I will never understand that logic but that's how some people think. Do people think that low of themselves where they will overlook cheating because they can't stand to be alone? Is that what true love is about? If so, I don't want that kind of love. I want the kind of love that is based on committment, TRUST and honesty. Without those components, your relationship is doomed. If you are willing to risk losing the one you love on a one-night stand, that love isn't strong like you say. Real love entails realizing what you have and staying true to that person. Yes, temptation will come but why settle for a burger and fries when you can have steak and potatoes? People take care of what they value. If you feel a cheating need, you care nothing for that person.
I can agree with that sentiment. Real true love encompasses loving that whole person and being responsible for their feelings. Love is not selfish but cheating is, so how can you really love a person and cheat on them? In some cases, people have carried on full fledged side relationships but still say they love their mate. This is something that i know I will have to lay on the line if I ever decide to try to date and have a relationship. I am very careful to not be in situations where temptation could come up and when you feel it coming on, there are methods of distraction. For most people, it is premeditated. The philanderer has thought about this person, they have gone out, met for lunches and dinners. It doesn't just happen.
ReplyDeleteExactly. But in their minds, they love him/her even though they have a side piece. You don't love your mate when you have someone on the side; that's crazy. Otherwise, why get into a relationship if you're not going to be faithful?
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