People say success is nothing without someone to share it with. Well therein lies the problem...You're with the person for their success but were nowhere to be found during the struggle. When a person finally gets their big break, everybody and their mama want to show love like they played a part in that person's success. I feel like this: If you weren't part of the struggle, you don't deserve to be part of the shine. Period. Case In Point and this happens far too often: A woman and man get together with the intent of building a life together. They're both goal oriented but the woman can't see past the man's current situation and assumes he'll always be content with mediocrity. Little does she realize that man is in the process of making a better life for himself, but she's too impatient to see that so she leaves him. He may or may not be hurt so he focuses on his goal(s). Years later, that same woman sees him doing well for himself and is checking for him now. He's not giving her the time of day just like she wasn't patient with him during the grind. He's justified in his response because if you can't support a person during the struggle, you don't deserve to celebrate their success. Success is in my future, but I don't think I want anyone to share it with because other than a few close friends and family, nobody had my back during the struggle so they don't deserve to celebrate in my prosperity. That's what got T.O. (Terrell Owens) in his current mess; he was taking care of TOO MANY people and didn't know how to say no. He had the wrong people in his corner when years earlier, many of those people were probably nowhere to be found but when T.O. started making millions playing pro ball, they started hanging around him. When you make it big, always...ALWAYS keep your team small because you don't know who's for you because you're doing well and who's for you because they really want to be in your life.
I co-sign fully.....Its the nature of humans to gravitate to what they think they can benefit from....Once the benefit is over, they vanish
ReplyDeleteThat's that craziness right there. These people oftentimes let you know upfront who they are when they see you doing well for yourself and latch onto you. Coattail riders get no love from me.
DeleteI totally understand this sentiment. I feel like I'm not worthy to be around the success if I wasn't there during the struggle unless I'm invited to be. The problem is that people are so opportunistic that you don't know who to trust half the time. When you do get there, you sometimes have to worry about the friends you did have back in the day becoming jealous and wanting a piece of a pie that they didn't earn. You are more than willing to help them get to their success but they want a piece of yours. Yes, I keep my team small. I would love to be very generous but that has to be balanced with no being a fool.
ReplyDeleteHumans have taken networking to a new level. Most people see others as a means to an end. Link up with someone successful and drop them later on because you already reached your destination. It's also not uncommon for lifelong friends to expect you to share your success with them, which is good to a degree but they should have their own ambitions so you can help them get to their success. No one likes a mooch.
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